How I feel right now...

[happypeppie]

The last little while I've had a desire I consider to be a bit unusual. I feel that I really want to be in a relationship and be with someone.... but I don't have anyone in mind. Sure, I've always wanted to be in a relationship... but I REALLY want to be in a relationship.

I told this to one of my friends and he said that this desire is not unusual. It's okay to want to be in a relationship. Perhaps it's better that I don't have anyone in mind because then when God brings someone to me I can treat her as a sister in Christ rather than a potiential girlfriend. That way is better in that there isn't the pressure to try to impress this person and in the process ignore your friends because she will already be one of your friends. After you've got to know each other then you can consider heading into a relationship if that's what God wants you to do.

But here's the way I'm looking at things: I'm not interested in any of the girls that I currently know. I'm planning to go to Columbia Bible College in January and I'm hoping to meet my future wife there. But that's almost six months away. I feel as if I can't wait that long. But I know God is all about patience. But I've never been in a real relationship with a girl where we were actually going out or anything. But I really want to be in a relationship. I just don't see it possible unless I meet a nice Christian girl from somewhere. I just feel frustrated, I guess. I want to be in a relationship, but God seems to be saying now is not the time.

What does everyone else have to say about this?

 

[songz777]

Hey young brov quote you: ""I feel as if I can't wait that long. But I know God is all about patience. "" Ive been waiting 19 yrs, God may want you to wait a bit longer to teach you patience. You are only 18 man you aint even begun to live life, let alone become emtionally mature, spitually mature to handle a relationsip. Focus on God fall in love with Him get to know Him, fill your life with Hi, get your career and life sorted out first. Learn to be happy with Him, and then He will sort you out the spouse thing. At 18yrs, you have hardly learnt the art of patience ) Take care john

 

[KeilCoppes]

At 18yrs, you have hardly learnt the art of patience )

There's definitely that about patience - it always seems to take time to learn!

The balance between not being anxious and looking is an important one. You will probably see more single women at college than you ever will in your life again. Don't be over-hasty, but don't pass up the opportunity either. In the meantime, you need to school your heart a bit to rest on the Lord, and work on preparing yourself for a serious relationship (in the word, in service, in responsibility, in doing what needs to be done). If you show up at school like a freight train, all the women will detect it and go anywhere else they can, and rightly so. Confident in yourself and the Lord and properly prepared is a much better place to be. :^)

 

[silwJC7]

Hey!

Don't feel bad for not being in a relationship. You're still young. Plenty of time ahead of you. Don't focus your attention on that, but ask God what He wants for you to do as a single person. We all know that God's timing is not our timing and if we dwell our thoughts on something like that--relationship--it only frustrates you. I'm 22 and never dated. Of course, I've thought about wanting to be with a special someone, but everytime I think about it--it depresses me. I know that special person is out there, but God is still teaching me a lot of things and using me in a lot of things. He is just preparing me for that day when He finally decide to bring in that person to my life. So, just hand on there.