I was involved with a foreign girl online until May. Then after for several months she kept telling me both how much she loved me and demeaning me completely. Recently I woke up to the fact that Satan always uses her to make me depressed and that she claims to have faith in God but really doesn't believe God works in mysterious ways at all. So I stopped believing pursuing her is a good idea. But now I am thinking she is not a good person to be friends with because she lies to everybody about her age, some people she says she has kids, some she says no she doesn't. She fusses at me for trying to get to know Christian girls on on nonchristian website, but is on a nonchristian website not professing to be a christian, and just looking for any man.
Recently she was worried about having difficulty talking to a man younger than me because he thinks he loves her.. And I come to realize she cares more about desperate people she thinks she can control. which further leads me to think she only cares about herself.
She types lots of prayers online for people, and leads a lot of people to think she is a loving, mature Christian.. But she even told me before she responds a lot so people will respond to her.. But even though i did not pay attention to it much, i realize she has constantly lied to people about me and others to turn people against each other.
When I joined this site she was saying i was cheating simply because some of my friends are girls that i talk to, even though i did not involve with them. Recently she said i said she is evil and bad simply because i pointed out some negative things she was doing to me and that they are hurtful. I told her some qualities i've come to realize a woman in a Christian relationship needs to have from meeting her and some sister, but she changes that to a lie that i said i plan to marry the other person. She says she is not jealous our most recent conversations are all her insulting me for working with this friend of mine and calling the woman my secret lover whom i replaced my ex with.. my ex that broke up with me even accidentally called herself my girlfriend in one of those conversations. She frequently tells me "as a Christian you should do everything for me" and she talks like everything in her life is my responsibility as a Christian and that i should be 100% devoted to her as a Christian even though she says she does not want me around, and she broke up with me.
Even recently she seemed to suggest that I needed to find a church for her in her country so she can meet foreign men..
She ruined our relationship and now she ruins our friendship but it hurts so much because even if i feel we are not a match, i still love her and i am hurt by all her lies and manipulation. how do i move on? i hate this idea that friendship is over because she wants it over because she isn't winning in manipulating me. But the same time I can't stand that she keeps going online winning people to her side by dishonesty and manipulation, pretending she cares about everybody so people will give her attention.
She even recently told a person I am working with that is just starting a business that i am stupid to work with her and not get a different job.. She also expressed that without her, I am nothing, that i am a poor man who nobody will help except her (but she hasn't helped me), and said i said things i didn't to defend herself for not doing anything. and for many months, even over a year, i put a lot of energy into helping her the best of my ability, but she says i did nothing. She says I ask her for help. but i only ask for prayer. everything else is stuff she offers but does not do even though she believes she is the solution to my troubles. she acts like she spent all her energy to help me, when that in fact is a lie, because she only helped me a bit by sending me cheap medicines that may or may not be dangerous (over the counter) before she knew me. when we were dating her "help" was trying to make me think like Bill Gates so i will make lots of money for her to marry me. after dating, sometimes she would send a webpage with advice on dealing with stuff, but the past several months she has been more concerned with insulting me and lying about me, yet the same time she gets mad if i tell her those are wrong and point out she needs to treat me better as a friend, and stop thinking of me as a tool like she even said to me after break up that is all i am to her.....
i do not know how to deal with it. it makes me feel sick and it eats me up. She will see this and say "if he is christian how can he say these things" but they are true. and i know she still is making a lot of men close to her and lying to them so she can marry one fast, but she complains at me for being honest and talking to girls that i am not pursuing until the Lord directs one is right...
It's always this way, she tries to manipulate me, lies about me even to me, says i need a lot of help, pretends i never helped her and acts like she should be my main focus even though she refuses to talk to me, and it hurts me deeply and she doesn't care. She says she thinks she needs to send me money, and acts like saying that is helping me a lot, when all i really need from her is a true Christian friendship which is loving, with honesty, encouragement, and constructive criticism, as well as prayer. Her trying to control me and destructive criticism and lies are not helping me. Neither is her elevating herself and saying of herself how great and good she is to defend herself for her negative action.
