How do I deal with this unusual sort of mourning?

[HoneyBee]

I am someone who has not lost someone close to them yet. I thank the Lord for that, but at the same time, I still find myself mourning for people. I mourn for people who have passed away long ago, most of which I have never even known. I don't know what it is, but something in my heart just hurts for these people that I mourn for. I get sad over people that have died in tragic accidents, awful historical events, and even those who are unidentified and are not likely to ever be identified. It's not that I go out of my way most times to look for these stories and people, but sometimes I still think about them.

When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them, especially the unidentified and the missing. I remember mentioning this sometime back and someone telling me that feeling sad like this isn't normal. I suppose it isn't normal, but I can't seem to help it either. Maybe I care too much, or maybe I just need to look at things from another perspective.

I assume that not every soul I think about will be going to Heaven, but if I think about it, my tears also aren't doing anything to achieve that for them either. I don't think it's a bad thing that I care, but perhaps to ease some of my sadness, I can remember that some of these lost souls have made it to Heaven and are currently at peace in a place where pain and sadness do not exist. That being said, I also wonder if perhaps this mourning sadness that I feel at times could be me trying to deal with something else under the surface that I cannot see? I wouldn't know, but I think it's a possibility.

What thoughts might the rest of you have about this?

 

[Aussie Pete]

I am someone who has not lost someone close to them yet. I thank the Lord for that, but at the same time, I still find myself mourning for people. I mourn for people who have passed away long ago, most of which I have never even known. I don't know what it is, but something in my heart just hurts for these people that I mourn for. I get sad over people that have died in tragic accidents, awful historical events, and even those who are unidentified and are not likely to ever be identified. It's not that I go out of my way most times to look for these stories and people, but sometimes I still think about them.

When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them, especially the unidentified and the missing. I remember mentioning this sometime back and someone telling me that feeling sad like this isn't normal. I suppose it isn't normal, but I can't seem to help it either. Maybe I care too much, or maybe I just need to look at things from another perspective.

I assume that not every soul I think about will be going to Heaven, but if I think about it, my tears also aren't doing anything to achieve that for them either. I don't think it's a bad thing that I care, but perhaps to ease some of my sadness, I can remember that some of these lost souls have made it to Heaven and are currently at peace in a place where pain and sadness do not exist. That being said, I also wonder if perhaps this mourning sadness that I feel at times could be me trying to deal with something else under the surface that I cannot see? I wouldn't know, but I think it's a possibility.

What thoughts might the rest of you have about this?

Someone said that the world is a comedy to those who think and a tragedy to those who feel. We need to guard our thoughts and not allow ourselves to be drained by unnecessary sorrows. One way is to focus on good things - you can't think two thoughts at the same time. I'm fairly objective with almost no visual imagination. I do not watch the news, I read it on the internet. It's easier for me to handle words. They don't produce images in my head. I have a friend who visualises everything. We are all different. If we follow Paul's advice, (Philippians 4:8)

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things" -

It will help us greatly. You should ask Lord Jesus to help you. Our emotions should not control us. We need to live by truth and reality.

 

[Mayflower1]

I am someone who has not lost someone close to them yet. I thank the Lord for that, but at the same time, I still find myself mourning for people. I mourn for people who have passed away long ago, most of which I have never even known. I don't know what it is, but something in my heart just hurts for these people that I mourn for. I get sad over people that have died in tragic accidents, awful historical events, and even those who are unidentified and are not likely to ever be identified. It's not that I go out of my way most times to look for these stories and people, but sometimes I still think about them.

When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them, especially the unidentified and the missing. I remember mentioning this sometime back and someone telling me that feeling sad like this isn't normal. I suppose it isn't normal, but I can't seem to help it either. Maybe I care too much, or maybe I just need to look at things from another perspective.

I assume that not every soul I think about will be going to Heaven, but if I think about it, my tears also aren't doing anything to achieve that for them either. I don't think it's a bad thing that I care, but perhaps to ease some of my sadness, I can remember that some of these lost souls have made it to Heaven and are currently at peace in a place where pain and sadness do not exist. That being said, I also wonder if perhaps this mourning sadness that I feel at times could be me trying to deal with something else under the surface that I cannot see? I wouldn't know, but I think it's a possibility.

What thoughts might the rest of you have about this?

What a tender heart. It is a good thing you have that compassion, because it can spur you to pray for others and even be the hands and feet. Prayer is a big thing that you can do that moves mountains. Godly sorrow is good. It moves mountains. Depression isn't good, but Godly sorrow is.

