How did you know when...

[Loki]

How did you know when you were ready to get married?  What did it feel like?  Did you and your partner come to the same thoughts simultaneously and independently? 

Just looking for some advice here because my s.o. and I have been discussing our future quite a bit lately.

Thanks

Loki

 

[lucypevensie]

My husband knew he wanted to marry me before I knew I wanted to marry him. It just took a little time before I knew it too. I knew it was time when I no longer felt afraid of the concept of me being married. We knew eac other well. We trusted each other. I knew he was going to be faithful and wasn't going to be a jerky wife-beater or something like that.

One thing is for sure, I 'd never advise someone to just rush into marriage. Don't ever get married because you feel pressured to by someone else.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Me?
I had a little too much fun when I was younger.
I guess when I had run the wild out of myself I decided that I was ready to settle down. I was ready to let go of that. The girl I married, I loved her, but I've loved a girl before. What was different? Holly was a girl who I knew would make a good wife. She was also the perfect example of my "help meet" as teh bible calls it. We have a groove like I can't describe. It's just cool. I realized I would be completely stupid if I didn't marry this girl. She was perfect for me.
Marrying Holly has been the best 4.5 years of my life so far.

 

[Evening Mist]

I felt attached to him in a way that made me realize I wanted him around always. I didn't "choose" him anymore than I "chose" my brothers or my parents or my children. I just realized one day that we were family and that was that.

 

[seebs]

Well, this isn't necessarily the best advice anyone could give, but in my particular case, after the first time we had sex, I looked her in the eyes and said "'til death do us part", and she said "'til death do us part", and we've never looked back. This was a year or two before we got married, according to the government; I have no idea what God's take on the matter is, although He's made it pretty clear that we're married now, whether or not there's any irregularities in the paperwork.

 

[Loki]

We're not looking at anything soon; it'd be some years on account of schooling and such. But it's been mentioned. And it's sort of exhilirating

 

[Evening Mist]

And it's sort of exhilirating

yup!

 

[jayebrownlee]

Snady and I knew at about the same time, unfortunately we were both too shy to tell each other, one day it sort of cropped up in conversation and then we decided to do it, I can't wait until we get married (5 and a bit months to go!!). God has brought us together, we will be brilliant together.

Jay

 

[HigherPraiz]

From the point that me and my husband met we just knew. We had been friends for a while and we decided to see what the dating thing was like between us. It obviously worked...But we knew because everytime we would see each other its like this love between lighted up the room, and people would ask about us. They would ask "When is the wedding day?" "Why wait get married." Things like that, and it was magic. I also, kind of started seeing signs in our relationship. Things like...Odd visits, random gifts, random nights out, and we started shopping for wedding things...When we started doing that I just knew! Its a passion that you cant really described other than WOW! Its a awesome feeling. But DO NOT rush into it! I did and ended up with a child before I got married! So dont rush it and stay true to God and he will show you the way.

 

[Svt4Him]

I love my wife, and I'm glad I married her, although it's been hard at times. But if I had married someone else, and if she had, then I'd think I'd love that wife the same. I do not believe in the 'one perfect mate', I believe God gives you desires, and common sense, and you are expected to use wisdom. Once I met the girl I could see myself wanting to be with, I knew I'd marry her when I asked and she said yes.

Well, this isn't necessarily the best advice anyone could give, but in my particular case, after the first time we had sex, I looked her in the eyes and said "'til death do us part", and she said "'til death do us part", and we've never looked back. This was a year or two before we got married, according to the government; I have no idea what God's take on the matter is, although He's made it pretty clear that we're married now, whether or not there's any irregularities in the paperwork.

Do you really not know what God calls that? And do you really believe you can be married 'in God's eyes' and ignore 'irregularities in the paperwork'? I'd be willing to bet you do know what God's take on it is.

 

[Wolflily]

I had been about to engage in the wrong relationship with the wrong guy, and in my heart I knew it. I had only become a Christian a few months before but I knew I needed God to help guide me in this, so I asked Him to show me if this person was the one He wanted me to be with or not. After a couple of weeks of "proof" I knew he was not, and decided not to pursue it. Three weeks later I met the man I was to marry.

