How far would you travel to date someone?

[Servant68]

During my online dating forays, I found very few, if any, potential partners within 25 miles of my location. Most were about 70 miles away. I never pursued a relationship with someone that distance because I didn't think driving an hour or more to meet for dinner or a movie was a very workable situation.

I guess if I was simply looking for a "hook up" then it would be worth driving so far... But, I want a relationship based on friendship and casual meeting to do fun activities such as sunset walks, horseback riding, shopping, etc.

Plus, most women in my demographic are established in their careers, own homes, have older kids in high school, etc which makes relocation for them a very daunting task if the relationship progresses.

I also own a home, have family nearby, and moving 70 miles away is a no-go for me.

I was recently contacted by a very nice woman via an online dating site that seems very nice, but she is 2 hours away. I don't understand how she would think how we could develop a meaningful relationship over such a distance...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

 

[Messy]

If I was single I wouldn't care, but I can't even move 5 kilometers for the school since I only have a bike. I always have to stay near my ex because we coparent.
If she has no kids or kids out of the house she can simply move.

 

[dayhiker]

I have 3 long distance relationships that I have had for over 2 yrs now. Ya, we can't get together short notice, all our meetings have to be planned usually a few weeks in advance. When we get together its for at least the weekend if not a long weekend. Sometimes its for a week of vacation. The nice thing about being together for a weekend is we have time to do several things together and have any talks we need to have. The times apart give each of us time to do the things we want to to do that they other person might not be interested in doing.
Most of us aren't looking for a traditional dating situation so this works.

 

[Servant68]

I have 3 long distance relationships that I have had for over 2 yrs now.

Wow...

Sorry for the light cursing, but it is most relevant... LOL!

 

[RDKirk]

Seventy miles is nothing, IMO. I dunno, maybe because I was a military brat, then had a military career myself, married to a military brat and both of us having family all over that the idea of driving an hour or ninety minutes to see my "main squeeze" would not phase me a moment.

 

[Evie1980]

Hmmmm it is hard to say. I dated a guy a long time ago who lived 30 kilometres away and then he moved over 200km away. We kept dating until it dissolved for other reasons. I also travelled to the U.S. and met up with a guy who wanted to date me (though I was actually there to visit a friend and we met up during my trip). I decided that maybe moving to the U.S. was a little far.... But not impossible.

so for me 2 hours or 3 hours away would be easy but then again I have travelled a lot and moving around is part of my nature. I have no roots or direct attachments to any place (not including family but then again all my family lives in different areas of Australia). It really is up to you and what you want for your life.

 

[blackribbon]

In Texas, we drove long distances without giving it much thought. We used to drive 110 miles each way on Saturday to feed the family's cattle if nobody was going to the ranch to that weekend. Church was 45 minutes away...and we did Boy Scouts at the same church on a different night. I knew someone who drove their 10 year old son to practice with a select baseball team 2 hours each way three times a week (and this doesn't include the weekend games which could be anywhere). I think how far a person is willing to drive is subjective. I'd have no problems driving 2 hours to meet someone whom I had chemistry with. Heck, I moved 1500 miles to just see if an online friendship had the potential to grow....I let the kids have a vote and we kept the door open to return home for one year. The relationship actually ended before we made the moved (LOL) but we went anyway and it turned out to be a good thing. I think God used this gentleman to be the hook that brought me to where He wanted to bless us.

 

[quietpraiyze]

During my online dating forays, I found very few, if any, potential partners within 25 miles of my location. Most were about 70 miles away. I never pursued a relationship with someone that distance because I didn't think driving an hour or more to meet for dinner or a movie was a very workable situation.

I guess if I was simply looking for a "hook up" then it would be worth driving so far... But, I want a relationship based on friendship and casual meeting to do fun activities such as sunset walks, horseback riding, shopping, etc.

Plus, most women in my demographic are established in their careers, own homes, have older kids in high school, etc which makes relocation for them a very daunting task if the relationship progresses.

I also own a home, have family nearby, and moving 70 miles away is a no-go for me.

I was recently contacted by a very nice woman via an online dating site that seems very nice, but she is 2 hours away. I don't understand how she would think how we could develop a meaningful relationship over such a distance...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

I think if you are specifically looking for a mate then maybe not but if you're considering a friendship/companionship I don't see a problem with it. I guess it's because I've had people older than me say how they regretted not making/building friendships with the opposite sex. So now that they're older and single they don't have someone of the opposite sex to even go have coffee and conversation with. I think that's sad.

So I think it's exciting to start to build a new friendship where you get together a couple of times a month maybe. Email, text, and talk on the phone. I have friends I don't talk to for months at a time because we're all doing life but when we do get together it's like we don't miss a beat. So some distance doesn't sound bad. It can be fun to me but I'm that type to tell you to come on down to my barbeque. Eat and drink as much as you want and take the spare bedroom so you don't have to drive back that evening . I guess it's what you make it...

