Hot Guy Problems

[sparkypunkette]

I am working with a guy right now for this week ( STurgis rally here in south dakota). ANd...ummm he is sooo darn HOT. I work in real close quarters with him...well, in a room...but we are set to work in the same department, and have been. Last summer we went on a few dates...but i was on rebound then....as i am kinda now...not really though. All i know...is that i am a pretty big flirt. His body is a sooo ripped..not in a bodybuilder way..but where you just wanna hug him and squeeze his arms and feel his chest. Personally, its not an issue of me wanting to make out with him or even kiss him.(he isnt a good kisser....so a turnoff---which is GOOOOD)))..but I just want him arms around me, in a non sexual way ya know. Sooooo my dilemma...i constantly punch him, or run into him...and pretty much flirt all day. I dont know really waht im asking for. I know he knows i dont want to date him ( he didnt know how much i was still into my bf last summer and i think he got hurt), but he doesnt really mind me flirting. Sooo...do i have to stop....cause i just want to hug and cuddle!!!???

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Well, I can only tell you what I've learned from chicks hanging all over me, so I have no experience whatsoever on this topic.

Sounds like Lust to me though. I mean, the way you described him sounded more like you just wanted to talk about how hot this guy is.

 

[Living4Him03]

Sounds like lust to me as well. I know that if I were in that situation it would be hard not to have some lustful thoughts about him. Lust is a sin and also it's not really fair to him to be used for you to hug and feel his body lol even though you don't want to date him. If you have to, ask your manager if you can work in another area and make an excuse unrelated to this guy's hotness and your distraction from it. You could say that the two of you don't get much work done when you work in close quarters because you are such good friends. Either way, if I were you I wouldn't continue flirting with him and hugging him and all that...that is just leading someone on.

 

[Mother Vashti]

Lay off him. Let him do the chasing. Try to resist the urge to touch or gaze at him.
Remember, only a fool tests the depth of the river with both feet. Patience and caution are the key!!

 

[Blank123]

Don't give the guy mixed signals, its just a really cruel thing to do, IMO.

maybe I'm oversimplifying here, but it sounds pretty basic to me. If you don't want to date the guy and have a real relationship, then you've got to stop flirting with him. nothing good can come out of a situation like that.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

ya if you wont date im then dont flirt with him, that will hurt him and you will lose your friendship with him as well and be regretful in the end

 

[Tuffguy]

Holy Mixed Signals Batman!!!!

 

[SDSUMarcus01]

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[PetraFan007]

Mixed Signals = Really Really Bad!

 

[desi]

Mixed Signals = Really Really Bad!

I concur.

 

[Stanfi]

I agree as well, mixed signals are very bad. You are playing a game with some else's heart. That is a very self centered thing to do. Might has well rip his beating heart out of his chest, jump and and down on it when him watching.. same effect.

Remeber also. You reap what you sow.

 

[lilray]

"Here's a tip, buy a teddy bear. That way, nobody gets hurt."

that's funny.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

...buy a teddy bear...

Or there's always one of these...

You know, because most of us guys sleep in a button-down shirt and all.

 

[Blank123]

lol theres something very sad about that

 

[lilray]

Or there's always one of these...

You know, because most of us guys sleep in a button-down shirt and all.

No way! ROTFL.. I can't believe it!!?!? ha!ha! That's just twisted?!?!

 

[sparkypunkette]

I agree..it is lust...i just called him and told him i was sorry for everythign, and that i just cant act normal around him, and i am going to stop being retarded. I will see him tomorrow, and i will work in the same section, but it will be okay. Things wont ever get weird with him and i just because our parents are really good friends. It was hard to call him, and i almost didnt want too, but i think if it wouldve been switched around....i would have wanted the same thing ya know??

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I agree..it is lust...i just called him and told him i was sorry for everythign, and that i just cant act normal around him, and i am going to stop being retarded. I will see him tomorrow, and i will work in the same section, but it will be okay. Things wont ever get weird with him and i just because our parents are really good friends. It was hard to call him, and i almost didnt want too, but i think if it wouldve been switched around....i would have wanted the same thing ya know??

Would it help if I sent you the pillow? (J/K)

Good move talking to him though.

Woot.

 

[sparkypunkette]

Haha, i dont think i'll need the pillow...thanks for the offer though. Actually i didnt get to talk to him directly about all that, because he didnt answer his phone. Sooo....we'll see if he brings anything up today...actually he will most likely be hung over ( everyone pretty much from my age group went up to see Kid Rock last night...) It was an outdoor concert and everyone thought it would be cool to be trashed at it...cool huh. Sidenote..me and 4 buds were the only ones around downtown last night under 35....pretty funny...hehe. So anywya...maybe he will say somethign back..or maybe not, either way..im glad i did what i did, cause otherwise i would have kept on flirting with him....and that is a bad bad thing.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

You're handling it, that's the first step.

 

[Sketcher]

Mixed signals = dishonesty. Ever had a guy screw with your feelings?