How do you handle this situation ?

[ISeeWhat4U]

I know I've been making quite a few threads lately but there isn't much honest helpful Christians in my life at the moment like there is on here and plus everyone always has such great advice on here I figured I could ask another question...Now I have this problem when it comes to one of my friends that when they respond or reply to something (whether it's something on the news or something about another friend) it just always gets me angry inside and I feel the need to get him mad or upset somehow just because of how his response made me feel (which I know is wrong that it makes me feel like that and I know it's even MORE wrong to feel the need to then in return get him upset which is just fighting fire with fire) so what would anyone else do to handle and resolve that from my part to not let it even get to me in the first place?

 

[Blank123]

Sounds like a toxic friendship to me. Might be time to let go of it now while your integrity is in tact and learn to forgive him for whatever he's said or done to anger you so much.

 

[ISeeWhat4U]

Sounds like a toxic friendship to me. Might be time to let go of it now while your integrity is in tact and learn to forgive him for whatever he's said or done to anger you so much.

That's what I was afraid of....it's like no matter how hard I try to help this person out or take time out of my day & use it to try to help him with something if he doesn't like the outcome of something that I'm trying to help him out with then he gets so mad too then that just makes me regret even knowing him sometimes which I feel bad afterwards...Just a complicated situation & I've been best friends with him for over 6 years now it's just the last year or less things like this have been happening.

 

[WisdomTree]

I know I've been making quite a few threads lately but there isn't much honest helpful Christians in my life at the moment like there is on here and plus everyone always has such great advice on here I figured I could ask another question...Now I have this problem when it comes to one of my friends that when they respond or reply to something (whether it's something on the news or something about another friend) it just always gets me angry inside and I feel the need to get him mad or upset somehow just because of how his response made me feel (which I know is wrong that it makes me feel like that and I know it's even MORE wrong to feel the need to then in return get him upset which is just fighting fire with fire) so what would anyone else do to handle and resolve that from my part to not let it even get to me in the first place?

You seem to have a bit of a malicious personality, though you probably don't act on it.

I'm like that as well, and you know it's wrong cause the thought is that of causing hurt for one's own satisfaction i.e. revenge. If you think about it, it's equivalent to murder in the eyes of God because we're expressing hatred in our heart.

I say that first, pray about it and ask God for forgiveness for your ill thoughts. Then you should see a way to forgive your friend for making you have those feelings in the first place. Try and analyze the root of this issue then solve it through calm discussion. If your friend is rather unreasonable, then you should consider whether this friend actually values your friendship and/or if you two were ever friends to begin with, in which case you should take a break from seeing this friend for your own sake.

Remember, everything starts with one's self, reflect on your own then move on to others. This rule applies to pretty much everything

I hope my advice was useful.

 

[ISeeWhat4U]

You seem to have a bit of a malicious personality, though you probably don't act on it.

I'm like that as well, and you know it's wrong cause the thought is that of causing hurt for one's own satisfaction i.e. revenge. If you think about it, it's equivalent to murder in the eyes of God because we're expressing hatred in our heart.

I say that first, pray about it and ask God for forgiveness for your ill thoughts. Then you should see a way to forgive your friend for making you have those feelings in the first place. Try and analyze the root of this issue then solve it through calm discussion. If your friend is rather unreasonable, then you should consider whether this friend actually values your friendship and/or if you two were ever friends to begin with, in which case you should take a break from seeing this friend for your own sake.

Remember, everything starts with one's self, reflect on your own then move on to others. This rule applies to pretty much everything

I hope my advice was useful.

You know what....That's honestly some of the best advice that I've gotten on this site, thank you very much for your honesty & your input. I definitely can see what you're saying & I really do think that you made nothing but great points so I'll definitely be referring to your advice next time the situation or issue comes up & exercise the advice you said to use to work on the situation to learn to not only stop it from becoming a big problem but also stop it from ever happening again!

 

[WisdomTree]

You know what....That's honestly some of the best advice that I've gotten on this site, thank you very much for your honesty & your input. I definitely can see what you're saying & I really do think that you made nothing but great points so I'll definitely be referring to your advice next time the situation or issue comes up & exercise the advice you said to use to work on the situation to learn to not only stop it from becoming a big problem but also stop it from ever happening again!

You're welcome and I'm glad that I have been of use. Feel free to leave a wall post or a private message anytime!

 

[zakkleifeste]

The Bible says that if you have a problem with someone, it's best to go directly to that person to talk about it. If this person is truly your friend, I would try to be honest and tell them how their comments are making you feel. Just be transparent with them. If you do this 1 of 2 things will happen: either they will accept what you have to say and respect you for telling them, or they will get mad at you and not talk to you.

The most important thing to remember though is that you are NOT responsible for how other people react. You are only responsible for doing the right thing in God's eyes.

Just remember, the other person is not going to be standing before God with you. Let them be responsible for them, and you be responsible for you.

Hope everything works out for the best!