I know drinkings not the answer, I havnt drunk yet. Im not going to either, ive been really strong. Im proud of myself.
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Hi, I'm sorry for the impossible nightmare your family is going through. I'm glad your here asking for help. I agree with some of the others. If you are at a loss of what to do. You need to get support like alanon or celebrate recovery. Your mother needs to either be realizing she needs it too and at least acting like shes going to try by going to meetings herself OR possibly drastic measures need to be taken as far as you and your brothers are concerned.
If you get the support you need, people will be able to better counsel you if they know more of the details of whats going on in your life.
I am a recovered alcoholic and all an AA meeting ever made me want to do is drink. I despise AA although some people sware by them. That's why I'm so glad to see this new CELEBRATE RECOVERY popping up everywhere. It's Christian Based AA.
Some are more effective than others of course, some meetings will cater more to one type of person than another so don't be discouraged after one or two, if they don't appeal to you and/or your mom.
Mom needs to be at least willing in all the REMORSE that I'm sure she has, to seek help...seriously and now. With that seriously in place, she may stumble. As she becomes more successful in her sobriety...when she stumbles, it will be worse that it ever was (as hard as that may be to believe) It's called the sleeping tiger effect in people recovering from substance abuse. And its another manifestation of the fact that if we persevere in the Lord, the greatest blessings are yet to be reaped. God Bless you and Mom and Brothers in the name of Jesus.
If you get the support you need, people will be able to better counsel you if they know more of the details of whats going on in your life.
I am a recovered alcoholic and all an AA meeting ever made me want to do is drink. I despise AA although some people sware by them. That's why I'm so glad to see this new CELEBRATE RECOVERY popping up everywhere. It's Christian Based AA.
Some are more effective than others of course, some meetings will cater more to one type of person than another so don't be discouraged after one or two, if they don't appeal to you and/or your mom.
Mom needs to be at least willing in all the REMORSE that I'm sure she has, to seek help...seriously and now. With that seriously in place, she may stumble. As she becomes more successful in her sobriety...when she stumbles, it will be worse that it ever was (as hard as that may be to believe) It's called the sleeping tiger effect in people recovering from substance abuse. And its another manifestation of the fact that if we persevere in the Lord, the greatest blessings are yet to be reaped. God Bless you and Mom and Brothers in the name of Jesus.
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No my mum doesnt care, has no remorse. Its 1.30 am and she just came home drunk with 2 men. Well, I give up. Its her own choice now.
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The reason that some want to drink after an AA meeting is that the "sleeping tiger" has been awakened. It is a sign that something at that meeting triggered the person into thinking that their inner turmoil would only be resolved through picking up a drink or drug. It is a typical reaction for those who still have the alcoholic/addict mindset and points out the need to work the 12 Steps to get closer to a power greater then themselves to overcome it.
Celebrate Recovery when available is great, however there are not meetings in every area. Even where there are meetings, they are not held as frequently as newly recovering people need to overcome their addictions.
We need to remember Mark 9:39
[SIZE=-1]for whoever is not against us is for us.
[/SIZE][SIZE=-1]Let's not run down one type of group who practice a spiritual recovery simply because God has made another type available to us.
God bless
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You should all be proud of me. Ive had a really tough week and ive fought the urge to drink. Im so proud of myself.
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And again, ive done well 
. I went out for my brothers birthday. My mum kept trying to force alcohol on me but I fought it. I said no. I can do it!!! Im really proud of myself.
. I went out for my brothers birthday. My mum kept trying to force alcohol on me but I fought it. I said no. I can do it!!! Im really proud of myself.
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Need your prayers guys. Im seriously ill . I came so close to being dead wednesday. Its really shaken me up.
. I came so close to being dead wednesday. Its really shaken me up.
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My iron levels were critically low and I got rushed to hospital because I collapsed unconcious at work. I couldnt of survived much longer. Theres a problem with my body taking in iron, im just not absorbing it at all so they doing tests to find a way. Its whats been making me so pale and run down for the last few months.
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Hey Mel,
Im sorry for what you are going through right now....I am praying for you and your brothers....I am also going to pray that your mom will see a vision from God to stop what she is doing....What she is doing is NOT alright....being drunk and bringing two guys home??? Thats is not good, especially when she has kids under the age of 18 in the house....thats not alright....have you ever confronted her?
Im sorry for what you are going through right now....I am praying for you and your brothers....I am also going to pray that your mom will see a vision from God to stop what she is doing....What she is doing is NOT alright....being drunk and bringing two guys home??? Thats is not good, especially when she has kids under the age of 18 in the house....thats not alright....have you ever confronted her?
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Hi
Thank you for your prayers. It means a lot how supportive everyone on this site can be. I have confronted her but it always ends up with me being hurt. Ive learnt to just shut up and not say anything. To protect myself. I just get on with sorting the house and my brothers out now. Theres no point saying anything, shes not going to accept theres an issue and shes not going to change.
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I think you are on the right track. You have confronted her, so now whenever she choses to drink she knows how you feel about it. Thats all you can do. So yeah, I think that you should just stay out of the way of the alcoholic and just deal with your own life. I highly suggest finding an Ala-non meeting for you and an Ala-teen meeting for your brothers.
My dad is an alcoholic so I kinda know how it feels to have a parent that drinks.
My dad is an alcoholic so I kinda know how it feels to have a parent that drinks.
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I just wish I knew where my health stands at the minute! Thats the major worry I have. I found something out just over a week ago, just getting my head around it, and now im told it wont happen. Its killing me .
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