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One minute I have absolute faith that God will resolve a problem for me so I leave it in His hands and walk away. Then by the end of the evening I'm in tears because of that same problem?

I'm tryin so hard to walk away from it. I've been talking and thinking about it all day every day for 4 months and I really don't want to welcome March in still talking about it. I don't want to think about it or remember it anymore but it ALWAYS comes back. Is this evil trying to keep me feeling low? If I pray about it then I got to talk about it again. :cry: :cry: :cry:
 

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sounds like you are in the grieving process of something sweetheart. every person has their own ways and needs about grieving.

trust your Father above that His timing is better for you than yours. when he doesn't answer a prayer with what we exspect; it's our submission and faith in His great love that His answer will be much more a blessing and shape us to manage future exsperiances/ or avoiding future exsperiances much better.

fill up on God's word so the Holy Spirit has widom and direction to whisper to you.:hug:
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He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

ask him for wisdom in these things:

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2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.
 
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Honey , why don't you post what is troubling you?

I think you have a wrong idea about God, and what you are supposed to do in life. We are here on earth to learn, so that once we die we have become stronger souls. You see life is supposed to be hard, that's how you learn.

Its all about your 'angle' in how you approuch life, instead of 'walking around' a problem, start confronting it. You see a problem remains a problem till the end of time untill you solve it. God never meant to solve all of our problems, its like driving a car , you can never learn it yourself if you aren't behind the steering wheel. Watching how it is done is simply not enough to learn it yourself, you can only do so by doing it yourself.

That way you become a stronger soul, who can drive her own direction in life, these hurdles in your life are 'intentional' , its a sort of 'training of the soul' if you like. So please do not dispair.

Anyway its clear that the stress has become a little bit too much for you, so it might be a good time for some intervention, just post your problem here, and we'll do our best to give you the advice you need to solve the problem that you have.

You see all the things you can't control in life, you leave in Gods hands. All the things you CAN controll you have to solve it yourself.

Imagine yourself being locked up in a room, what helps more crying, or a key to get out? The room represents the problem, and the key as the solution so you may unlock the door and leave the problem behind you.

Crack the combinations of the door locks, and set yourself free.
 
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CordieLaLa said:
One minute I have absolute faith that God will resolve a problem for me so I leave it in His hands and walk away. Then by the end of the evening I'm in tears because of that same problem?

I'm tryin so hard to walk away from it. I've been talking and thinking about it all day every day for 4 months and I really don't want to welcome March in still talking about it. I don't want to think about it or remember it anymore but it ALWAYS comes back. Is this evil trying to keep me feeling low? If I pray about it then I got to talk about it again. :cry: :cry: :cry:

The problem is that you have not completely given it to God. You are still hanging on to it. It seems that you lack faith and trust. I am going to tell you something. I want you to believe it with your entire being. and then walk away from the problem and wait for God to work your miracle.
God has heard your prayers. He wants to resolve this problem, not only because of you, but because there are also other people involved. He IS going to fix this, so just be patient and give him a little more time. Maybe a couple of months. Believe in your heart that he is absolutely going to do this. Have complete faith in his desire and intention to care for you and your needs.
Love him and his ways. Yes, it seems that he does move slowly at times, but remember that a thousand years is like a day to him. Now, accept the fact that he is going to do this, leave it in his hands and walk away from it. You will not have peace until you do.

Now, pray to him and tell him of your trust and faith. Remember, it is trust that allows God to move in your life.

L E T N O T Y O U R H E A R T B E T R O U B L E D !!
 