 

[Waymarker]

..When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them..

Chill..
"Do not grieve for those asleep, for they sleep in Jesus" (1 Thessalonians 4:13-14)

 

[BobRyan]

I am someone who has not lost someone close to them yet. I thank the Lord for that, but at the same time, I still find myself mourning for people. I mourn for people who have passed away long ago, most of which I have never even known. I don't know what it is, but something in my heart just hurts for these people that I mourn for. I get sad over people that have died in tragic accidents, awful historical events, and even those who are unidentified and are not likely to ever be identified. It's not that I go out of my way most times to look for these stories and people, but sometimes I still think about them.

When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them, especially the unidentified and the missing.

God remembers . Only His memory counts when it is all said and done.

1 Thess 4:
13 But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those who are asleep, so that you will not grieve as indeed the rest of mankind do, who have no hope. 14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose from the dead, so also God will bring with Him those who have fallen asleep through Jesus. 15 For we say this to you by the word of the Lord, that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord will not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 Then we who are alive, who remain, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. 18 Therefore, comfort one another with these words.

 

[Gentle Lamb]

Maybe since you feel so sorrowful for these people and you do not know where their souls have gone, what you can do is turn your attention and prayers to the lost souls of this world and begin to intercede for their salvation. That is a way to put your emotion and attention on the present rather than the past, and God will work through your prayers by the power of the Holy Spirit to save lost souls. God bless your tender heart and sweet spirit.

 

[mama2one]

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[aiki]

I am someone who has not lost someone close to them yet. I thank the Lord for that, but at the same time, I still find myself mourning for people. I mourn for people who have passed away long ago, most of which I have never even known. I don't know what it is, but something in my heart just hurts for these people that I mourn for. I get sad over people that have died in tragic accidents, awful historical events, and even those who are unidentified and are not likely to ever be identified. It's not that I go out of my way most times to look for these stories and people, but sometimes I still think about them.

When I think of my reasons for feeling sad, I always come to the conclusion that I want to remember these people because someone ought to remember them and care about them, especially the unidentified and the missing. I remember mentioning this sometime back and someone telling me that feeling sad like this isn't normal. I suppose it isn't normal, but I can't seem to help it either. Maybe I care too much, or maybe I just need to look at things from another perspective.

I assume that not every soul I think about will be going to Heaven, but if I think about it, my tears also aren't doing anything to achieve that for them either. I don't think it's a bad thing that I care, but perhaps to ease some of my sadness, I can remember that some of these lost souls have made it to Heaven and are currently at peace in a place where pain and sadness do not exist. That being said, I also wonder if perhaps this mourning sadness that I feel at times could be me trying to deal with something else under the surface that I cannot see? I wouldn't know, but I think it's a possibility.

What thoughts might the rest of you have about this?

What is the point, the purpose of, your feeling badly for the deceased? Does it help them at all? No. Does it help the friends, and family, and descendants of the deceased? No. Does it honor God to feel this general sadness for the dead? No. He is not the God of the dead but of the living, the Bible says. All the dead are in God's hands, who is dealing with them with perfect justice, holiness, and grace. About what, then, is there to be sad?

There are always two sides to the various dispositions of personality we possess as human beings: a positive, constructive side and a negative, destructive one. Which side is "ascendant" within a person is determined by who is in control of the particular personality trait, God or Self. If Self is in control, the trait inevitably reflects that this is so, reflecting the sin-cursed corruption that is at the heart of Self (Jeremiah 17:9; Titus 3:3; Ephesians 2:1-3): Attention to detail becomes obsessiveness and perfectionism; traits of organization become controlling and demanding; mildness becomes passivity and deceitfulness; a desire to help becomes the inability to say "no," to set reasonable boundaries, and so on. Sympathy, too, can be made into an ugly thing under the control of Self rather than God. Sympathy can become sentimental - even maudlin - virtue-signaling, demonstrating one's moral superiority, one's virtue, by mourning the suffering and loss of others. In this way, Self uses the pain of others to display its own superior goodness. Is this you? I'm not saying it is; I'm just drawing attention to the possibility.

When God is in control of your sympathetic nature, your sympathy will reflect Him, His character, His truth. It will not be uncontrolled and contrary to God's truth, but manifesting the wisdom, peace, joy and hope of the Spirit, in all things glorifying God. (1 Corinthians 10:31)

 

[tturt]

Asks God to remove this burden. Then when it starts happening, you could immediately say Scripture such as the joy of the Lord is my strength, your love is better than life, and thank Him for His peace.

Repeat as needed.