How did you know?

[Sketcher]

When you met your spouse, how did you know he or she was the one for you? How did you know it was the right time to get together? And for those of you who were Christians at the time, how did you know that it was God's will for you to date, engage, and marry this person?

 

[Svt4Him]

I knew when I said "Will you marry me?" and she said "Yes". Time? Well, we were both going the same direction, so we decided to do it together. Did God join us? Yes, but I don't believe in the 'one from God' as I believe if you seek God, God will direct your steps, and anyone you marry will be a blessing.

 

[Jenna]

I knew that he was the guy for me when I just realized one day that even for our funkiness together, I'd like to be around him for the rest of my life. Sounds too simple, eh? lol I knew it was the right time because we were having sex and reaping the consequences, and there's never a better time than the present to correct a poor situation. So, we got married, and now we sit around and look at each other and wish we could do it all over again, just for the heck of it. *laughs*

 

[Violet]

I was not a Christian when I met my husband. I was a bartender and dating all kind of guys. I was so fed up w/not meeting someone who was interested in a relationship. So I prayed (which was a very very rare occasion) and asked God to please send someone my way that will help my life become more fulfilling. I described details I needed in my mate. I even asked for specific physical qualities...I then laughed and said "okay, I'm overdoing it, aren't I?" I didn't think about the prayer much because I figured He probably wasn't listening to me anyway since I was not a Christian. But then I met my husband 2 weeks later...and he's what I described to a "T".....even his facial features were exact. I knew right then. And he told me that he knew right then too. I don't believe that I would be a Christian today if I had not met my husband. I think I'd still be a lonley bartender. I'm so blessed!!


Let me just add this ~ I knew without a doubt he was my soul mate when I was telling him I love him and "love" just didn't seem like a strong enough word. I would feel it so strongly that I would cry. That's how I knew the Lord brought us together.

 

[WolfGate]

Didn't know when I first met her. In fact I dated her roommate for about 3 months.

I was set up horribly.

It was during that three months I was dating her roommate that my wife and I became good friends - but obviously nothing romantic. It was my senior year in college, and I'd decided that I was only going to date casually - not get serious about anyone since I didn't know where I'd be the next year. So dating her roommate was pretty relaxed and not at all serious (nothing more than hand holding and light kiss good night). However, as my wife and I became better friends, she began to feel an attraction and I did too, but I was in denial.

Then the week before homecoming football game (and I had to have a date), her roommate told me she didn't want to date anymore and wouldn't go to homecoming with me. My wife, on the other hand, had turned down 3 or 4 guys for homecoming dates leading up to that week. So, here we both were, "coincidentally" without dates. I had to ask her. The two women had talked about the situation, and schemed to get me and my wife together.

We've been together ever since. Once we went out, it was clear our friendship was deep and sincere. I didn't know I'd marry her right away, but after we dated only a couple of months, I knew. It just turned out the more we got to know each other, the more right it seemed.

We were not Christians at the time; in fact I wasn't saved until 10 years later. But looking at it now, with both of us following Christ, I can see God still sent me the woman I was destined to be with, serving Him.

Edited to add: I think threads about these types of stories are a lot of fun. Just don't tell anyone, cause I'm a man, and we aren't supposed to like this kind of stuff

 

[bkg]

Truth? I knew the moment she said "hi, my name is Anne" when I was 15... No lie. Can't explain it.

 

[DaveKerwin]

Nothing super magic for me. We got to know each other, and both felt lead by God. After dating it became obvious what our future was to hold. The only unknown after dating a while was when I would propose.

There is no magical way to know who God has for you. All I can say is that you should follow God will all your heart, and pay attention to his leading as you go. You'll be fine.

 

[WashedClean]

I knew I would marry my husband on our third date, which was his niece's wedding. We were sitting in the pew at church and I said to myself, "I'm going to marry this man". He said he felt the same way, but we didn't tell each other.

We met through a personal ad, although we went to the same high school and jr. high school, our paths never crossed. We got engaged three months to the day we met and have been together almost 15 wonderful years, married 13.

Neither of us were Christians when we married. I became one 3 years ago and my hubby is still unsaved. But I really feel that the Lord brought us together and I have so much hope for my husband's salvation. I know the Lord is working on his heart. I'm so blessed to have him as my husband and best friend. OK, I'm starting to cry, gotta end this!

 

[Sketcher]

Thanks for the stories, keep 'em coming. I'm trying to get as much wisdom in this area I can find.

 

[Sailor's Wife]

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[selune]

My heart laughed and sang. Yes I know comedians can make you laugh, but not like this. I knew he was the one from the first couple of meetings, I never felt like that around anyone. Not just infatuation--googoo feelings, but profound amazement that I could ever again not be with this guy. We started dating a few weeks after we met and married about 18 months after we met. I'm so glad that God didn't let me miss this guy.

 

[I'ddie4him]

I met my wife E-Beth thru ICQ at Thanksgiving of 2000, We met for the first time in person at New Years, Dated for about 2 months when I surprised her with an engagment ring on Feb 2nd, I couldn't wait for Valentines day, We got married July 7th, 2001. We have been together 3 1/2 years now, Our 3rd anniversary is coming up, and I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN !!!!!! I don't have any regrets about marrying her, We were both Christians and had been in bad marriages before, So, For us to be happy seemed almost out of our reach.
But, With our 2 year old tornado, Matthew, running around and strewing things from one end of the room to the other, and terrorizing the kitty cat, We still sit back, look at each other, laugh and say this is the life !!!!!