I didn't know the first time I met him that he was "the one" but he knew the first time he met me. It was like the Lord put in his heart, "This is the one I've set apart for you" He almost blew it by bringing up marriage on the second date! And he kept bringing it up the first two months we dated until I put a moratorium on the subject. I said, 'Can't we just have some FUN and get to know each other? I'm starting to get anxiety every time we go out waiting for the dreaded "M" word to pop up!!"

So, he honored my request (I gave him a two month moratorium on the subject of marriage) and as soon as the time was up, he got down to business and proposed. I knew by then that God intended for us to spend our lives together and I found the best friend I'd always longed for in a mate. We have a really strong, really terrific marriage. Some of the rough spots will always be hard (like each others' families - whose doesn't drive you crazy?!) but we always talk it out.

It helps that neither one of us has a problem with anger and we don't get mad easily - but that also took a lot of growing up to get here because neither one of us was always quite so easy going in our youth!

 

[bkg]

I may not be the best example, considering it has ended....

But I knew that I wanted to spend my life with her the moment she said "hi, my name is ****" our sophomore year of high school. I can't explain it, I just knew.

We didn't see each other for about 12 years, but I always knew she was the one that God wanted me to be with.

The moment we saw each other again, it was all confirmed - we belonged together, even if we didn't know it.

The moment we kissed (july 26, 2000 - I'm a sap) after "getting back together", I told her I loved her.

There has never been any doubt that I would marry her, that I would want to spend the rest of my life with her. Been divorced almost 5 months now - there's still no doubt in my mind, in my heart, in my soul that she is the one that God wants me to be with. And as I stand for this marriage, I do so because of the full knowledge of God's will for us that I've believed since I was 15...

Praise God that he allowed me to marry the girl of my dreams...

 

[mpshiel]

We went through three stages:

1) We really, really, really like each other but are too scared to say the "M" word. This was at the end of the summer we met and I had to go back to my university. We hinted at things but ended up just holding hands and promising to write lots.

2) I can't imagine a future that doesn't have you in it - This was the months until winter break where we wrote and called each other constantly. When we finally got together again, we couldn't imagine life that didn't involve the other one. So we promised ourselves to the other - kissed and then it was back to university - with the plan - we'll finish uni, find jobs and then get "married".

3) When I'm not with you, I'm not really alive - Over the next few months it became obvious to both of us that there were two parts of our lives: a) being with each other and b) waiting until we could be with each other. We decided, skip the plan, it was stupid anyway, let's commit to each other this coming summer and start our lives together.

 

[charligirl]

He knew from virtually the day he met me, we got on well and saw each other 3-4 times a week for about 6 weeks.. just as friends of course, I didn't even fancy him!! (althought I kept having sudden urges to touch him on the arm, or had flash images of him taking me in his arms and then wondered where on earth they came from cos I didnt fancy him!! lol)

I started to get the impression that he liked me alot so I paniced and started to form a 'let's just be friends and see where it goes' speech! One evening he started to say that he was beginning to feel more for me than just friends, I lowered my head so I could compose myself and tell him to slow down, when... he put his hand under my chin, lifted my face and tucked my hair behind my ear, he looked at me with such love that i started crying!! Then he told me that he was going to marry me! What he didn't know was that I had prayed 6 months previously that when I met the right one, he would be utterly sure within days of meeting me.

We were married within 7 months!!

It wasn't actualy that simple because although he knew, I still had to work out quite a few things in my head and with God. He had been married before and was older than me, he was a baby christian, I had been VERY wrong about men in the past, I had a fear of committment and an inability to make big decisions. I read 'Should I get Married' by M Blaine SMith and saw a chritsian prayer councellor for a couple of months to talk out some of my committment fears.

God walked me through every scary step, I knew it was His doing and I knew He would give us what we needed to make it work. My wedding day was the best, no doubt and no fears!!

 

[Wolflily]

Awesome testimony! Praise God