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How can we love our enemies.

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i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird



how can we love the devil that is our enemie?



sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?



and also he punishes bad ppl?
 

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Love is not what you feel, it is what you do. When you want revenge, and don't take it, you are loving your enemies. When the hurtful word is left unspoken, that is love. Love is the trouble we take upon ourselves to spare others. It is not a warm fuzzy feeling, nor the grateful exhiliration we might feel when we realize we might get laid. When you put yourself at risk for another, without expectation of reward, that is love. Love goes against our natural, selfish instincts. If it were easy, it would not be rare and remarkable.


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myquestions said:
i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird



how can we love the devil that is our enemie?



sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?



and also he punishes bad ppl?
Well, I believe it's about faith.Once one accepts Christ into their life,a process begins that will lead the true believer to forsake the world.At some point during this process we realise that nothing that happens to us is permanent.We see that this world is finite,while eternity is infinite.Then we begin to lose our fear of death and pain and suffering.We begin to seek God and our heavenly reward.Seeing God becomes our goal.We then realise that all people good and bad people,are saveable.Then we desire to save them,forgetting ourselves.We hate the evil they do but we don't hate them.When we get to this point,I believe we are close to the Christian ideal.So, is that where I am.No.But it's where I desire to be.Only God can work this change.I trust that he will.
 
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myquestions said:
i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird



how can we love the devil that is our enemie?



sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?



and also he punishes bad ppl?
It is not loving to pretend a child abuser is innocent, not to him or his future victims. The devil is not the source of evil in your life. You are. God never said to love the evil you do. It is not so much that God punishes evil people as it is that He does not reward them with His presence and eternal life. Being evil or unloving has it own consequences that are not pleasant. In other words in addation to harming innocent people, evil also punishes the evil doer.
 
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"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of darkenss, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places." - Eph. 6:12

Not that I like to hinge concepts on single verses, but this pretty much tells us where our focus should be as far as disdain goes. It should not be toward people, because that is not who is trying to defeat our souls.

As far as loving enemies...I think it is a mandate that Christians need to have, and those Christians are able to have it only by the spiritual transformation that occurs when a person proclaims (which means he also lives) as Jesus is Lord and Savior. It's through this focus on God that the Holy Spirit literally renews the mind and emotions, even bringing healing in the darkest of places (Rom. 12:1-2).

Regarding loving one's enemies, too, I think it goes more along having the attitude of a servant, as referenced by Jesus' life. The context of the "love your enemies" passages (Luke 6, Matt 5-7) is basically about serving those who may even hate you, curse your name, or forget who you are...but having cultivated that spirit of pouring yourself out for the betterment of others.
 
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Love thy enemies = lack of mental attitude sins toward them. Sins in the form of emotions i.e. hate, jealousy, envy etc. cause a break in your relationship with God. Maintian your fellowship with God. Kill your enemies if the situation requires, just don't hate them.
 
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myquestions said:
i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird



how can we love the devil that is our enemie?



sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?



and also he punishes bad ppl?

We love them because we understand that it i soften a series of poor events in their youth or a chemical balance out of their control that causes them to behave so despicably; much of the time were are so subject to our own environment.

It is like a song I heard by the artist Buju Banton, a man who grew up very impoverished in Jamaica, said it most best:

"Circumstances made me what I am / was I born a violent man?"

No man is born to kill, no man is born to behave negatively; it is through proper upbringing and influences that people become better.

Yes, bad men must be punished and brought to justice but we have an abstract agape and love for them...

Love is what will cure the illness that is evil.

To kill an evil man is to only give reason for the family of the man you perceived as evil to be in pain, and to seek vengeance. For we all love our children, our brothes/sisters and mothers/fathers.

But rather, to love an evil man and guide him to justice is a positive effect for the entirety of the world.
 
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jmverville said:
We love them because we understand that it i soften a series of poor events in their youth or a chemical balance out of their control that causes them to behave so despicably; much of the time were are so subject to our own environment.

But we should love them even if we don't understand them. Perhaps those we don't understand we should love most of all.

It is like a song I heard by the artist Buju Banton, a man who grew up very impoverished in Jamaica, said it most best:

"Circumstances made me what I am / was I born a violent man?"

No man is born to kill, no man is born to behave negatively; it is through proper upbringing and influences that people become better.

Perhaps you hope this is true, and perhaps it is, but also, perhaps not.

Yes, bad men must be punished and brought to justice but we have an abstract agape and love for them...

Psychology has demonstrated that punishment to be a deterrent must be swift and certain, which punishment seldom is. And justice is not something that human beings are wise enought to mete. The best we can hope for is that we may prevent offenders from offending again. And consider this, your enemies may not be evil. And if you could eradicate the evil from your own heart, you might see that.

Love is what will cure the illness that is evil.

That's wishful thinking. Love is a gift, not a bargain.

To kill an evil man is to only give reason for the family of the man you perceived as evil to be in pain, and to seek vengeance. For we all love our children, our brothes/sisters and mothers/fathers.

Love will not protect you. Love makes you vulnerable, and to love is to accept the consequences of that. Love is art for its own sake.

Humans have the capacity for good and evil. I have been told that Jesus was the only man who never did an evil thing, but I doubt that anyone has exhibited lifelong moral perfection.

But rather, to love an evil man and guide him to justice is a positive effect for the entirety of the world.

Justice is a fantasy at best and usually only a mask for veangeance.

KJV Matthew 5:44
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

That doesn't say a word about bringing anyone to justice.

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LouTheWicked said:
To not retaliate when someone says something that may be hurtful to you, just ignore them. It can be frustrating, but it prevents any more feelings being hurt. And oh yeah, be forgiving.

i understand sometimes thsi workds?
but how about if it doesetn.
shouldn't we stick up for one another?
 
