How do I tell my non-christian friends that I'm christian?

JFitz · Jan 8, 2011

Hiii

Okay... here's a question: How do I tell my non-christian friends that I'm christian?

Before I gave my heart to Jesus I used to go to parties and occasionally drink with my friends. How do I let them know that I don't drink anymore?

I know these seem like obvious questions but I've come to realize that girls can be pretty ruthless.

Thanks!

laconicstudent · Jan 8, 2011

What does becoming a Christian have to do with not drinking anymore?

SharonL · Jan 8, 2011

Your best bet is to just live your new walk hand in hand with Jesus and let the Joy of the Lord shine through your actions and upon your face. Don't get wound up in the do's and don'ts of what others think a Christian should be.

The Holy Spirit will guide you and as the Joy shines through you - others will want what you have. But beware of telling everyone of how you are going to live your life - they will always put road blocks in front of you - but just live your life and be a witness of God's love.

Peripatetic · Jan 8, 2011

Just be honest, but not judgmental. Tell them that you needed to make a few changes in your lifestyle and describe how it is helping your life if they ask. If they are true friends, they will respect your choices. One of my best friends never drinks at all, and none of our friends (Christians or otherwise) care at all about it. Sometimes it's better to narrow your circle of friends anyway. The older I get, the less time and patience I have for a lot of fringe friendships.

heymikey80 · Jan 8, 2011

JFitz said:
Okay... here's a question: How do I tell my non-christian friends that I'm christian?

"Um, yeah, I'm a Christian."

JFitz said:
Before I gave my heart to Jesus I used to go to parties and occasionally drink with my friends. How do I let them know that I don't drink anymore?

"Um, yeah, I don't drink so much now. It gets in the way of me being a Christian."

There's always a silver lining for drinkers -- designated driver.

JFitz said:
I know these seem like obvious questions but I've come to realize that girls can be pretty ruthless.

OK, this last one is just cruel irony, only worth using if your friends really do become ruthless: "Well, Christians aren't as ruthless as you guys can be. Maybe that's what convinced me."

heron · Jan 9, 2011

You have shared other parts of your life with them, like crushes and family frustrations. Treat it the same way, and don't alienate them. Tell them what you felt about the decision, in a similar way to how you've told them about other things.

Aibrean · Jan 10, 2011

Not drinking anymore has nothing to do with being a Christian. Not being drunk or tipsy sure does. The Bible says plenty on the sin of drunkenness, but a drink of alcohol? No.

salida · Jan 10, 2011

Just say that I don't drink because its your religious conviction. I don't either. If they are really your friends they will understand this.

Eph 5:18 And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit.

Kaitlin08 · Jan 10, 2011

It's not like you're coming out of the closet or something. Being nervous about telling your friends something so safe and mundane will alienate them from you and your faith, so work up the confidence to be direct about it.

Simonline · Jan 13, 2011

JFitz said:
Hiii

Okay... here's a question: How do I tell my non-christian friends that I'm christian?

Before I gave my heart to Jesus I used to go to parties and occasionally drink with my friends. How do I let them know that I don't drink anymore?

I know these seem like obvious questions but I've come to realize that girls can be pretty ruthless.

Thanks!

Hopefully, if your conversion is authentic, then your friends should see the transformation of your life and they should beat a path to your door to ask you why you are different and how they can have the same experience? That's when you take the opportunity to tell them about your transformation (1Pet.3:15). You shouldn't need to pidgeon-hole them or preach at them. That just serves to turn them off. Just let Christ in you, your hope of glory, do His own evangelism.

Why have you stopped drinking as a result of becoming a Christian? Is it because you had an alcohol addiction before you became a Christian or because you think that it's what you're supposed to do as a Christian?

From a Christian perspective there is nothing morally wrong with consuming moderate amounts of alcohol per se. However, if one had an addiction to alcohol prior to becoming a Christian then it is advisable to avoid consuming alcohol in order to deprive the Evil One of a potentially addictive foothold on one's life (1Cor.6:12; 10:23). In the same way, it is not advisable to consume alcohol in the presence of anyone whom one knows is struggling (or has struggled) with alcohol addiction as your alcohol consumption could be construed as an endorsement of their addiction to alcohol which would effectively destroy them (Rom.14:1-23).

Simonline.

Simonline · Jan 13, 2011

laconicstudent said:
What does becoming a Christian have to do with not drinking anymore?

