Okay so, I've been on here so many times trying to analyze my relationship with my bf... I'm calling it off. He's not ready to marry me, we came very close to committing "all the way" kind of sexual sin, and in general I don't respect him as I should.
However. In the last 24 hours I've said some very mean things to him. He said he was hurt, I did a 180 and asked him not to break up (I felt dread in me when he said he was hurt, but I didn't want him to break up with me, I wanted to be the one to do it). He said we need to take a break until Saturday.
I wrote him an apology I intend to read him, because he's a person and deserves not to be sinned against (my foul words). Once I'm done reading that, I want to then politely tell him I want to break up.
Two thoughts I have:
1) after I apologize, ask him what he wants to do and hope he says break up
2) tell him I want to break up right after I apologize
I don't want to tell him I disrespect him, except--I already did last night.
So how would I politely word it that we should end things? He made mistakes on his part and I don't want to minimize those; I had told him I want to get married and he didn't take much initiative at all to move us along towards that. It's been a year and he should know by now if he wants to get married. I mean, I could just say that?
However. In the last 24 hours I've said some very mean things to him. He said he was hurt, I did a 180 and asked him not to break up (I felt dread in me when he said he was hurt, but I didn't want him to break up with me, I wanted to be the one to do it). He said we need to take a break until Saturday.
I wrote him an apology I intend to read him, because he's a person and deserves not to be sinned against (my foul words). Once I'm done reading that, I want to then politely tell him I want to break up.
Two thoughts I have:
1) after I apologize, ask him what he wants to do and hope he says break up
2) tell him I want to break up right after I apologize
I don't want to tell him I disrespect him, except--I already did last night.
So how would I politely word it that we should end things? He made mistakes on his part and I don't want to minimize those; I had told him I want to get married and he didn't take much initiative at all to move us along towards that. It's been a year and he should know by now if he wants to get married. I mean, I could just say that?