How do I get through to a friend in a cult?

[Rose Kuo]

How to get throught to a friend in a cult.



My friend and I want to reconcile, but he is in a church that is a cult. I was in a cult for 12yrs and in his church for three and a half. I know what a cult is and I am free, at last. I am a very committed Christian and care greatly for my friend. He is afraid to go against the cult (church), it is a long story. I want to get to him but since I left the cult, they will not let me have any contact with my friend and keep threatening him. I do not know how to get through to him. I have had some people help me in a general way and I appreciate it. I have prayed for him every day for over 5 1/2 years but he is too afraid to make any great moves towards me. He does wish to reconcile and has tried, but he is always found out (they have bugged his phone, mail, email, etc.) and so I can't really get to speak with him. We do care greatly for each other and wish to be friends again. We are both married and have no alterior motives. But God has destined our friendship. I just wish that I could have a real go between who would arrange a meeting in a public place, restraunt or park, etc. for us so we could speak and get things settled and renew our friendship outside of the control of his cult. I am praying that I can help him get out of the cult someday. But for now I only wish to be reconciled and to cry and laugh with my dear friend again. I know through various means that he wishes this but is very afraid of the cult's power. The cult master at his church is always threatening him and has done so to me in the past. Any advice? How would you get through to him? Many are afraid of the church or cult's power. It is very demonic. Please pray for us.--Rose

 

[Lyle]

If this place is so evil, why do you call it a "church?" A chruch is a gathering a Christians, set apart from the world, to the name of Christ. This is nothing of the such if it is as you have discribed it.

This place, as many cults, try and control through fear. They threaten as to make themselves feel in power for their members are to afraid to do anything. This is not how Christ would lead, and He has led and conquared through love, not of fear. Romans tells us that we have not been given a spirit of bondage again to fear, but one of feedom and truth. "You shall know the truth and the truth will set you free." You friend needs to fully come to that pont and realize this is a lie, and no lie is of the truth. He needs to just walk away from this, despite the wrath of mortal men.. For who should he fear more, men who can kill him? Or God that can destory his body and soul in the eternal fires of hell? If he is willing, he must leave.

As for you. Remember that YOU cannot change the heart, only God can. All you can do is meet with him where it is fit and pray that God will use you in whatever way to reach him. God is in the business of saving souls.. But remember, a drop of honey will catch more flies then a tub of viniger. God will be with you.

 

[Rose Kuo]

I truly agree. I do not believe it is a church. But that big sign out in front of their building and the two thousand who go there on Sunday call it a church. But God knows. I have totally forgiven even the wicked leaders. I just miss my friend and know he feels trapped and that he can't leave. But God can help him. I just pray I might be able to speak with him and that he'd hear me. The cult knows that if he spoke with me the chances of him leaving or seeing something is wrong would be very great. But he has let himself believe a lie or lies out of fear. But God can and someday will change his heart. All I can do is keep loving him and praying. Please pray that someone will finally decide to help us meet so we can at least make things right with our own relationship. Thanks--Rose Kuo

 

[seangoh]

So how did you manage to leave this cult? And why can't your friend do the same?Does he want to leave it too but he's afraid of his leaders?

Anyway, perhaps you can seek your own church leaders for help. They should be able to help you in more practical ways.

 

[Rose Kuo]

Dear Seangoh,
I came out because I had a moment of crisis like most people who leave cults. Something bad has to happen to you in order to wake you up and often show you the true face of the leaders. My pastor and leaders at my new church are wonderful, but they are confused like the rest of the people in my community. The Cult is good at acting holy and so only those who have been inside know how dark it is. I have met others who were devastated and they are too intimidated to come forward. So all my church has to go on is my word and the other church/cult says that nothing bad ever happened and that I am confused. However many know that I am not exaggerating in the least, but they can not come forward out of fear.

Fear is the key word here and my sweet friend is full of fear. He is afraid of loosing his job, family, friends, and reputation. I lost everything but my family since they saw first hand how I was treated.

I have forgiven all of them. They must stand before God who I pray is merciful to them. But my friend is a dear sensitive person, afraid and lost. I just want to show him unconditional love and forgiveness and be reconciled to him. The others are not my responsibility. God has just given me this friend to plead for daily before His throne. I pray for the others but am not trying to make contact with them. My friend and I want to reconcile and be friends again. This is the difference and God wants to get glory from this.

Thank you for praying--Rose