I look back at my past. Im not claiming to be a Saint now by any means, but when i was in middle school i was a bit of a punk. i would instigate problems, argue, lust (a ton) and just rebel. i look back to how i was and i feel guilty. the people who i have wronged i have went to highschool with also and we even graduated together. i honestly feel that they havent cared in years....they probly didnt care much at all. I still feel awful at times i do regret what i have done and there are times where i fear what may of for me at death for my wrongs. If i were to approach them and apologize now it would just make things awkward, again i dont think they even care. i look to the Bible even and read where it says if i can forgive those who have wronged me i will be forgiven. but still i think about it and this guilt comes. how can i be relieved?
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how do you conquer guilt?
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NapoliaDinosaur
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If you're feeling guilty after you've already confessed your sins, chances are that's Satan. When you confess your sins and ask God's forgiveness, He forgives you, when you do so honestly. He has already forgiven you, He's erased your sins, He's cleansed you of them...so you no longer need to worry about it.
You said the people you went to high school with probably don't care...but if you have wronged them, I would suggest apologizing anyways, even if it's only through e-mail. Yeah, it would be awkward...but nobody ever said following Christ wouldn't be awkward. I think it would show great boldness and would say a lot about your character if you were to apologize to those people, whether you think they care or not. It would be a great witness of Christ to take such a bold step. It may even plant a seed, or encourage one of those people. You never know. Pray about it, and see what God leads you to do. If anything, apologizing will at least set in stone the fact that you HAVE repented, and will remind you of that when Satan tries to tell you you're not forgiven.
I will pray for you! Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus
You said the people you went to high school with probably don't care...but if you have wronged them, I would suggest apologizing anyways, even if it's only through e-mail. Yeah, it would be awkward...but nobody ever said following Christ wouldn't be awkward. I think it would show great boldness and would say a lot about your character if you were to apologize to those people, whether you think they care or not. It would be a great witness of Christ to take such a bold step. It may even plant a seed, or encourage one of those people. You never know. Pray about it, and see what God leads you to do. If anything, apologizing will at least set in stone the fact that you HAVE repented, and will remind you of that when Satan tries to tell you you're not forgiven.
I will pray for you! Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus
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wonderwaleye
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The ONLY relief there is goes by the name of JESUS!!!
HE paid the price of your sin in ADVANCE!!!
NOW ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS REMEMBER:
“ Believe “ in Greek is a verb and has three components which are: hearing, accepting, and then " ACTING " upon that which you have accepted. X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O ( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven
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If you know the people who you mistreated then it's a good idea to approach them and apologize. Something like: Hi, I've been thinking of our High School days and it's really come to bother me how I treated you. I was just so self centered and immature, and I felt so low that it seemed the only way I could build myself up was to push someone else down. I'm really sorry you experienced my cruelty. It seems so stupid to me now.
Yes, it can be a bit ackward, largely because just nobody ever does such a thing. If they do, usually on the end of it is a big forgive me forgive me, where they try to extort forgiveness. If the person wants to say they forgive you they will. Don't try to make them. Then it dosn't sound sincere, just a free me from my torment sort of thing.
And others are right, there is guilt and there is false guilt. You certainly have recognized your sins, that is what confession is, and it sure sounds like you've repented and I assume you've asked forgiveness.
So at that point to keep dragging them back up is really a form of doubt. It's saying you don't believe God when he promised to forgive you. Jesus didn't really do anything for you on the cross.
No, you are forgiven. God keep wondering what sins you are talking about, they are gone, forgotten, nailed to the cross so long ago the paper they were written on is pretty well gone and what's left can't be read. No use dragging them up with God again, but if you see the people or get a chance, an apology would be good. It wasn't just God you wronged.
Marv
Yes, it can be a bit ackward, largely because just nobody ever does such a thing. If they do, usually on the end of it is a big forgive me forgive me, where they try to extort forgiveness. If the person wants to say they forgive you they will. Don't try to make them. Then it dosn't sound sincere, just a free me from my torment sort of thing.
And others are right, there is guilt and there is false guilt. You certainly have recognized your sins, that is what confession is, and it sure sounds like you've repented and I assume you've asked forgiveness.
So at that point to keep dragging them back up is really a form of doubt. It's saying you don't believe God when he promised to forgive you. Jesus didn't really do anything for you on the cross.