And dear, if you read this, i know it may hurt a little, but i am not trying to hurt you in telling the truth. i really cherish all the good times together and i love you, and will do what i feel the Lord leads because that is best even if we do not understand.
Recently she was worried about having difficulty talking to a man younger than me because he thinks he loves her.. And I come to realize she cares more about desperate people she thinks she can control. which further leads me to think she only cares about herself.
She types lots of prayers online for people, and leads a lot of people to think she is a loving, mature Christian.. But she even told me before she responds a lot so people will respond to her.. But even though i did not pay attention to it much, i realize she has constantly lied to people about me and others to turn people against each other.
When I joined this site she was saying i was cheating simply because some of my friends are girls that i talk to, even though i did not involve with them. Recently she said i said she is evil and bad simply because i pointed out some negative things she was doing to me and that they are hurtful. I told her some qualities i've come to realize a woman in a Christian relationship needs to have from meeting her and some sister, but she changes that to a lie that i said i plan to marry the other person. She says she is not jealous our most recent conversations are all her insulting me for working with this friend of mine and calling the woman my secret lover whom i replaced my ex with.. my ex that broke up with me even accidentally called herself my girlfriend in one of those conversations. She frequently tells me "as a Christian you should do everything for me" and she talks like everything in her life is my responsibility as a Christian and that i should be 100% devoted to her as a Christian even though she says she does not want me around, and she broke up with me.
Even recently she seemed to suggest that I needed to find a church for her in her country so she can meet foreign men..
She ruined our relationship and now she ruins our friendship but it hurts so much because even if i feel we are not a match, i still love her and i am hurt by all her lies and manipulation. how do i move on? i hate this idea that friendship is over because she wants it over because she isn't winning in manipulating me. But the same time I can't stand that she keeps going online winning people to her side by dishonesty and manipulation, pretending she cares about everybody so people will give her attention.
She even recently told a person I am working with that is just starting a business that i am stupid to work with her and not get a different job.. She also expressed that without her, I am nothing, that i am a poor man who nobody will help except her (but she hasn't helped me), and said i said things i didn't to defend herself for not doing anything. and for many months, even over a year, i put a lot of energy into helping her the best of my ability, but she says i did nothing. She says I ask her for help. but i only ask for prayer. everything else is stuff she offers but does not do even though she believes she is the solution to my troubles. she acts like she spent all her energy to help me, when that in fact is a lie, because she only helped me a bit by sending me cheap medicines that may or may not be dangerous (over the counter) before she knew me. when we were dating her "help" was trying to make me think like Bill Gates so i will make lots of money for her to marry me. after dating, sometimes she would send a webpage with advice on dealing with stuff, but the past several months she has been more concerned with insulting me and lying about me, yet the same time she gets mad if i tell her those are wrong and point out she needs to treat me better as a friend, and stop thinking of me as a tool like she even said to me after break up that is all i am to her.....
i do not know how to deal with it. it makes me feel sick and it eats me up. She will see this and say "if he is christian how can he say these things" but they are true. and i know she still is making a lot of men close to her and lying to them so she can marry one fast, but she complains at me for being honest and talking to girls that i am not pursuing until the Lord directs one is right...
It's always this way, she tries to manipulate me, lies about me even to me, says i need a lot of help, pretends i never helped her and acts like she should be my main focus even though she refuses to talk to me, and it hurts me deeply and she doesn't care. She says she thinks she needs to send me money, and acts like saying that is helping me a lot, when all i really need from her is a true Christian friendship which is loving, with honesty, encouragement, and constructive criticism, as well as prayer. Her trying to control me and destructive criticism and lies are not helping me. Neither is her elevating herself and saying of herself how great and good she is to defend herself for her negative action.
And dear, if you read this, i know it may hurt a little, but i am not trying to hurt you in telling the truth. i really cherish all the good times together and i love you, and will do what i feel the Lord leads because that is best even if we do not understand.
