Looking for advice ... We have three children and right now we are floundering. I've posted in the married couples board about how our marriage is hard but right now everything is hard. It feels as though life has been relentless since we got married eleven years ago. Nothing awful like cancer but just continuous low-level pressure.
Dh and I both sleep badly, and this makes it very difficult to be patient with our children, particularly our oldest son who can be very demanding and hard work. Lately I feel like we never have fun as a family, we seem to s spend all our time just trying to control our two boys (age 7 and 5), and meeting the basic needs of our ten month old. We have tried playing board games or other games but it just ends up with the boys arguing and us getting annoyed with them.
I hate our family dynamic at the moment but can't see a way to regain our equilibrium. Our kids aren't getting enough sleep despite my best efforts at early bed times and wind downs. I feel like we need help but don't know what to ask for. I really struggle with anger, I'm in a bad habit of losing my temper with the children and I see them becoming aggressive but when I'm this tired I find self control impossible and I'm struggling to pray. I have seen some improvement thank God, but I still am far from the kind mother I want to be.
Any advice?
Dh and I both sleep badly, and this makes it very difficult to be patient with our children, particularly our oldest son who can be very demanding and hard work. Lately I feel like we never have fun as a family, we seem to s spend all our time just trying to control our two boys (age 7 and 5), and meeting the basic needs of our ten month old. We have tried playing board games or other games but it just ends up with the boys arguing and us getting annoyed with them.
I hate our family dynamic at the moment but can't see a way to regain our equilibrium. Our kids aren't getting enough sleep despite my best efforts at early bed times and wind downs. I feel like we need help but don't know what to ask for. I really struggle with anger, I'm in a bad habit of losing my temper with the children and I see them becoming aggressive but when I'm this tired I find self control impossible and I'm struggling to pray. I have seen some improvement thank God, but I still am far from the kind mother I want to be.
Any advice?