HAPPY ANNIVERSARY EARLY HONEY !!!

 

[E-beth]

Awww...aren't you sweet...

I suppose I oughta rep you or something.

 

[SarahAblaze06]

wow i can't wait till i have that knowing feel.

i suppose that if you are with someone adn are not sure and you are looking on here for everyone elses story that maybe you should wait a little bit longer, get to know one another better. and maybe, just maybe when God has ordained, you will KNOW!! I'm so silly these posts get me all excited in an AWWWW kindof way!!!

 

[Sketcher]

I will know? I've fooled myself into thinking that God was providing someone for me when He was not. I'm not making that mistake again.

I guess next time around I'll listen to my friends a lot more.

 

[DaveKerwin]

I will know? I've fooled myself into thinking that God was providing someone for me when He was not. I'm not making that mistake again.

I guess next time around I'll listen to my friends a lot more.

Be cautious not to trust in signs. Surely God could use a sign or circumstance to communicate to you, but I think you should look for more than just a sign! Friends and family can provide great insight.

Seriously, concern yourself with obeying and folowing Christ, the rest fades away.

 

[LiberatedChick]

My fiance and I met at school when we were 14. We were friends at first and he really liked me. Took him a year to get the courage to ask me out though. I wasn't really interested in him, or any other guys for that matter until I was 16 and feeling lonely. I wanted to be with someone and thought I should get back with an ex-boyfriend of mine...I eventually realised that the guy for me was right under my nose...the guy that had fancied me and been my friend for the past two years. At 16 we were boyfriend and girlfriend...five months later he asked me to marry him. That's when I knew he was who I should be with for the rest of my life. We were on cloud nine that day...I felt like I was dreaming. After four years together it still feels like this is a dream. Now I've just looked at the clock and realise that it's 1am on Friday, that means it's our wedding day tomorrow....now it's feeling like a dream come true.

 

[Dirac_Notation]

The first day we met. There she was. I was 19, and I had never had an immediate interest in anyone ever before. I wanted to get to know that one a little better. Once we started dating, I knew I couldn't let her go...And she stole my jacket...

 

[E-beth]

sounds like she stole more than that.

 

[EmSchmem]

Mine is kind of a long story. I can say with total truth that I wanted my husband the first moment I laid eyes on him. A guy I was dating took me to a volleyball party/cookout at his friends' house. It turned out to be put on by this bible study group. I wasn't a Christian but I've always been fascinated by religions so I was really interested. The people were so cool and we were standing there talking and I mentioned that I like baseball and one of the guys there said Oh you should talk to Graig then," and pointed to him. I turned around and saw him. He was sitting in a beanbag chair,playing guitar, and wearing a very tacky tank top. But MAN did he have great eyes and a SEXY set of shoulders! Woah baby! Of course I wasn't a Christian and didn't have the right things in my mind. Six months later when I had dumped the guy and started going to that bible study, he was still there and still cute as all get out. I've always worn my heart right on my sleeve and everyone knew I liked him even though I didn't make any moves toward him or anything. I started dating this guy in the bible study who was constantly mad at me becuase HE knew I liked Graig. Like I said it was pretty obvious. So I broke up with the guy and decided to be single for a good long time. I prayed all the time that God would mold me into the woman that was right for Graig and I prayed for Graig and his walk a LOT. I asked God to give me the patience to wait for Graig and thay God would make him attracted to me. In July of 2001 I had a dinner party for some friends and somehow he was the only one to show up. It was so akward but we end up looking at some pictures of me and he says now that that was the first time he noticed my smile (his favorite feature of mine!). A few days later we went on a road trip to a baseball game and he spent 20 minutes on the way back telling me all about how he never ever ever ever ever planned on dating me. He said that he knew I'd been hurt by men before and he didn't want to be added to that list. Obviously I was crushed but at the same time I felt very loved by him. Despite seeing each other 3 or 4 days a week at church stuff we stopped talking totally for about a month. Both of us look at that as a very sad and lonely time in our lives. When some of my friends and I were moving into a house we rented, we had a painting party and I asked to talk to him alone there. I told him I thought we were being silly and we were missing out on a great friendship because of one stupid uncomfortable moment. I didn't know that in that month he had started liking me!!!! At any rate he agreed and we began to spend time together.
NOW! HE will tell you that he knew he'd marry me in January of 2002 (He remembers the date I don't). We had gone to Barnes and Noble bookstore and read kids books to each other. He went home, listened to sappy love ballads and wrote his wedding vows. We weren't even dating yet. We were dating for about six months before I knew I could marry him (before I just WANTED to marry him). We had gone to the state fair and went on the dounle ferris wheel. I had this huge full blown panic attack and freaked out completely. He just held me really tight and close and told me over and over that it was ok and he was right there and he wasn't going anywhere and gave me permission to throw up on him (I missed thankfully). Right then I knew we could get married.
The things I didn't know, that now tell me that we definately are a "match made in Heaven" is that the whole time I was praying for him, he was praying for me. He constantly prayed to honor me in our relationship and to be able to guard my heart and to protect me. I hear those things now and fall deeper and deepr in love with him. He is the absolute bestest husband!