How do I move on?

[Evan Wright]

So it turns out my crush doesn't want to go with me to the movies anymore because she said I was making to many excuses as to why we couldn't go. I mean, my car broke down (I explained that to her) and I have no way to pick her up so I don't see that as an excuse. Even if it was that was really the only "excuse" I made. She also said I couldn't make up my mind which is even more confusing because I told her either this or next Friday we could go it just depends on when my car gets out the shop. I think she just lost interest in me and the date and she tried to find an excuse to get out of the it. I'm somewhat confused as to why she said I was making excuses but at the same time I don't care anymore. I guess God doesn't want us going on a date, or maybe just not now isn't the right time but I'm just going to pray and trust God. Any other tips for moving on and letting go?

 

[Danielwright2311]

So it turns out my crush doesn't want to go with me to the movies anymore because she said I was making to many excuses as to why we couldn't go. I mean, my car broke down (I explained that to her) and I have no way to pick her up so I don't see that as an excuse. Even if it was that was really the only "excuse" I made. She also said I couldn't make up my mind which is even more confusing because I told her either this or next Friday we could go it just depends on when my car gets out the shop. I think she just lost interest in me and the date and she tried to find an excuse to get out of the it. I'm somewhat confused as to why she said I was making excuses but at the same time I don't care anymore. I guess God doesn't want us going on a date, or maybe just not now isn't the right time but I'm just going to pray and trust God. Any other tips for moving on and letting go?

Sounds to me she lost interest or she is testing you, this is a hard thing to find out.

Ask her if she lost interest in you, then at least you will know.

 

[Dave-W]

was this your first date?

 

[Sketcher]

First of all, learn from this. She actually gave you feedback, which a lot of women will not do, so take advantage.

she said I was making to many excuses as to why we couldn't go. I mean, my car broke down (I explained that to her) and I have no way to pick her up so I don't see that as an excuse.

1) How long did it take to organize the date? You've made quite a few girl threads since Oct 15. Is this the same girl for all of them? She's probably frustrated with waiting that long to go on a movie date. Takeaway: Have your stuff together so it's not months before you ask the next one out to a date.

2) Did you have a possibility for alternate transportation to the movies? Or was there something else you could have done with her that didn't require a car? You probably should have gone for something like that, especially given the overall delay.

She also said I couldn't make up my mind which is even more confusing because I told her either this or next Friday we could go it just depends on when my car gets out the shop.

Make up your mind about when? Or make up your mind about what?

 

[Sparagmos]

So it turns out my crush doesn't want to go with me to the movies anymore because she said I was making to many excuses as to why we couldn't go. I mean, my car broke down (I explained that to her) and I have no way to pick her up so I don't see that as an excuse. Even if it was that was really the only "excuse" I made. She also said I couldn't make up my mind which is even more confusing because I told her either this or next Friday we could go it just depends on when my car gets out the shop. I think she just lost interest in me and the date and she tried to find an excuse to get out of the it. I'm somewhat confused as to why she said I was making excuses but at the same time I don't care anymore. I guess God doesn't want us going on a date, or maybe just not now isn't the right time but I'm just going to pray and trust God. Any other tips for moving on and letting go?

It could be that she has lost interest and just came up with that as an excuse.

But I have twice decided not to date a guy that I was attracted to because of similar situations where he basically wasn’t making enough of an effort to “make it happen,” the way guys generally do if they are serious about you. A lot of women (me included) want to see that a man is determined to overcome obstacles for us to be together. I’m wondering why you couldn’t take the bus or an Uber or arrange a ride? Or have a Skype date?

The men I chose for relationships (including my husband) would have done anything to see me in the beginning. They made me feel desired, special, and a priority. I had no intersst in men who seemed to have a hard time “making things happen.” When she said you couldn’t “make up your mind,” perhaps she meant about whether you really wanted to be with her. A broken down car is a pretty small obstacle, IMO. And hey, I’m only trying to be helpful. I want you to “get the girl” and I know it can be really hard to know what we want

 

[Andrew77]

So it turns out my crush doesn't want to go with me to the movies anymore because she said I was making to many excuses as to why we couldn't go. I mean, my car broke down (I explained that to her) and I have no way to pick her up so I don't see that as an excuse. Even if it was that was really the only "excuse" I made. She also said I couldn't make up my mind which is even more confusing because I told her either this or next Friday we could go it just depends on when my car gets out the shop. I think she just lost interest in me and the date and she tried to find an excuse to get out of the it. I'm somewhat confused as to why she said I was making excuses but at the same time I don't care anymore. I guess God doesn't want us going on a date, or maybe just not now isn't the right time but I'm just going to pray and trust God. Any other tips for moving on and letting go?

She doesn't like you. Move on.

When women are coming up with endless reasons to end a relationship, it's because they don't like you, and they do not have the guts to simply say "I'm not interested in you".

This is normal. Most women do this. In fact, most men do this as well.
The bottom line is.... she doesn't like you, move on.

This isn't the girl for you. Just let it go. Find someone who does like you. This is the point of dating. It is to find someone to marry. This one isn't your girl. Just accept that, and start asking other girls out on a date, until you find someone who does like you.

This is also why I don't like crushes. People with crushes, get crushed. Better to find a good woman, and then go crazy over the good woman, than go crazy over a woman, and find out she isn't crazy about you.

Find a good girl first. Then fall in love and marry.

By the way, you shouldn't be dating unless you are mentally ready to marry. Relationships either grow closer, or fall apart. If you are only dating to mess around, you eventually will fall apart, and you will damage your soul doing that.

 

[SleepingAtLast]

Women like it when they can see that you are willing to sacrifice for them. Too many guys hemhaw about relationships and are unwilling to sacrifice, so women don't have a ton of patience for it. Still, she clearly wasn't very discerning or trusting of you in this scenario since you weren't dragging your feet in this case. If she doesn't have the patience and understanding now, it's hard for you to expect that she will have it later. Best to move on and find someone else when your car is up and running again.