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Get with your husband and ask the Lord what He wants you to do

My husband and I did that-- God wanted us to really step out of our comfort zone and we are letting Him plan the size of the family.

Im not saying He will say the same thing, but I believe it's best to let the Lord have a say in it :)
 
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As some of you know, my husband is 19 years older than me and our 16mth old was born when I was 31. Since you probably don't feel like doing math...my husband was 50. It was an age thing at first but, not anymore. I wanted six but we've scaled that down to three or four. We are praying for medical insurance in the next few months so that we can have another child and are hoping to adopt in a year or two. If God blesses us with more children...Great! If not, we'll deal with that, too.
 
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First I would say to be sure and pray about it and seek God's wisdom and guidance. Then, I would suggest that you and your husband would sit down and discuss this at some length. I don't think there is a "one answer fits all" with regards to this kind of topic so it really boils down to God's will for your lives; and what you and your husband decide is "right" for you. God bless you!
 
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HeatherJay said:
LOL, both of ours were happy accidents. We really didn't plan them at all.

Mine too!! ;)

When we found out we were pregnant with my daughter, my husband said (this is a direct quote) "WHAT?! I thought we weren't having kids! Are you sure? I don't believe it. How did this happen? I don't believe it. and I won't until the doctor says so. Why are you crying?"

Who knows when's the right time! There's an argument for both having them close together and a little further apart. But we're living on God's time anyway. I would pray about it. What's most important is that you and your husband are in agreement. Sometimes I find that when I'm dealing with something on a more emotional level, God uses my husband to sort of bring me back to earth. And then, vice versa.
 
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We just leave it up to God. Mike says he wants 6 and i said no lol so he cut it down to four and I said no lol I said 3 maybe. I have been debating about this but we decided to leave it to God and see what is His will. If God blesses us with 6 children I will be happy but if He blesses with just the two we got I will be happy with that too. Mike says the same thing. We aren't on any birthcontrol. So we always have chance of being pregnant.
 
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Daniels Mommy said:
You wanted to have more children? I want to have three, our ds is almost 11 months old as hard as that is for me to believe. Dh is not ready to try again and neither am I. But when do you think is the right time??

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HI, I have a Daniel too (he is 3 though)

If you both aren't ready to try again, then don't.

I wasn't even thinking about it until our son was nearly 2. We decided to wait until his 2nd birthday then we would sit down together and pray about it. God gave us the go ahead to have another baby, but it took 11mths to conceive our second child. I am due in July.
 
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