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How bad is it to be a sinner?

Radagast

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LittleLion said:
...My flesh does not war against the Spirit. It is something else that wars against the Spirit.
It's the dark part of us that wars against the Spirit -- but I pray that you will see the light

-- Radagast
 
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Littlelion,

We have talked about sin in general, and this has inadvertently turned back on you. I think you are either asking about problem-solving, maybe unsettled areas about Christianity working, or about a phrase you'd heard, implicating non-Christians as sinners. I apologize for ignoring your comments.

Yesterday our pastor gave the example of temptation to sin. He approached different individuals, and said, "Go rob a bank." Obviously, no one got up to do it. He pointed out that we each have internal limits, rationales, and we are not tempted by everything that crosses our mind.

I can eat, drink and sleep. This is all I can do. And think about God. I have no lust to give in to, no other desire but to get out of this darkness I am in now. My flesh does not war against the Spirit. It is something else that wars against the Spirit....
But this doesn't seem to bring me anywhere further.​

Avoidance of sin actually does protect us from doing some stupid things that set us backward. But the focus of the Christian life is not on sin; it's on appreciating what God does for us.

Preachers shout out "sinner!" as if to separate the forgiven from those who have not chosen forgiveness, but we are all sinners.

If you are trying to make Christianity work, and things aren't happening as you expect, try a few things:

- Using God's promises to apply to your own life
- Accepting help from God, leaning on Him
- Checking your heart for unforgiveness
- Asking for wisdom
- Seeing a situation as enhanced by a long-term solution (building character)
- Thank God for ways you see Him working in your life
 
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ChristianDude777,


Hey Lion,

How are you..?

Mostly, distressed. And something else I can't tell what it is. But thank you for asking.



There is a saying about health: Your health is like a glass ball. You can drop it a few times without breaking it. But when it breaks, that's it. -- I think this holds true for spiritual health as well. You can do bad for quite some time, and it is still posible to recover. But from some point on, recovery is impossible.
(It is said somewhere that God gives up on people when there is no chance anymore that they get better.)


Just like that, I should say words that are to me just that -- words?

Do you believe to any degree that prayer to God has any affect..?

I don't believe in magic. This is not to say that prayer is magic. But if I am to say words that I don't understand or say things that I am not attached to, then I am in fact expecting magic. I might as well say abracadabra.



But ultimately, it is God who decides whether an action was a sin or not, yes? So the sin exists between the sinner and God.
If A gets angry at B and hits him, between A and B is aggression, between A and God is sin.
If B has a bad bacterial infection, and A gives B injections with medicaments, B will be hurt in this, so between A and B exists aggression, but between A and God, there is no sin in this.
The difference is in the motive.


How is a sinner to behave towards another person?

What does your conscience tell you..?

Good question.
I think my problem here is that I have been taught to behave as if I am the sinner, but the other person is not. So I'd even say that a sinner is to refrain form interacting with others.
I don't agree with this, but I am not sure of any other way either.


Can a sinner love?

Absolutely.

Strange. "You are a sinner, you are bad, bad, and you better shut up, go to your corner and never come out again!" hallows in the back of my mind ...
I find the notion that a sinner could love incomprehensible.


Flesh is the part of us that is non-spiritual. The part of us that wants everything for the ME inside of us.

I'm not so sure though. I don't really think there is a 'me' without God.


If you see someone who needs something...not just wants it really bad but geniunely needs it....what do you do..?

Help. But there is a thought accompanying this. "Have I done this to feel righteous, to feel good about myself? I can't say I really care for that woman whom I carried her bags for. Why then did I do it?"
But I don't think it makes sense to say one must help because one genuinely cared for the other person -- sometimes, this is impossible, as there may exist no relationship whatsoever between you and the person you help.


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heron,



Which verse is that?
(Note that I read the Bible in my native language.)


The gift of redemption is available to all.

Not to start a toughie on this one ... but what you are saying can be argued with exclusive predestination.


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Tamara77777,



It makes sense to me, but probably in a way that doesn't make sense to you.
I don't know the history of your coming to Christianity, but I have discovered one thing: Adult outsiders cannot meaningfully learn about the Gospel in the way young insiders do.
I think that if we get presented the biblical story first, we will be hung up on it. (I know many adults who have this problem.) This has to do with the way human cognition works -- it is different for young children, different for the youth, different for adults (there are many stages of cognitive development).

See, if an adult gets told that God is omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscient and omnibenevolent, and understands these things first, he will be able to devise the main principles of Christianity himself, without knowing much of the biblical story. Adults think primarily abstract, so it may be more productive to approach them that way, instead of confusing them with the concrete biblical story. That comes after.


Thought I would add: Are you doing something presently, that you're worried about?

Yes, indulging in dealing with man's wisdom.


