How do i cope??

[Kirley]

I've been in here b4 like last year some time & haven't been on here for a while... but i just wanna know how u guys cope with things other than thru my eating. Its soo hard!! nething that happens i just go bak to not eating (i have anorexic tendencies -altho i stil dont fully admit it). I have an arguement with my mum (which is quite often) i'l not eat.. i'l have a tiff with my bf... i'll not eat. if u read my blog.. atm i'm not eating cuz of this stuff with my friend..just anything. there is no other way to deal with stuff. If i do sumthin wrong then i have to make myself do this. for screwing up stuff in my life i have to punish myself... for things with my friend getting into situations where i have no idea what to do at all.. no way to decide, so at least i can make this decision.. to lose weight again and again... i just cant c ne other way to it.

 

[Sharri14]

Your not alone.
When I feel insecure with my bf or something goes wrong the way I cope is not to eat. I've been doing good for a while until recently, with things going on with my bf, forget it I am almost a size 6 now.



/S

 

[Music4Hym777]

Oh honey, youre not alone, I feel the same way, for me its not so much of punishing myself more of wanting to numb the pain of life. Have you tried anything else? For me what really helps is a nice hot shower and I just go in and cry, there was a point where I was taking 3 or 4 showers a day, but it helped. Is there someone that you can talk to that can make you eat. I know my fiance did that for me in the early part of recovery, my recovery wasn't easy, but it was so worth it!

PM me if you need me!

 

[Kirley]

Your not alone.
When I feel insecure with my bf or something goes wrong the way I cope is not to eat. I've been doing good for a while until recently, with things going on with my bf, forget it I am almost a size 6 now.



/S

size 6 ?:S that is what i am.. but i think ur goin by american sizing...well im a size 6 australian and i think thats like a 0 American...i think ??

No i havne't tried anything else becuz i dont know wat i should try... as for the shower thing i'm hardly ever home...i'm like at work or at my bf's or out...but its an interesting idea but i dont know wat else to do..like wat do 'normal' (term used loosely) ppl do to cope with things people without ed's

 

[Kirley]

Is there someone that you can talk to that can make you eat.

:Yeah one of my best friends i'm able to talk to him.. it takes me a while but i usually blurt it out to him. Its just sumtimes he doesnt' know wat to say or do and the things he does think will help will only make things worse. But yeah i talk to him a bit but sumtimes hes in the situation that causes me to not eat:S that prolly dont make sense but if u read my last blog entry u mite get it.

 

[blessedmomof5]

ok first i need to say no sizes ladies way to triggering........ way way to triggering. if you new what size iwas, that would trigger you. so we try hard not to do that here...ok. now has any of you tried therapy? i might be in the midst of my ED still and much older than u but i am in therapy.....why not give that a try if you want the help....

 

[Kirley]

no.. i dont want to go see anyone cuz i dont want to have an ed. i dont want to believe that i have one, and i know they will make me put all the weight i have fought so hard to lose. And i dont want to be a financial burden on my parents even if i knew i should go see someone. (sorri bout the trigger thing )

 

[blessedmomof5]

Just a few questions.

lets see

how would u like to be me 42 yrs young and still having ana

i was lucky i was able to have kids fert drugs....

i still have the raging battle in my head everyday, the voices

tried to kill myself 2xs...unbearable the longer u live with it the harder it is to escape.....

you think u are a finacale burden now wait......i think you really need to think about it long and hard and do some praying also.......if you don't want to have an ED go see someone...oh and btw if you are the size you say you are thats when my husband first realized there might be a probelm have your parents noticed?

 

[Sharri14]

Your right, I should not have mentioned sizes didn't realize that til now, sorry.
I was heavy all of my life. It was like over 2 years ago when I seemed to miss meals. I have been doing good the last year. I ran into my bf whom I went to church with when we were 16. Have not seen him in 20 years and ran into him we've been together since, even though its only been a few months.

Things crashed Oct 13, and well whatever, now to cope with the pain and the horror of the crap that goes on in my head. Some days I eat okay, others I may miss a meal.
Before I started to do better, I was going to see someone but I don't feel like waiting for 3 months just to get in to talk to someone. I write in a journal, it helps me get my thoughts and feelings out on paper. Talk to someone, ROFL friends? what are they? these days they never stick around.

/S

 

[blessedmomof5]

Do any of you attend church? how about your pastor? pastor of counsling? i know that in my church they know what is going on, and always ask if they could do something for me or if i wanna talk.....try there that might be a start?

 

[Kirley]

you think u are a finacale burden now wait......i think you really need to think about it long and hard and do some praying also.......if you don't want to have an ED go see someone...oh and btw if you are the size you say you are thats when my husband first realized there might be a probelm have your parents noticed?

i have always been very small for my size... same as my sister now... thats genetics, my mum has always been little in size (not from ne probs that just our family) my cousins **mum's sisters children** r all small as well, so no the size doesnt mean nethin to them... my mum knows i went thru a time but she doesn't know i'm stil goin thru it really bad sumdays still. my mum n i dont get along at all i try to avoid her as much as possible cuz uda wise we fight. so i dont talk to her.... as for the church thing i gave up on that idea fully last yr, but haven't really been interested in it for a long time. and even if i did stay in the church where my mum goes then the pastors would not beeven approachable.. the way they r to familys in my church isn't very 'pastorlike'

 

[Music4Hym777]

i have always been very small for my size... same as my sister now... thats genetics, my mum has always been little in size (not from ne probs that just our family) my cousins **mum's sisters children** r all small as well, so no the size doesnt mean nethin to them... my mum knows i went thru a time but she doesn't know i'm stil goin thru it really bad sumdays still. my mum n i dont get along at all i try to avoid her as much as possible cuz uda wise we fight. so i dont talk to her.... as for the church thing i gave up on that idea fully last yr, but haven't really been interested in it for a long time. and even if i did stay in the church where my mum goes then the pastors would not beeven approachable.. the way they r to familys in my church isn't very 'pastorlike'

Genetics are an important thing to consider, but it is not all of it.

With the pastor thing, I do know how you feel, I had a pastor who didn't even take me seriously when I told him about my ED, so that got really frustrating and I just gave up trying to talk to him about it. MY family has since switched churches and the pastor of where I am now is amazing and has really been a huge help!

 

[fanintoflame]

i haven't read through all the replies but... my suggestion would be to find a replacement for food. I know so you might be thinking then I will end up obsessing over something else. But maybe an activity which takes the focus off food or yourself would help. Say for example you are upset about something. Instead of choosing not to eat (which is really only a punishment to yourself), try journalling what you feel (and then moving on to something else). ??? I dunno I hope this helps...