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When God When


We all want good things to happen in our lives but too often we want it now...not later. And when it doesn't happen that way, we are tempted to ask, "When, God, when?" Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the when question. If you're missing joy and peace, you're not trusting in God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you're not trusting God. The tendency to want to know about everything that's going on can be a detriment to your Christian walk. Sometimes knowing everything can be uncomfortable and can even hurt you. I spent a large part of my life impatient, frustrated, and disappointed because there were things I didn't know. God had to teach me to leave things alone to quit feeling that I needed to know everything. I finally learned to trust the One Who knows all things and to accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry.
God wants us to live by discernment—revelation knowledge, not head knowledge. It's difficult to get discernment if you're always trying to figure out everything. But when you're willing to say, "God, I can't figure this out, so I'm going to trust You to give me revelation that will set me free," then you can be comfortable in spite of not knowing. Trusting God often requires not knowing how God is going to accomplish what needs to be done and not knowing when He will do it. We often say, God is never late, but generally He isn't early either. Why? Because He uses times of waiting to stretch our faith in Him, and to bring about change and growth in our lives.
WAIT WITH PATIENCE
We spend a lot of time in our lives waiting because change is a process. Many people want change in their lives, but they don't want to go through the waiting process. But the truth is, waiting is a given—we are going to wait. The question is are we going to wait the wrong or right way? If we wait the wrong way, we'll be miserable. But if we decide to wait God's way, we can become patient and enjoy the wait. It takes practice but as we let God help us in each situation, we develop patience, which is one of the most important Christian virtues. Patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22). Patience is developed only under trial, so we must not run from difficult situations. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing (James 1:4). As we develop patience, the Bible says we finally feel completely satisfied lacking nothing. Even our relationship with God involves progressive changes. My relationship with God is so much different now than it was in the early days of my Christian experience. It is not nearly as emotionally exciting...and yet it is better. Every change I've gone through has made me more mature, solid, and well-grounded. We learn to trust God by going through many experiences that require trust. By seeing God's faithfulness over and over, we let go of trusting ourselves, and gradually we place our trust in Him. Looking at it like this, it is easy to see how timing plays an important part in learning to trust God. If He did everything we asked for immediately, we would never grow and develop. Timing and trust work side by side.
ACCEPT GOD"S TIMING
God gives us hopes and dreams for certain things to happen in our lives, but He doesn't always allow us to see the exact timing of His plan. Although frustrating, not knowing the exact timing is often what keeps us in the program. There are times when we might give up if we knew how long it was going to take, but when we accept God's timing, we can learn to live in hope and enjoy our lives while God is working on our problems. We know that God's plan for our lives is good, and when we trust ourselves to Him, we can experience total peace and happiness. The book of Genesis tells the story of Joseph, who waited many years for the fulfillment of the dream God had given him. He was falsely accused and imprisoned before the time came for him to do what God had shown him he was to do. Exodus 13:17, 18 tells us that God led the Israelites the longer, harder way on their journey to the Promised Land because He knew they were not yet ready to go in. There had to be time for their training, and they had to go through some very trying situations. They wasted a lot of time wondering about God's timing, but God never failed to take care of them and show them what He wanted them to do. The same is true in our lives. It was many years after I received my call from God in February of 1976 before I finally began to see major fulfillment of what God had called me to do. God's training period simply requires us to do what He tells us to do when He tells us to do it...without questioning or trying to figure out everything.
LEARN TO RELY ON GOD Proverbs 16:9 says, A man's mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure. Proverbs 20:24 says, Man's steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way? When God directs our paths, He sometimes leads us in ways that don't make sense to us so we're not always going to understand everything. If we try to reason out everything, we will experience struggle, confusion, and misery. But there is a better way. Proverbs 3:5,6 says, Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. This sounds so simple, yet too many people make the mistake of trying to figure out everything themselves. Most of us have spent our lives trying to take care of ourselves, but when we accept Christ as our Savior, we must learn to trust our lives to His care. When we do, we can say with the psalmist, ...I trusted in, relied on, and was confident in You, O Lord; I said, You are my God. My times are in Your hands...(Psalm 31:14,15). First Peter 5:5 tells us that ...God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, the overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful) [and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favor, blessing) to the humble. Anyone who thinks they're a self-made man or woman has a rude awakening coming because Jesus said, ...apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing (John 15:5). Humility is a covering that draws the help of God into our lives to protect us. When we humble ourselves, saying, "God, I don't know what to do, but I'm trusting You," God gets in gear to help us. God won't allow us to succeed at anything unless we're leaning and relying on Him. But when we humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, in due time He will exalt us (see 1 Peter 5:6). "Due time" is God's time when God knows we're ready, not when we think we're ready. The sooner we understand and accept that, the sooner God can work His plan in our lives.
 