Or perhaps don't want to make any corrections?

I do want to make corrections!


You can talk to him, tell him how you feel about anything! That is where most people fail...they allow the guilt/condemnation keep them from just talking to Hi. Just wanted to throw that all in JUST IN CASE, so consider if food for thought.

Or maybe they don't know whom they are talking to.
I can tell you this: The faith of someone who has been a believer for a long time, preferrably since his childhood, will be expressed differently than the faith of a newcomer. But this doesn't mean that the insider's faith is stronger or purer than the outsider's.


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dhiannian,



If I am grieved by the sins I commit, what can you conclude from that?
 
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Galatians 5:16-26:

-- Radagast
 
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I disagree. I think it's time we start remembering that we are justified and righteous.

dhiannian said:
We all sin, the difference is a christian wont live in sin if they are walking with God.
I think the difference is really that the beliver is justified and perfect before God. I think to focus on things like "I still sin" is missing the target. It's not truth. Jesus in the truth. He is our righteousness.

Maybe it just looks like a bunch of words, but believe me, it makes a world of difference.
 
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Quote: bethdinsmore, Can you tell me where is sin? Is it between one person and the other, or between a person and God? How is a sinner to behave towards another person? Can a sinner love? Quote

Hope I'm understanding your questions correctly. Sin can be between one person and God, or between two people (but even then God is involved, as we are breaking his laws or guidelines). That is why we always need to confess sin to Him (I John 1:9). But we also need to ask forgiveness of another person when we sin against him/her. We are all sinners (Romans 3:23), but we are also capable of love, or God would not have commanded it.
 
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holo said:
... I think to focus on things like "I still sin" is missing the target. It's not truth. Jesus in the truth. He is our righteousness...
That doesn't justify sinning though:

-- Radagast
 
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LittleLion said:
Mostly, distressed. And something else I can't tell what it is. But thank you for asking.




Hi Lion,



Well, if you ever need to chat with someone, I, as well as many others here I’m sure, would be glad to talk with you.









I do believe you’re correct about this. In the book of Romans we read where God turned people over to a reprobate mind. There are other Scriptures that point to the idea that one can go to far into sin such as 2 Peter 2:20, Hebrews 10:26, etc.



But having said that, it’s important to remember that God is longsuffering (very patient) with people. He doesn’t simply watch for the first time they mess it up. If He did, I’d have been a goner a loooong time ago.



He wants people to come to Him and repent when they mess it all up. As long as the heart is being dealt with, He’s still calling…



LittleLion said:
I don't believe in magic. This is not to say that prayer is magic. But if I am to say words that I don't understand or say things that I am not attached to, then I am in fact expecting magic. I might as well say abracadabra.




Again, you’re right. Meaningless words don’t work. It has to come from our heart. You’ve been paying attention to what’s been posted on here. Well done.



The important thing about prayer is that it doesn’t have to be in any special format. We simply talk to God…just like we talk to others. As we come to know Him more, our prayers will change, as will our attitudes and many other areas of our life. But it all has to have a starting point and as long as it comes from a sincere heart, a simple “God, please help me” will work. My first prayer to Him was “God, what can I do to be saved..?” That was it. One small question. And boy, did He ever respond..!!!!



LittleLion said:
But ultimately, it is God who decides whether an action was a sin or not, yes? So the sin exists between the sinner and God.




Yes and no. God is the final judge, of course. But we can know beforehand when something would be sinful or not.



Also, it is possible to sin against another person. It’s like, if I stole something from you, I sinned against you. Peter went to Jesus asking about how often he should forgive someone…



Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?



But you're right...sin is always between the person and God, even if it is done to someone else. All of the 10 commandments deatl with two issues. Our relationship with and love for God (commandments 1-4) and our relationships with and love for others (commandments 6-10). It's all based on love...





Yes, it’s all about the intent of the heart. Still, I believe the Scriptures teach us to seek wisdom continually so that we can know beforehand what would be wise to do and say and what wouldn’t. Just to make sure we’re not wrong in what we think might not be harmful….but I realize that wasn’t your point.











This is sort of like saying a sick person shouldn’t interact with anyone else, even a doctor. For a person who’s realized their sinfulness, it’s always a good thing to interact with people who have already been there and allowed Jesus to begin the healing and salvation process.



I think at this point the focus shouldn’t be as much on the fact that one is or isn’t a sinner as the fact that there’s a remedy for the sin condition…..Jesus. As soon as a person has the revelation that “Yes, I really am a sinner…,” they can simply turn to Jesus and He’ll be there. He’s the only source that can truly heal the sin issue. He “came to heal the broken hearted…”



We’re all designed to interact with others. It’s how we were created. Interaction isn’t dependent on or even directly related to sin in that sense.