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jamesMarion said:
Love thy enemies = lack of mental attitude sins toward them. Sins in the form of emotions i.e. hate, jealousy, envy etc. cause a break in your relationship with God. Maintian your fellowship with God. Kill your enemies if the situation requires, just don't hate them.

kill them???! literally?
 
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To me, loving your enemies is about loving who <b> they are,</b> but not always what they do and say. You can love a person without liking their actions; in fact if you liked everything a person did, you wouldn't be loving them, you'd be sucking up. ;)

C.S. Lewis covers this issue in his book, "Mere Christianity." In the part about love, he noted that brotherly love goes beyond "liking" and "disliking," it is forgiving a person and praying for that person no matter what; even if they are your sworn enemy.

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myquestions said:
i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird



how can we love the devil that is our enemie?



sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?



and also he punishes bad ppl?


The key thing to remember is ' that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. '

Regardless of the bad things that are happening to you or around you, you have to remember that you can't see the bigger picture and God can.

Love them because they are fullfilling a purpose that you can't ever know.
 
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myquestions said:
i am wondering, god says to love our enemies, but how can we love those that hurt as, like a child abuser and those who rape us , how can we love them? it's impossible to pretend it didnt' happen and just act like we love them. that's so weird
While we were yet sinners , Christ loved and died for us and weve committed many sins against Him , yet He loves us just the same undeserved . Love seeks another persons higher good , its not selfish . Could you find it in your heart to want to see something better in someone else? Its about seeing others through Christs eyes instead of our own .

Proverbs 25:21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; 22. For so you will heap coals of fire on his head, and the Lord will reward you.

Proverbs 24:17 Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and do not let your heart be glad when he stumbles

Isaiah 55:7 Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; let him return to the Lord, and He will have mercy on him; and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon.

Perhaps your love and mercy and forgiveness will be what leads them to God because you dont know what their life has been and cant assume they know God . Your kindness could be the only kindness they have ever known in their life . We murdered Christ on the cross because of our sin and He opens His arms to us in love and forgiveness . Its this love that brings us to Him .

how can we love the devil that is our enemie?
A person isnt the devil just because they act on his influence .

Ephesians 6:12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.


sometimes i find chirstianisty contodicting? like god says to love bad ppl but then he wants us to be against the devil ?

For all have sinned and fall short of Gods Glory . How can you claim forgiveness but not offer it to others as well?


and also he punishes bad ppl?
Sin has been paid for at the cross , all of it . The payment was already made . Its not a matter of bad or good people , but saved and lost people . It is by grace we have been saved , not our works , no one is better than anyone else in the eyes of God . Christ died for us all and wants that all will saved , and you could be the example of Christs love that the person needs .

Have you ever seen Les Miserables? Its an excellent movie that adresses how mercy and forgiveness can change a life . Get the one with Liam Nissan in it , its wonderful if you havent seen it .
 
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Gracchus said:
But we should love them even if we don't understand them. Perhaps those we don't understand we should love most of all.

Agree'd.


Gracchus said:
Psychology has demonstrated that punishment to be a deterrent must be swift and certain, which punishment seldom is. And justice is not something that human beings are wise enought to mete. The best we can hope for is that we may prevent offenders from offending again. And consider this, your enemies may not be evil. And if you could eradicate the evil from your own heart, you might see that.

That is generally true. But (1) punishment is, in general, fairly swift; people are put into jails and often held there for even their own trial. And also, I think that (2) people are generally smart enough to mete out fair punishments; is it absolute? No. And we could debate punishments until the day that we die, being that there are so many different philosophies behind the administration of justice.

(3) And yes, my enemies are generally not evil; evil is also generally not existent in the way that we think of it. Very few people think of themselves as evil; we generally think that we are doing the right thing. I do not think of them as evil, but rather as misguided in the pursuit of their own interests.



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That's wishful thinking. Love is a gift, not a bargain.

We should love everyone -- we should love our neighbors as ourselves, as Christ commanded us. And though certainly we will never be able to fulfill this burden (who can rightfully feel a legitimate love for some of these characters besides their loved ones themselves?), we should try to and should practice understanding first and foremost.

Gracchus said:
Love will not protect you. Love makes you vulnerable, and to love is to accept the consequences of that. Love is art for its own sake.

Love makes you vulnerable in some senses -- vulnerable to being emotionall hurt by others, and the instances of putting too much trust and faith into humanity. But I feel that it is not a vulnerability.

What makes someone who loves others so vulnerable? I can see instances of it but i do not see it as people who are loving become victims. I can see your argument but I would need to see more proof and more ideas behind it to really become convinced or confront it.

Gracchus said:
Humans have the capacity for good and evil. I have been told that Jesus was the only man who never did an evil thing, but I doubt that anyone has exhibited lifelong moral perfection.

Evil is generally doing things out of self-interest and benefit that are hurtful to others, and it is the natural inclination of mankind; notice that children are generally very bossy and demanding of your attention.

And Christ was perfect, for He was God with us.



Gracchus said:
Justice is a fantasy at best and usually only a mask for veangeance.

KJV Matthew 5:44

That doesn't say a word about bringing anyone to justice.

:wave:

Justice is attainable; justice is when good things happen to good people, which at least in my life has been the norm for most of it. Tough of course there are moments of injustice, I find that life is generally a beautiful and good thing.

And furthermore, that is a passage dealing solely with the concept of loving your enemy. It has nothing to do with 'bringing people to justice' obviously, but it was not as if Christ's famed role was as a lawyer.

Christ's message did not include an ideal penal system for mankind to implement, unfortunately, so we will have to discuss this amongst ourselves.
 
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