How do you not fall apart after relationship end

[Angeleyes7715]

I am so completely distraught now that my relationship is ended.

I woke up this morning and the first thing I'm doing is crying.

What now? My whole motivation to finish my certification program and to deal with my job was all for my boyfriend. I just wanted to make enough money to help us both. Now it just working to pay bills again....

I'm back at my mom's. I don't want to deal with my life. I haven't even been able to pick up the bible which I usually do if there's nothing left.

Monday I'll see if I can move my appt with the counselor to sooner...

Life is not worth it. I am just too scared to die. I feel like eventually I will stop being scared and just die because things never get better you see me in here all the time because it's always bad no matter how much I pray or try to get help.

 

[drjean]

You realize God can give you hope for a better future. You ca't believe it right now...so by faith you tell yourself this truth: This isn't the end of the world. God cares and once you are in a good place, a better place, you will look back on this and realize it was worth working through because of the better to come!

And prayerfully I hope that the counselor will help you work through why this relationship wasn't a good one, and why you are better off out of it... and how God has something better for you and you are blessed that HE got you out safely. ((((hugs))))

 

[Yi-man]

Time is a great healer. GOD tells us, if something is taken away from us, it could be better for us even though we don't perceive it. This is because we do not know what is around the corner. Turn to prayer and fasting, be patient, for GOD loves the patient and promises to replace what has been taken away with something better.

 

[Sam91]

I am so completely distraught now that my relationship is ended.

I woke up this morning and the first thing I'm doing is crying.

What now? My whole motivation to finish my certification program and to deal with my job was all for my boyfriend. I just wanted to make enough money to help us both. Now it just working to pay bills again....

I'm back at my mom's. I don't want to deal with my life. I haven't even been able to pick up the bible which I usually do if there's nothing left.

Monday I'll see if I can move my appt with the counselor to sooner...

Life is not worth it. I am just too scared to die. I feel like eventually I will stop being scared and just die because things never get better you see me in here all the time because it's always bad no matter how much I pray or try to get help.

Pick up that Bible huni, why deny yourself solace in seeking Him?

Hope you feel better soon.

 

[SkyWriting]

I am so completely distraught now that my relationship is ended.

I woke up this morning and the first thing I'm doing is crying.

What now? My whole motivation to finish my certification program and to deal with my job was all for my boyfriend. I just wanted to make enough money to help us both. Now it just working to pay bills again....

I'm back at my mom's. I don't want to deal with my life. I haven't even been able to pick up the bible which I usually do if there's nothing left.

Monday I'll see if I can move my appt with the counselor to sooner...

Life is not worth it. I am just too scared to die. I feel like eventually I will stop being scared and just die because things never get better you see me in here all the time because it's always bad no matter how much I pray or try to get help.

Among elderly couples, according to Harvard University sociologists, men are 22 percent more likely to die shortly after the death of a spouse, compared with 17 percent for women. So your reaction is common. Finding other people to help is your solution. It's doesn't have to be a boy friend.

 

[Ancient of Days]

" which I usually do if there's nothing left." God should come first, not last. Reset your priority's and come before his throne: " Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need."

https://www.christianforums.com/threads/helps-to-emotional-stability.8038559/

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Among elderly couples, according to Harvard University sociologists, men are 22 percent more likely to die shortly after the death of a spouse, compared with 17 percent for women. So your reaction is common. Finding other people to help is your solution. It's doesn't have to be a boy friend.

One I am a woman. Two I am 26 not elderly. Three we broke up he didn't die. What does any of that have to do with me.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

" which I usually do if there's nothing left." God should come first, not last. Reset your priority's and come before his throne: " Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need."

https://www.christianforums.com/threads/helps-to-emotional-stability.8038559/

God usually comes first but rn I don't even want to talk to God. I am so sick of my life.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

I don't think I am clarifying the full extent of everything. I might as well of been married to this guy because ourit finances home, job, school, car everything was tied together.

So losing this relationship could cause me to not only lose the bf but may have to drop this coming semester of my courses, may need to quit my job if my car breaks down cause the starter is going out and my ex bf is a mechanic and he was fixing my car, I now owe for past rent and I have to get my name off the lease just to be able to rent an apartment again. If my car breaks I can't get to school or work and I can't get there on the bus way too far apart. I don't make enough for a car payment... It just I'm in a mess now.

I lost everything. It's not some little kid boyfriend and girlfriend thing it was very close to a marriage.

 

[SkyWriting]

One I am a woman. Two I am 26 not elderly. Three we broke up he didn't die. What does any of that have to do with me.

Women were included in the study.
Oh. I thought you were ready to die.
Just wanted you to know your response is normal.

 

[Brotherly Spirit]

I don't think I am clarifying the full extent of everything. I might as well of been married to this guy because ourit finances home, job, school, car everything was tied together.

So losing this relationship could cause me to not only lose the bf but may have to drop this coming semester of my courses, may need to quit my job if my car breaks down cause the starter is going out and my ex bf is a mechanic and he was fixing my car, I now owe for past rent and I have to get my name off the lease just to be able to rent an apartment again. If my car breaks I can't get to school or work and I can't get there on the bus way too far apart. I don't make enough for a car payment... It just I'm in a mess now.

I lost everything. It's not some little kid boyfriend and girlfriend thing it was very close to a marriage.

I can't deny you have a lot on your plate. Your best hope in my opinion is to list your needs and start with the most urgent. A place to live and getting to work for example would be my priority. If possible try checking if your mom would let you stay with her until you're more financially stable. Same for your ex-boyfriend whether he would finish fixing your car this one last time. Not an expert but is there any way to check for financial aid, public or private for college? I'd least give it a look, try to find any help or opportunity available.

 

[JustRachel]

You are always in my prayers. Your posts always seem so sad and lost. I pray that you will be able to rejoice always and find comfort and healing in our God. Trust in him alone. This earth is only our temporary home. ((Hugs))