LittleLion said:
Strange. "You are a sinner, you are bad, bad, and you better shut up, go to your corner and never come out again!" hallows in the back of my mind ...

I find the notion that a sinner could love incomprehensible.




I’ve heard very similar words from many people who had abusive childhoods. Also from people who’s abusive pasts had demonic influences.



Love and sin aren’t directly connected as we know love to be. God’s love for us (agape in the original language) is a love that surpasses the boundaries of sinfulness. The Bible is clear that while we were yet sinners, He loved us.



Think of sin as a stain. All people are born with a big dark stain on them. The only thing that can wash that stain off is Jesus. If you saw a child who was all stained up, you’d still be able to love that child wouldn’t you..?







LittleLion said:
I'm not so sure though. I don't really think there is a 'me' without God.




There’s that sinful nature. That’s the me I was referring to. The one that only thinks of itself…the flesh. It’s that me that’s separated from God due to sin. I’m thinking it’s not our soul…..it’s our flesh. It’s a part of us that our soul recognizes. Although that might not be entirely accurate as I haven’t really studied that enough to know that for sure.









LittleLion said:
Help. But there is a thought accompanying this. "Have I done this to feel righteous, to feel good about myself? I can't say I really care for that woman whom I carried her bags for. Why then did I do it?"




Well, feeling good about helping someone isn’t a bad thing. I like that feeling. It’s one of the ways I can personally identify with Jesus. But it’s not my main motivation. For example, I might not feel that great when it’s 2:30 am and I’m missing sleep because someone needs me right then.



In fact, that might be a good test. Do we still help them even when it’s not so comfortable..?



Anyone can eventually figure out if they do things for the wrong motives or not. We have to start somewhere and even if we do start out with wrong motives, if we’re sincere about finding God, He’ll help us find the right path.



LittleLion said:
But I don't think it makes sense to say one must help because one genuinely cared for the other person -- sometimes, this is impossible, as there may exist no relationship whatsoever between you and the person you help.




Well….you can still have a love for someone that you don’t know. It might not be a familiarity with the person but it’s still something from the heart that’s there.



What’s challenging is loving someone who hates you or has hurt you really badly. It’s still possible and we’re encouraged to do just that but it’s a challenge at times.



As Christians, we come to rely on God’s love as the source for our love to others. I realize that sounds a bit strange but it’s true.



But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.



It’s all a process. Being a Christian isn’t about having it all together all at once. We all have a unique experience. We all grow at different rates and in different ways. It’s all personal.



God bless you,

Tim L.
 
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Radagast said:
That doesn't justify sinning though
Of course not. But I remember my driving teacher telling me that if you focus on, say, meeting cars in traffic, you will unconsciously steer toward them. I think the same goes for sin - if you have a problem with porn, for example, it won't help if you think about it (and how to avoid it) all the time.

We choose how we look at things, just like God in his love chooses to look at our righteousness and abilities. Love hopes all and is not concerned with whatever may be faulty.
 
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Exactly. And this is why I think that being told one is a sinner and focusing on sin, one becomes even more of a sinner.
 
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LittleLion said:
Exactly. And this is why I think that being told one is a sinner and focusing on sin, one becomes even more of a sinner.
The objective for any unregenerated person is not to avoid sin, but to come to salvation through Jesus Christ through (while) being a sinner.
Only aftrewards one can start "working" on it, not before.

If you start working on it before one is saved, you'll be working on it, and working on it, and working on it and will never, ever resolve it.

If you want salvation (adoption into His family) - go to Christ.

If you want relationship with God outside of Christ - it is very hard.
Actually it is probably impossible. But with Christ, though, your sins will be "covered" and God loves Christ.

So, if you want relationship with God, wouldn't you want to please him?
If you would, do what he likes. And he loves Jesus Christ, so go through him.

If you do not want relationship with God - then think of yourself. You are a "half-man half spirit" (a spiritual being).
And God is called the Father of our Spirits. ...... and on.

.... first of all - do you want relationship with God?
second - if not, what do you want?

Ed
 
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Ed,


The objective for any unregenerated person is not to avoid sin, but to come to salvation through Jesus Christ through (while) being a sinner.
Only aftrewards one can start "working" on it, not before.

Well, thank you for saying that, although this comes rather late ...



I don't know what it means to have a relationship with God, so I cannot meaningfully answer your question.


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ChristianDude777,



Well, if you ever need to chat with someone, I, as well as many others here
I'm sure, would be glad to talk with you.

Thank you.


In fact, that might be a good test. Do we still help them even when it's not
so comfortable..?

This is when our motives for helping are put to trial.


Anyone can eventually figure out if they do things for the wrong motives or
not. We have to start somewhere and even if we do start out with wrong
motives, if we're sincere about finding God, He'll help us find the right
path.

Yes, the activity may be the same, but the motives to do it may vary greatly.
 
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