How do you stay humble being single?

[DavidSkate]

I have my moments of being happily single and then those moments where I find myself watching a Golden Girls marathon while eating Oreos and having a glass of wine... I know it's not the manliest thing ever but it happens.

Lately when I find that the Golden Girls aren't on, I'll turn to my bible for answers. I know all the potential things I can do in Jesus while being single. I hope to go on my first missions trip next year and being single makes that much more achievable. Paul says that being single is a blessing. You are free to spread the gospel. I don't know about you, but I want my wife to also have the passion to spread the gospel with me.

Then I start to remember that God is in control and that if I am meant to be a husband, than I obviously am still lacking some knowledge or skill for my future bride.

I continue to tell myself that even though I haven't met her yet, I'm humbled to know she hasn't met me yet either.

 

[vanillakay]

I know the feeling brother. :hugs: I think what your doing already is humble enough. It;s great that your going on a mission trip and I think ti will distract you form finding someone. Not only that, but ever think mybe just mybe you might meet her on your trip? could be in God's plan for you, not that im claiming to know God's mind, totally not. Just trying to encourage you I understand the feeling of impatients though, really i do.

ps:Oreos rock!

 

[Jess7737]

Waiting can be so hard, I know for a fact it is. As a female learning that being single is a blessing was a hard pill for me to swallow. But every time I get lonely Jesus is there to comfort me, he is always right there fulfilling our needs and even our wants when they match up with his will. It makes waiting easier, when you feel God’s peace, knowing your doing his will.


Amen brother, your heart is in the right place. Someone told me once that getting to be married is a gift, just as the season of being single is a gift. Life is hard, but when you look at it through the eyes of God it’s much easier to live each day for Jesus.

(Jeremiah 29:11) - For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
This verse has comforted me throughout my singleness through teens, now to young adulthood. God’s promises stand firm. God bless J

 

[Maka]

Being single is a choice for me. I feel like I bring too much baggage with my allergies and stuff to be in a relationship with anyone right now. It's not fair to the other person and I don't want to be a burden.

 

[AppleJackzO]

Being single is a choice for me. I feel like I bring too much baggage with my allergies and stuff to be in a relationship with anyone right now. It's not fair to the other person and I don't want to be a burden.

No don't feel that way! I'm positive there is a guy out there who won't mind your "baggage" as you call it. Don't feel like you'll be a burden! I feel the same way most of the time actually and I do believe they are LIES from Satan himself.

 

[Maka]

No don't feel that way! I'm positive there is a guy out there who won't mind your "baggage" as you call it. Don't feel like you'll be a burden! I feel the same way most of the time actually and I do believe they are LIES from Satan himself.

Thank you for your kind words. You could be right, I never thought of it that way.

 

[AndrewZinc]

To the OP: I suppose the trick is to be content and focus on Christ (easier said than done) and things will work out. God's will is, after all, "good, perfect and pleasing" (Rom 12:2) and whether single like Jesus or Paul or married like Peter or Abraham, we can be used.

Of course, Abraham learned about the waiting game - big time, so patience is also required. That's not easy either, some advice this is!

No don't feel that way! I'm positive there is a guy out there who won't mind your "baggage" as you call it. Don't feel like you'll be a burden! I feel the same way most of the time actually and I do believe they are LIES from Satan himself.

That is good advice, none of us are perfect and all couples with have to learn to live with each other's imperfections. But even the tiny amount of God's love that we get is enough to cover that.

 

[HorsieJuice]

Or... turn off the Golden Girls and go out and meet people...

 

[NaturallyGone]

To the OP: Honestly, I just remember along the same lines as you: if God hasn't brought us together into a relationship yet, then I'm not the Man of God she deserves yet. Helps me be grateful for all the friends I have. Also, going on a mission trip is ALWAYS a great spiritual builder. However, as it says in the Bible, in one of the less-liked passages, there are people in the world who are blessed with the spirit gift of being single all their life. As Men of God, who we are should be so deeply impacted by our Heavenly Father that, in order to even begin to understand who we are, a woman first has to look towards Him. if that makes sense.

 

[SailorofLife]

Being single truly is a gift and it's only through being single that you can love yourself and discover who you are. Use this valuable time of independence to build the fortress of who you are and then the time will come for the right person to join you in that fortress. Trust me; you'll need a strong fortress to deal with a relationship! They are no picnic but the rewards of this unity between two humans are truly beneficial and second only to unity with God.

 

[Krystina661]

I've been dating someone for 5 years this November. No ring and who knows what he really feels. Being single and not settled is no fun. Especially when you are 30! Lol