How do you know?

[wallflower04]

Hi everyone.

My boyfriend and I will be dating for 2 years in Feb. We've started talking about marriage and getting engaged. I really love him but I also have many insecurities because of past experiences. So my question is...How do I know if hes the one?

Any advice will be much appreciated.
Thank you
Stay blessed

 

[rickster]

Pray.

Also get out that check list.

Is he also a Christian? How seriously does he take his faith? Does he go to church?

How is he with money? Do you have the same financial goals? Does he have any outstanding debt? Do you both have the same lifestyle goals? (live below your means and save a lot, live pay check to pay check, somewhere in between?).

How does he deal with conflict? Can you talk to each other amicably about disagreements?

Do you have the same ideas about having/not having children?

How does he treat his parents? How does he treat his siblings? How does he treat his friends?

Can he (eventually) support you emotionally and financially in a time of need?

 

[dayhiker]

I think I'd put quite a bit of emphases on how the last 2 yrs have gone. If its been turmoil much of the time then the dynamic of your relationship isn't good and it wouldn't be an enjoyable marriage.
If you two have been good for each other and worked out problems as they have arisen then its a good chance your marriage will follow that same path.