Quite a lot if, before coming to faith in Christ, one was addicted to alcohol?!

Simonline.

Aibrean · Jan 13, 2011

Simonline said:
Quite a lot if, before coming to faith in Christ, one was addicted to alcohol?!

Simonline.

You have to consider that most people who give up alcohol because of an addiction also don't ever touch a drink again. It doesn't seem any more "Christian" to refrain because of abuse.

laconicstudent · Jan 13, 2011

Simonline said:
Quite a lot if, before coming to faith in Christ, one was addicted to alcohol?!

Simonline.

And is the OP an alcoholic? No. So that is fairly irrelevant.

papaJP · Jan 13, 2011

As a spirit filled Christian who does not drink, smoke or many other things I do not worry about what so called friends think of my choices unless they ask. My answer is I have chosen not to do whatever the question because I do not believe it is good for me and my walk. Some will drop you and some will assume incorrectly that you are judging them. True friends are rare and most of what people call friends are just aquaintances. Do not go out of your way to create a problem with any of them but stand in your faith.

My person belief is my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and their are many things that I will not do.

Simonline · Jan 14, 2011

Aibrean said:
You have to consider that most people who give up alcohol because of an addiction also don't ever touch a drink again. It doesn't seem any more "Christian" to refrain because of abuse.

I disagree (Matt.5:29-30). If one knows that there are certain activities, places, people that repeatedly cause one to sin then to disassociate oneself with such activities, places and people on a permanent basis is an indication of true wisdom since YHWH is the only One to whom we should be enthralled (Ex.20:3).

The consumption of alcohol is not mandatory for believers (Rom.14:1-23).

Simonline.

Simonline · Jan 14, 2011

laconicstudent said:
And is the OP an alcoholic? No. So that is fairly irrelevant.

This facile question - "What does becoming a Christian have to do with not drinking anymore?

" - says that it isn't irrelevent at all since neither of us know whether or not the OP has a drink problem or is associated with someone who has a drink problem?! The principle still stands.

Simonline.

laconicstudent · Jan 14, 2011

Simonline said:
This facile question - "What does becoming a Christian have to do with not drinking anymore?

" - says that it isn't irrelevent at all since neither of us know whether or not the OP has a drink problem or is associated with someone who has a drink problem?! The principle still stands.

Simonline.

There are lots of things we don't know about the OP. It isn't exactly charitable of you to assume automatically that the OP is an addict.

heron · Jan 14, 2011

"Occasionally drink" was the information offered -- not shown anywhere near an addiction.

throughchristimchanged · Nov 29, 2014

JFitz said:
Hiii

Okay... here's a question: How do I tell my non-christian friends that I'm christian?

Before I gave my heart to Jesus I used to go to parties and occasionally drink with my friends. How do I let them know that I don't drink anymore?

I know these seem like obvious questions but I've come to realize that girls can be pretty ruthless.

Thanks!

in what sense.?.

let them know that you've accepted Christ as your LORD and Savior and that they need to respect that in order to keep your company, now your aim should be leading them out of temptation(drinking,sinning) if its true in your heart

Emmy · Nov 30, 2014

Dear Jitz. Do not mention Christians, until one of them does. Just remember what Jesus told us in Matthew 22: 35-40: " The first and great Commandment
is: " Love God with all your hearts, with all your souls, and with all your minds.
The second is like it: love your neighbour as yourselves." Jesus also told us:
on these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." God is Love,
and God wants loving sons and daughters. In Matthew 7: 7-10: we are told:
" ask and you shall receive," ask God for Love and Joy, then thank God and share all Love and Joy with your neighbour: all you know and all you meet, friends and not friends. Keep asking and receiving, then Thank God and share
all love and joy with all around you. God will approve and God will bless you.
You might stumble and forget at times, but then ask God to forgive you, and carry on loving and caring.
The Bible tells us: " Repent and be Born Again," give up your selfish wishes and wants, and become loving and caring. People around you will treat you the same as you treat people, and God will approve and bless you.
The Holy Spirit will help and guide you, and Jesus our Saviour will lead you all the way: JESUS IS THE WAY. If your friends notice all your love and care,
they might want to know what changed you into such loving and caring.
Tell them the truth: and do it lovingly and kindly. If they are good friends,
they will be pleased and perhaps want to change as well, Love is very catching. Keep asking the Lord to help you, and carry on loving and caring.
I say this with love, Jitz. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.

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