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Basically if I can reach a place within a 3 hour drive or so or if the man is willing to travel to meet me, I'm game. Either way I don't think distance necessarily rules someone out.

 

[Ubuntu]

What are your thoughts on the subject?

I'd travel to the ends of the earth if I only was convinced that God wanted me to see someone. Distance or nationality doesn't matter to me at all.

 

[scraparcs]

If I could see him on weekends, it would be workable. Maybe a hundred miles?

 

[Goodbook]

Id like someone to come to my door.
Im not going anywhere..lol.
Dont do online dating, its rubbish.

 

[brinny]

....hmmmmmm...i dunno...i don't know about da 500 miles, mon

 

[miss-a]

During my online dating forays, I found very few, if any, potential partners within 25 miles of my location. Most were about 70 miles away. I never pursued a relationship with someone that distance because I didn't think driving an hour or more to meet for dinner or a movie was a very workable situation.

I guess if I was simply looking for a "hook up" then it would be worth driving so far... But, I want a relationship based on friendship and casual meeting to do fun activities such as sunset walks, horseback riding, shopping, etc.

Plus, most women in my demographic are established in their careers, own homes, have older kids in high school, etc which makes relocation for them a very daunting task if the relationship progresses.

I also own a home, have family nearby, and moving 70 miles away is a no-go for me.

I was recently contacted by a very nice woman via an online dating site that seems very nice, but she is 2 hours away. I don't understand how she would think how we could develop a meaningful relationship over such a distance...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

To me two hours is inconsequential. If I lived in Boston, LA, or New York it could take me that long to drive five miles on a bad traffic day.

I don't mean this disrespectfully at all. I think the distance thing might be primarily a guy thing. You know how the experts always say women are relational. That's how she can tell the distance is not a problem. She's looking at it relationally, not logistically. When you're both at work, you'll be apart for much more than two hours, so to us it's like, "What's the big deal." A two hour drive, or life alone? Two hours, life alone? Mmmmmllllet's go with the two hours.

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BTW, for me personally, I just want the right guy. I believe location doesn't matter at all. If a guy's heart is right and he's a match for me, I don't care if he's in a different time zone. God can handle that. I don't have to.

 

[Goodbook]

Its the guy that has to do the travelling, though. So..I guess, up to the guy, after all, hes the one thats gonna take the lady out.

Unless you want a lady to just go unchaperoned and eaten by wolves who will get her before you do.

 

[Servant68]

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LOL!

My main concern is what happens when that relationship progresses? I work in Pullman, WA for a growing tech company. I'm applying today for a different position in the company that would move me from the manufacturing floor to the executive offices; it's a fairly big deal for me...

My parents live 15 miles away in Moscow, ID. I was there last night with them and their friends playing Mexican Train and working with my horse. My brother lives a block from my parents.

I left a $75k a year insurance job and a custom 5-bedroom home in AZ to move back here after my divorce. I place a higher value on family than on material things, obviously.

If I started dating a woman in Spokane, WA , or Post Falls, ID (which is where the majority of women in my demographic live), that is about 70 to 80 miles away, with our rural highways, it's about an hour and a half drive, or less, in the Summer.

No problem, I can drive up there to meet for dinner/movie on weekends. She can drive down here to go horseback riding, hiking, camping, etc.

We fall in love and spend every spare moment we can together. Then we realize the next step is marriage. Uh oh... She has a 13yr old that has been going to the same school district all her life. The woman has a great paying job that she's worked hard at over the years to get to her current position. She lives in the custom 5-bedroom home that her and her kids love...

Who gives up their career? Who sacrifices their relationships? There will be bitterness no matter who gives up what. I'd rather not face that ugliness in my next relationship. My friend lives in Elgin, OR. His wife is a nurse and works with a lot of beautiful women who are very lonely.

He keeps trying to get me and my brother to come down to meet these women. There are three in particular he thinks are perfect. All three have kids, all three have said they will never move from that area. There you go...

Granted, there may well be a woman who lives an hour or two or so away that has no strong ties to her community and would be willing to relocate after marriage. And I guess I would be willing to entertain the possibility of that relationship... Still, it would be nice to have a girlfriend nearby for impromptu adventures...

 

[Goodbook]

Just date and dont marry, I suppose.

If you dont want to live together for the rest of your life, then you wont make the sacrifices for each other. So you can just date.

Plenty of women would just appreciate a male escort to take her out once in a while without any strings attached or pressure to be married or sexually involved.

 

[Messy]

 

[white dove]

You could always Skype. Then, go on Catfish to make sure everything's on the up and up. If so, you could work out the details at that point.

 

[dayhiker]

I'm a little older I'm thinking. But I am finding women that are OK with having a relationship and not getting married. Which is good because I'm not interested in getting married either. That way I can have the personal time I like, get home from work and putter around the house. Then on the weekend or a week night go out and have a good time with my GFs or the guys. There are a lot of things to do around the city so it is never hard to find activities we are interested in doing.