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For who can resist his will?
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... "great show"?... um, nice mindless humor when nothing else is on maybe but not great....I probably don't even pause for it when flipping through the channels (and Betty White is still alive so she still cracks a good joke). I was in college when it first came out so didn't watch it much then either.
Maybe a couple or three years. I have known people who divorced and attributed part of that to marrying too soon, as opposed to dating for 2.5 years or whatever.Only a year together? How long do you think it takes to learn a person's character and decide if you love them enough to get married? I think a year to two years max is the best time to decide if you want to marry someone. Anything much less, and you still maybe be in love with an idea. Anything more and you really don't love them enough to marry them.
Yes....she is still the same age as his kids and they have lived different lives. My stepdad (after my mother & him got divorced) married a woman my age and only slightly older than my step-sisters. It totally creeps me out still.But if he didn't meet the woman until after she is an adult, is that really a problem?
It is a normal problem for parents who see their son or daughter grow up. Their children might remind them of what their husband or wife looked like at that age.
It is a normal problem for parents who see their son or daughter grow up. Their children might remind them of what their husband or wife looked like at that age.
Only a year together? How long do you think it takes to learn a person's character and decide if you love them enough to get married? I think a year to two years max is the best time to decide if you want to marry someone. Anything much less, and you still maybe be in love with an idea. Anything more and you really don't love them enough to marry them.
EWWWW! His daughters probably look more like his wife at that age.... and I don't want to even go there.
Just like kindergarteners are attracted to other kindergarteners and not seniors in high school or the other way around. Your tastes should age with you to some extent. If you really feel like you are a peer to someone 20 years younger than you are, I would wonder if you forgot to grow up and mature over the years.
or both...?Actually, when I see huge age differences the first thing that runs through my mind is that someone was having a mid-life crises .... or an office affair.
I don't think so. I think some people need a year, some need 2. Others may only need 6 months. I wouldn't put a time limit on it and would leave to the counselors (such as the pastor) to decide on a case-by-case whether or not the couple is ready.
Actually, when I see huge age differences the first thing that runs through my mind is that someone was having a mid-life crises .... or an office affair.
Older men don't marry younger women because they are looking for someone who they feel is their peer. But I'm sure you knew that already.
don't you think that a young couple should seek counseling before marriage from someone older and wiser than they are?... Well I do.Why would a counselor or pastor be a judge of this? At six months, people still aren't usually being "real"...they are just coming to the end of the puppy love stage ... (usually).
the key word there is usually. Not all people need longer than 6 months. I know a lot of people successfully married after dating for a short period of time. and I know a lot of people successfully married after dating for a long period of time due to commitment issues. Some people come out of their shell quicker, or enter the relationship with much more realistic expectations. And I would think that holds even truer for older men and women.I said 1-2 years ... but if you have been dating someone exclusively for over 2 years and still don't feel the urge to make it permanent, then you really don't love them enough to want to marry them.
They are looking for verification that they are still young. However, you don't feel so young when you are taking your 10 year old to baseball practice in your 50s and all the other days are barely 30.
So you would never date someone 10-15 years younger than you? Because of the reasons(Assumptions) you stated earlier? Things like maturity, lack of things in common. Will someone 10-15 years younger than you get your references from the 70s or 80s? Probably not but love runs deeper than just commonality. Also some men 10-15 years younger than you are more mature than some men your age this I'm sure you could agree with that at least.
This is kind of an irrelevant example because who cares if other dads are younger. And that is a huge assumption to assume that some man marrying a younger woman is doing it for verification. Since we are making assumptions here. It sounds to me like you just don't like the idea of a potential mate going with someone 15 years younger than you?
don't you think that a young couple should seek counseling before marriage from someone older and wiser than they are?... Well I do.
the key word there is usually. Not all people need longer than 6 months. I know a lot of people successfully married after dating for a short period of time. and I know a lot of people successfully married after dating for a long period of time due to commitment issues. Some people come out of their shell quicker, or enter the relationship with much more realistic expectations. And I would think that holds even truer for older men and women.
This is kind of an irrelevant example because who cares if other dads are younger. And that is a huge assumption to assume that some man marrying a younger woman is doing it for verification. Since we are making assumptions here. It sounds to me like you just don't like the idea of a potential mate going with someone 15 years younger than you?
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