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FROM SEEDTIME TO HARVEST
Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us: To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven. This let's us know that we all don't live in the same season at the same time. You should never be jealous of someone who is enjoying harvest while you're still in the planting season. Remember, they had to go through a season of planting just as you are. Seeing the results they are enjoying should be an encouragement to you. Understand and trust that God is doing the very best for you in your present season. Seedtime represents learning the will of God. Each time I choose God's will instead of my own, I'm planting a good seed that will eventually bring a harvest in my life. If you want to be victorious, you cannot afford to get pulled into the world's system, doing what you feel like doing. James 1:21 tells us what we should do: ...get rid of all uncleanness and the rampant outgrowth of wickedness, and in a humble (gentle, modest) spirit receive and welcome the Word which implanted and rooted [in your hearts] contains the power to save your souls.
Your soul is your mind, your will, and your emotions, and when the Word gets in there and gets rooted and begins to change your mind, it begins to heal your emotions and turn your will away from self-will to doing the will of God. Living out of one's own soul is equivalent to staying in the wilderness. When my flesh is finally crucified and I get out of my soul and into doing the will of God, that's when I enter the promised land. The promised land is knowing who you are in Christ, knowing how to fellowship with Him, enjoying His presence, and having peace, contentment, and joy. Between seedtime and harvest comes a time of waiting. After a seed is planted, the heat, moisture, and pressure of the ground finally cause the outer hull to crack open. Then roots shoot down, digging their way through the ground. It takes time for this to happen and it takes place underground. Above the ground, you can't tell anything is happening. That's the way our lives are. After we plant seeds of obedience, we feel like nothing is happening, but all kinds of things are happening inside where we can't see. And like the seed that finally bursts through the ground with a beautiful green shoot, our seeds of obedience finally break forth into a beautiful manifestation of God in our lives. When harvest time comes, the desires of your heart begin to manifest-bondages fall off you and you see your dreams come to pass. You see your kids changing and your family getting saved. Prosperity, favor, promotion, honor, and all kinds of good things come out in the open where they can be seen. In harvest time, more than ever before, you hear from God, you enjoy His presence, and you're led by the Spirit. Blessings begin to chase you down the street, and joy and calm delight become your normal mood. Are you tired of waiting for harvest time in your life? Are you frustrated...crying out, "When, God, when?" Then you need to understand that God's timing is often a mystery. He doesn't do things on our timetable. Yet His Word promises that He will not be late, not one single day. But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! (Habakkuk 2:3 TLB). God causes things to happen at exactly the right time! Your job is not to figure out when but to make up your mind that you won't give up until you cross the finish line and are living in the radical, outrageous blessings of God! The more you trust Jesus and keep your eyes focused on Him, the more life you'll have. Trusting God brings life. Believing brings rest. So stop trying to figure out everything, and let God be God in your life.
 
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Sometimes we struggle just because there is no easy answer. I will tell you why I have such swings or at least why I feel similar to you about life. I so want to believe good things can happen to me. I think this is only natural. I think that God gives us a desire to see good things. But opposing that is all the bad things that have happened. All the evil I have seen and the evil I myself have done. All the times I have gotten my hopes up and been sorely dissapointed and tested also counter this instinct to look upwards. I know that I am to the point where I am afraid to have faith. I know I must at least strive, but I know the fall can be pretty severe at this point.

I think faith is more than or different from trust. Faith is what we do, the choices we make, when we don't see the good outcome. Yet we step forward anyway. Faith is not the absence of doubts, it is the choice to act in our best understanding of God's will even when doubts weigh us down.
 
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