This is for anybody out there that feels there is less hope to find a mate than the other. My name is Michael, I am 26 years old, with an able body. When I was 23 I met the most wonderful women I have ever met, she was loving, and caring.
My Kavita had a form of muscular dystrophy. She didnt really say anything about it when we first met, but I sure did notice that she had trouble walking, and was a lot slower than I.
It got to the point in our relationship that I was carrying her up and down stairs, and helping her off toilets. This was while we were dating.
I married her last July. It was the happiest moment of my life. I loved her so much. I grew to actually love her in a stronger way because of her disability.
Unfortunately , she passed away of causes unrelated to her disease. This happened only 10 weeks after we got married, about 3 months ago.
I will tell you that at times I was annoyed that I had to walk slower, or cater to things that I probably didnt have to. But I pressed on. Now, I constantly look behind me, thinking that she will be there walking a little slower than I.
I would take back into my life all the disabilities that she had , TEN-FOLD. I would take them all back, to have her company with me again. Every person has disabilities. Some hinder the person, others make the person shine. Hers made her shine.
Don't ever think that there is not somebody out there for you. I carried my wife, but she carried me more.
Michael
This almost brought tears to my eyes.
I am a disabled fella. I caught polio when I was barely 9 months old. I didnt take note of my disability until I was finally going through college. People around me were dating and doing things but I seemed to be the only one lacking a girlfriend and not being able to go out like most people. I went through a horrifying depression and thank God I am out of it.
Someone mentioned earlier that a disability keeps a person humbled. This is true and I sometimes feel that perhaps I am this way because God did not want me to be damnned in hell. Even if it may not seem "fair", I am glad that He has humbled me because I used to think that if I was fully abled, I think I would have been the most conceited, arrogant, party drunken, careless, life bashing, crazed maniac, "thinking I wont need God" - kind of guy you will ever meet.
Before I was saved I always thought to myself, "What would life be like if I was not disabled? I would be out there dancing at the clubs, getting hooked up with girls, fornicating, etc etc etc.." and I would grieve because I never had the chance to do all that...Thank God He has given me the right mentality to turn away from all that garbage.
I think some people do care about disabilities and they just cannot help it not being able to look pass it. Yet at the same time, I do believe that there are people out there who genuinely disregard the physical factors and aim directly for the heart. As a disabled guy, I used to always ask myself, "How would I myself feel about a physically disabled girl? Could I ever love such a gal?" "dang I don't know? maybe not?", I would tell myself.
it wasnt until I got saved this year, Apirl 2006, that I stopped observing and lusting after women's body. Then about a month ago, I went to a Christian convention. I went on my wheelchair and there were several other Christians there on wheelchairs. BUt something interesting happened. My eyes caught attention of this one girl, who also was on a wheelchair...I approached her and we talked for about the last 5 minutes of the convention. She was so pretty I came home that night thinking about her, wishing that I had asked for her number. The funny thing is, she doesnt have a "nice body" etc...yet, I didnt care for all of that...i just kept thinking about her and wished that I had gotten her number to keep in touch...This was one of those "genuinely liking a person" kind of feeling and I havent felt this way in a long time...
I do feel that once someone has been around you long enough, they start to forget that you are disabled. I can walk with a left leg brace and 2 crutch sticks. sometimes I would be climbing up the stairs and a friend is holding one of my crutch, going up the stairs with me. by the time we get to the top of the stair case, he would go walking off with my crutch, forgetting that I am standing there in need of it.
but yeah I dont think its unlikely to get married if you're disabled. Just remember that God has a better body for you in the next life. I cant wait to receive it.