No, you are forgiven. God keep wondering what sins you are talking about, they are gone, forgotten, nailed to the cross so long ago the paper they were written on is pretty well gone and what's left can't be read. No use dragging them up with God again, but if you see the people or get a chance, an apology would be good. It wasn't just God you wronged.
Marv
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Everyone has "stuff" from their past BUT as believers, we have to think the way the Lord wants us to --
I read some info that really helped me in this area -
When we repent and ask Yahweh to forgive us, we have to accept His forgiveness. If we keep thinking about those situations, then we're choosing to think what we want, we're putting more value on what we think vs His grace. His grace is sufficient, right?
So then we have to renew our minds. As already posted, these thoughts are from the enemy. We're not responsible for the first thought but we're responsible which ones we entertain. So replace those thoughts about the past with what Yahweh says about things. Here are a couple of scriptures until you have time to locate some of your own - "Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles." Isaiah 40:31 Psalms 105:3-4 NKJV) Glory in His holy name; Let the hearts of those rejoice who seek the LORD! {4} Seek the LORD and His strength; Seek His face evermore!"
I read some info that really helped me in this area -
When we repent and ask Yahweh to forgive us, we have to accept His forgiveness. If we keep thinking about those situations, then we're choosing to think what we want, we're putting more value on what we think vs His grace. His grace is sufficient, right?
So then we have to renew our minds. As already posted, these thoughts are from the enemy. We're not responsible for the first thought but we're responsible which ones we entertain. So replace those thoughts about the past with what Yahweh says about things. Here are a couple of scriptures until you have time to locate some of your own - "Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles." Isaiah 40:31 Psalms 105:3-4 NKJV) Glory in His holy name; Let the hearts of those rejoice who seek the LORD! {4} Seek the LORD and His strength; Seek His face evermore!"
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Solidlyhere
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Many people are NOT bothered by Guilt.
The OP said: "when i was in middle school i was a bit of a punk. i would instigate problems... i honestly feel that they havent cared in years ... If i were to approach them and apologize now it would just make things awkward, again i dont think they even care."
What makes you feel that your past "victims" don't care that you mis-treated them?
Many former victims carry around the pain (like you have inflicted) for the rest of their lives.
It may WELL be that you have affected (in a negative way) several people.
Advice: Go to at least one of these people you hurt.
Tell him that you KNOW how awful you were to him.
Apologize completely for your mis-behavior.
And, in picking the victim to apologize to, take care to pick a person who is the MOST timid.
This is because, chances are, this person has been more deeply affected by your actions than others were.
Spiritually, you may be feeling Guilty about this Phase of your Life for the rest of your Life.
So, the way to "atone" for your past Sin is: Direct Apology.
It sounds simple, but it is a powerful Guilt-reducer.
The OP said: "when i was in middle school i was a bit of a punk. i would instigate problems... i honestly feel that they havent cared in years ... If i were to approach them and apologize now it would just make things awkward, again i dont think they even care."
What makes you feel that your past "victims" don't care that you mis-treated them?
Many former victims carry around the pain (like you have inflicted) for the rest of their lives.
It may WELL be that you have affected (in a negative way) several people.
Advice: Go to at least one of these people you hurt.
Tell him that you KNOW how awful you were to him.
Apologize completely for your mis-behavior.
And, in picking the victim to apologize to, take care to pick a person who is the MOST timid.
This is because, chances are, this person has been more deeply affected by your actions than others were.
Spiritually, you may be feeling Guilty about this Phase of your Life for the rest of your Life.
So, the way to "atone" for your past Sin is: Direct Apology.
It sounds simple, but it is a powerful Guilt-reducer.
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CShephard53
Somebody shut me up so I can live out loud!
The number of times I got either detention, suspended, kicked off the bus, or grounded numbers in at least the hundreds. I'm the same age as you. One of my favorite quotes from the Incredibles: "I never look back, darling! It distracts from the now."
This isn't about guilt. It's about making peace with your past. You did things that were wrong. Accept it, learn from it, make peace where you can, and move on. Any other guilt or shame isn't from God.
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CShephard53
Somebody shut me up so I can live out loud!
I've spent 5 years making peace with my past, give or take a year. No problem, and thanks for asking.
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