How do you handle...

[dawnsday]

it when you have an ex permanently in your life, and a new guy as well. I have a child with someone, so obviously this is an ex I can't just choose to cut off...but it seems to bother my guy when his name is brought up or I have to talk to him...

now to me, my kid's dad is like an annoyance I have to deal with for now...I can't stand him. But I don't know the best way to handle this situation with the new guy...should I just expect him to deal with it or should I be sensitive?

 

[peanutbutter12]

I can imagine how it will be hard for your boyfriend to understand and accept the situation, but he needs to act like an adult and understand that your ex isn't in your life by choice. You need to sit down with him and discuss this and if he can't come to accept that, then he isn't the guy for you.

On the other side, you need to come to an understanding about your ex as well. It will be better for the kid if you stay on good terms with your ex and attempt to build a friendship out of your relationship with him, if only for your kids sake. Your ex needs to understand this too, otherwise it will get messy down the road between the two of you and will also have a negative effect on the child.