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......I will only get involved with someone who shares my core values and beliefs. ....
No, no no! Don't say that. "Life gets worse after 29 being single?" There is ALOT MORE TO LIFE THAN BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED...JUST ASK JESUS....HE GAVE YOU LIFE....I think it's all in the eye of the beholder. You are what you think you are. If you are shy that is fine....There are ways to enjoy yourself and a friend of the opposite sex..I find when you STOP LOOKING THAT ISWHEN THEY WILL POUR IN..I get approached often...some of them Ido not interest me and I say "no" to the others just because I enjoy staying single. I too, am 29. It's o.k. to be single, enjoy yourself. Do things you like to do , take up a hobby or two. Have you tried joing a local gym to try to connect to people? I don't mean go there to meet guys (cause i hate when guys do that). I mean have you tried to make new friends?I think with marriage there is a lot of connection in your life: connection with spouse, connection to people like you, connection with a church that caters to you, etc... I can see how that can lead to a rich social and even spiritual life. I'm a shy person and being a single is , well, lonely. I find that it's hard to have connections, even with other singles. Even when i try to step outside that shyness and be bold and assertive, the connections i want to have I don't seem to be able to get. Just my perspective. I'm only 29 and i can imagine it only gets worse if i get older and stay single.
HeyI was thinking about this tonight after I read a friend's blog. He's married and I find he lives a very rich social and spiritual life. I wondered to myself: IS that because he is married?
I compared my life to his and felt it isn't abundant like his is. I know, we shouldn't compare our lives to anyone else's -- but I did!
There's no particular answer to my question. Maybe his being married has provided him with stability and opportunity and support that I haven't had. Maybe I hold myself back because I'm still "waiting to be married" before I do certain things, like buying a home.
Another possibility is that I just don't have goals and priorities. Or that my goals and priorities are different, and I just need to appreciate them.
Anyway, thought I'd throw these thoughts out there for discussion, comment.
Jenster said:How abundant is your life as a single?
Miles, I quite agree! And thanks for the reminder about the evils of envy.My life is not as obviously abundant when compared to some, but I try to make the best of what I have. Most who live externally abundant lives seem to be involved in serious, long term, relationships. Something about the dynamic of a serious relationship brings a person out of his or her shell. That may make their lives seem more abundant. It's hard to say. I try not to envy them, because it's a bit like comparing apples to oranges. Envy would lead me to put a lesser value on the ways that I've been blessed. That would neither be edifying for me, nor pleasing to God.
I didn't mean LIFE got worse. I meant the opportunities and the response from others got worse. I have many hobbies and try to get out and meet people. I don't really go to things to look for dates so I really wouldn't classify myself as LOOKING, but I have yet to see those pouring in moments. I have several older singles in my life and after just observing how people treat them and don't include them in things; I can't say it's what I really want for my life. I don't really know how to explain that, but I guess I felt a need to respond to you. i do enjoy life and try not to think about the future.No, no no! Don't say that. "Life gets worse after 29 being single?" There is ALOT MORE TO LIFE THAN BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIED...JUST ASK JESUS....HE GAVE YOU LIFE....I think it's all in the eye of the beholder. You are what you think you are. If you are shy that is fine....There are ways to enjoy yourself and a friend of the opposite sex..I find when you STOP LOOKING THAT ISWHEN THEY WILL POUR IN..I get approached often...some of them Ido not interest me and I say "no" to the others just because I enjoy staying single. I too, am 29. It's o.k. to be single, enjoy yourself. Do things you like to do , take up a hobby or two. Have you tried joing a local gym to try to connect to people? I don't mean go there to meet guys (cause i hate when guys do that). I mean have you tried to make new friends?
If you look at some of my other post I mention that I even ask a guy on a date. You have to take a chance...I never wanted to miss an oppurtunity to get to know him on that level. Though things didn't work out...at least I tried.
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