How can I say goodbye????

[Clemence]

About 4 years ago my Grandmother died :'( I am a teen. However I never got to speak to her before she died...nor attend her funeral. She was cremated. I still find it difficult to deal with and feel like I need to say goodbye properly.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can say goodbye to her??

 

[goldenviolet]

making a memory book about your grandma...
memory book: clippings, poems, pictures, thoughts and feelings. work on the book when you miss her or need to grieve... and when finished place it somewhere special.
photo albums work good as well as scrap books. sorry for your loss. can you ask for or do you have an heirloom? they help comfort. i hope this helps.

 

[berry2000]

I don't have any answers just wanted to say I am in the same boat. I need to grieve first the death of my father...which happened when I was a little girl (to little to understand is what the adults thought and so left me out of the grieving process) and then the death of my grandmother and aunt...both of whom died 2 years ago and I could not fly cross country to attend the funeral. It still seems like they are alive...because I never got to say goodbye or go to any funeral services.

So if anyone out there has anymore advice I'm listening too.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Write a goodbye letter to her.
Do with it what you feel would bring closure. Does she have a headstone anywhere? You could leave it there with a flower.
Although people usually associate burning things with anger, maybe in this case it would be an appropriate symbol.
My point is to do something that allows closure to happen with you as best as possible.

 

[Nilla]

About 4 years ago my Grandmother died :'( I am a teen. However I never got to speak to her before she died...nor attend her funeral. She was cremated. I still find it difficult to deal with and feel like I need to say goodbye properly.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can say goodbye to her??

Is there a memorial place? Like a park sort of thing where you can go and "talk" to her. That might help. Or talk to people who knew her...share your thoughts with them. or if there is a church nearby...go there...maybe talk to a pastor who can help you.

 

[jsimms615]

About 4 years ago my Grandmother died :'( I am a teen. However I never got to speak to her before she died...nor attend her funeral. She was cremated. I still find it difficult to deal with and feel like I need to say goodbye properly.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can say goodbye to her??

That's hard for you since you really didn't have the chances to express your grief like others did who went to a service. I would suggest that you make a scrapbook about your grandmother. It could be a way of honoring her member and your relationship. You could use pictures of things she loved, photographs, newspaper clippings, etc. . . .
Another way would be to write a letter to her and then perhaps burn it after you have kept it for a while.
Another thing you could do to help in the healing process is to perhaps give something to charity or to put some time in an organization that your grandmother loved. That would be a good way to honor her and keep her memory alive and maybe start let the healing in.
Take care.
J

 

[anteloperunner]

my brother and i when our parent died had a hard time saying goodbye.

we took 2 shoebox one for each of them. and filled them with items that reminded us of them. we then burried them in the backyard. This help us and gave us alot of closer