HannahBanana
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I'm hating myself right now. See my post entitled "I just keep trying and failing" to learn why.
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Iquote]Code:feel like I constantly try to please and help everyone around me, and when I need help, nobody ever seems to care.[/
I feel this way too! Specially about my children (20, 17 & 13) they demand so much but give nothing back, do nothing to help me!
All my life I've heard "what goes around comes around" or "do unto others as you would have them do unto you!" Sometimes I feel like those words are a joke, all that comes back to me is-----not how I treat others!
heya sister,Feel stupid being in love with someone I know is not capable of loving me back. I always fall in love then I ended up hurting myself. Sometimes I feel it's a curse, but why would i even think that, maybe I wasn't born to have someone because I am better without.
heya sister,
I know the feeling. That desire to just have someone there to hold close. Ultimately I have to accept that I can have that relationship, just I not found the right person.
After my first break up, I learned how powerful and dangerous love emotion can be. It is like a super powered magnet that won't shut down at times. Tearing at the heart strings. I developed 2 ideas on how to not give this emotion to wrong person.
I have locked my heart and keep the keyes in a safe place. When I meet someone who is intrested, I don't hand my heart over to them. When I do that I am being desparate and open to horrible emotional damage. That person has to earn my keyes, if they want my heart. I only plan on giving the keyes when I know I married her in my heart. Otherwise I will fall into the same pitfall I did with my ex girlfriend. Just is not worth it. Also I still have rational thought availible to so make good decissions.
Other is being careful about how I think about a potiential girl and romantic thoughts. We all know the crush is precurser to love. I try not to let that girl into my thoughts. When thinking about something I wish I could do or music that get my emotions stirring. Love makes one stupid really, because all one wants is that one desire.
Hope this helps. Hang in there and realize what an awesome person you are.
True, be patient with yourself. Most likely take some to adjust. Probably feeling "home sick" sorta speak. Google it and see if anyone got ideas how to cope.Right now I don't feel that awesome. I'm at a loss, the moving and everything, I feel so away from what Ihad before in my old place.
im not sure how im feeling kinda ok but at the same time im realy lonely and abit fragile today i just need a hug i feel realy disguisted and hate myself soo much recently ive been soo close to giving up on god recently as i just feel like i will never be worthy of him coz i think and do such satan filled things such as getin drunk and i think about sex all the time and it just makes me sooo angry i think about suicide all the time ahhhh i need help or maybe a miracle
Romans 7:14-25
Struggling with Sin
14 So the trouble is not with the law, for it is spiritual and good. The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin. 15 I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. 16 But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. 17 So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.
18 And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature.[d] I want to do what is right, but I can’t. 19 I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. 20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. 21 I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God’s law with all my heart. 23 But there is another power[e] within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. 24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.
heya sister,
I know the feeling. That desire to just have someone there to hold close. Ultimately I have to accept that I can have that relationship, just I not found the right person.
After my first break up, I learned how powerful and dangerous love emotion can be. It is like a super powered magnet that won't shut down at times. Tearing at the heart strings. I developed 2 ideas on how to not give this emotion to wrong person.
I have locked my heart and keep the keyes in a safe place. When I meet someone who is intrested, I don't hand my heart over to them. When I do that I am being desparate and open to horrible emotional damage. That person has to earn my keyes, if they want my heart. I only plan on giving the keyes when I know I married her in my heart. Otherwise I will fall into the same pitfall I did with my ex girlfriend. Just is not worth it. Also I still have rational thought availible to so make good decissions.
Other is being careful about how I think about a potiential girl and romantic thoughts. We all know the crush is precurser to love. I try not to let that girl into my thoughts. When thinking about something I wish I could do or music that get my emotions stirring. Love makes one stupid really, because all one wants is that one desire.
Hope this helps. Hang in there and realize what an awesome person you are.
hehe nah don't throw them away. Right now you are just feeling emotionally down. These steps will help you as start to regain control of yourself. Be patient and keep forgiving yourself.I am feeling better. I sort of saw part of a movie, where he was an awesome person because of who he really was and not because of someone. I always forget that when I am down.
Good thing after your first break up, you learned your lesson. The problem with me, falling in love is my weakness and even if I want so much to not hand my heart over right away, I do.
I will lock my heart now, i want to say 'and throw the keys' but that's not being mature, huh? Yeh, keep it in a safe place but for now I will concentrate first on my kids and how I will able to get them and be with me. And my new job!
Thank you, my friend for putting up with me.![]()
God bless!
hehe nah don't throw them away. Right now you are just feeling emotionally down. These steps will help you as start to regain control of yourself. Be patient and keep forgiving yourself.
Month or so back I was talking to my old friend about goal setting. Told him first thing I wake up I want to be a loving husband and good father. He told me that good to have that goal, but something wrong when it is what drives me. Working on changing that perspective, right now my music only thing I love to drive for. I been pouring myself into church and learning guitar. Finally making some traction and having lot fun.
I still have those desires, but I am not making myself desparate to fullfill them. Really it all falls on another person and as you already know good relationships don't happen very offen. Pour myself in ways to help people and what I love doing. Hopefully I will find someone along the way.
Hope this helps and I said the same to Gardener after all my mental breakdowns.![]()
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Heya Cardfan,don't know why i keep posting - i haven't felt very good for the past 6 weeks. I guess it just helps to write a bit. anyway, frustrated again today for lack of concentration.
Hi Imarie23 thanks for asking been feeling down cos i had a headache last night and ended up going bed early.why are you depressed, hon?