Hopeless love

[MariaLavender]

Dear Members,
I would need help as I can't share this with anyone. I feel different than before, I think I fell in love with somebody who is hopeless (unreacheable and I'm invisible to him, different social status). I feel disturbed and helpless and don't know what to do. I'm not young, over 40, was thinking normally so far, I mean I didn't let anybody make a fool of me or I didn't care if somebody didn't love me. But now I feel I can't bear that he does not know me or if he does not love me even just a little bit. And I'm concerned because I would bear many things for him to love me, which I wouldn't have done before for anybody. I'm a believer and I live in chastity, I would not change that, only the feelings are a problem. Thank you in advance for your answers, God bless you.

 

[Daniel Hoseini]

Why wouldn't you tell it to him directly?

 

[Mark Quayle]

Dear Members,
I would need help as I can't share this with anyone. I feel different than before, I think I fell in love with somebody who is hopeless (unreacheable and I'm invisible to him, different social status). I feel disturbed and helpless and don't know what to do. I'm not young, over 40, was thinking normally so far, I mean I didn't let anybody make a fool of me or I didn't care if somebody didn't love me. But now I feel I can't bear that he does not know me or if he does not love me even just a little bit. And I'm concerned because I would bear many things for him to love me, which I wouldn't have done before for anybody. I'm a believer and I live in chastity, I would not change that, only the feelings are a problem. Thank you in advance for your answers, God bless you.

How old is this other person? Do you really know him? What is his family like? Do you know them? Does he consider you a different social status or is it just an income difference? What kind of a believer is he? What is the nature of your love —sexual, companionship, what? How would he actually fit into that need you feel? How would he see it —what does he feel like he needs? Do you love him enough to let him find someone better suited to him?

 

[rockytopva]

Dear Members,
I would need help as I can't share this with anyone. I feel different than before, I think I fell in love with somebody who is hopeless (unreacheable and I'm invisible to him, different social status). I feel disturbed and helpless and don't know what to do. I'm not young, over 40, was thinking normally so far, I mean I didn't let anybody make a fool of me or I didn't care if somebody didn't love me. But now I feel I can't bear that he does not know me or if he does not love me even just a little bit. And I'm concerned because I would bear many things for him to love me, which I wouldn't have done before for anybody. I'm a believer and I live in chastity, I would not change that, only the feelings are a problem. Thank you in advance for your answers, God bless you.

Dear Ms Maria…. We do not know what people are going through these days. You may have have found someone totally hopeful and end up totally shocked. This is yet another care to laden the shoulders of the Lord Jesus Christ… Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. - 1 Peter 5:7

 

[MariaLavender]

Dear Ms Maria…. We do not know what people are going through these days. You may have have found someone totally hopeful and end up totally shocked. This is yet another care to laden the shoulders of the Lord Jesus Christ… Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. - 1 Peter 5:7

Thank you! He doesn't have a family yet and I cannot have it over 40, I think it would be selfish to think only of me, but still it terrifies me that I just lose him. I talk to Jesus about it, He helped me meet him and talk to him, which I didn't expect, but then it seems hopeless. Thank you for helping.

 

[MariaLavender]

How old is this other person? Do you really know him? What is his family like? Do you know them? Does he consider you a different social status or is it just an income difference? What kind of a believer is he? What is the nature of your love —sexual, companionship, what? How would he actually fit into that need you feel? How would he see it —what does he feel like he needs? Do you love him enough to let him find someone better suited to him?

He is 40, no family, no news of girlfriend, he might have someone, but only in secret as his life is open to everybody. Yes, I know a lot about his family, his background, his childhood, his views and thoughts about important things. He is a public figure, many people would like to know him, it's possible to meet him, I have met him, but not possible to talk in private. He is a protestant believer, and He talks frequently about his faith in God. What I feel is everything, I like everything about him. I feel that I love him and I can't let him go as I feel empty if I plan to forget him, I can't do it by now. I don't know about his needs, he talks freuently in interviews and his friends talk about him, but he is quite private, he won't talk about his needs. I think I am the best suited to him in every aspect except for my age. If I was younger, I would never think of giving up. Thank you for your answer and questions!

 

[MariaLavender]

Why wouldn't you tell it to him directly?

He is in a position where technicians read his messages and emails, he uses his facebook account but I have written several times, talking to him about casual things, he hasn't responded ever. I met him a bit of time ago, he was very kind and friendly, but he is not left alone, impossible to talk with him privately. Thank you for answering!

 

[1watchman]

This is quite a dilemma, it seems. Maybe he thinks you are too old for him, and doesn't want to say that. You may never know, but it you can write a private letter to him, and share such thoughts you have for him; and ask him to be forthright in answering if he doesn't want to continue with you, it might get a response.
Otherwise, just pray about it to our God, and if you feel the need, look elsewhere for a man closer to your age. You seem to be a very nice person to know.
Write me anytime here at the Conversation page and we can chat a bit, if you would like. - 1watchman

 

[1watchman]

Many of us feel sorry for your situation, Maria. It may be difficult to speak of this publicly, but I know you are concerned. Feel free to write me privately at the Conversation site herein if you wish to speak further in detail. -1watchman

 

[MariaLavender]

Many of us feel sorry for your situation, Maria. It may be difficult to speak of this publicly, but I know you are concerned. Feel free to write me privately at the Conversation site herein if you wish to speak further in detail. -1watchman

Thank you for your answer, I will write a message.