Hooray! He dumped me.

[Life2Christ]

Guy I had first date with last Saturday dumped me after one week. We had a date tomorrow that we were planning. His second date plans? Meet me at the hotel. I said no let's get to know each other, baby! He calls me 24 hours later to tell me he's not feeling chemistry with me. Lol yes I am laughing and crying. I know God had his hands on this. Was not meant to be.
I am not giving up.

 

[TonyLee]

It seems to me that he wanted to just feel a woman's body and that was the extent of it all.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Congratulations, and I'm not being sarcastic. It sounds like one of those situations where you were doubtful things could have worked out well. Still, you held out a dim hope. Then something happened to break the spell. That is a liberating feeling, isn't it? To be freed of a false hope. Sometimes false hopes are the only kind this old world can deliver.

I seldom haunt this forum anymore, but it is Halloween.

 

[Life2Christ]

It seems to me that he wanted to just feel a woman's body and that was the extent of it all.

Yes. I feel insulted that he was never interested in getting to know me. He just wrote me off. He said something my ex-husband said when he left me. He said "you are a good woman". That shook me. I know rejection is part of finding love but I keep getting the "its not you its me." I should have known. He never even asked questions about my life.

 

[Life2Christ]

I seldom haunt this forum anymore, but it is Halloween.

 

[steflou64]

That is a blessing you only wasted one week on this guy! I dated the last guy for 2 months (probably used me for money-he knew I was "marriage minded" when he agreed to go out with me!).

 

[blackribbon]

Isn't "dumped" a strong word for a friendship less than a couple weeks old? I am disturbed by how we look at dating at our age (I am no exception either). You knew this man less than a month and have gone out with him exactly once. He decided to not go forward because you were on different pages. He obviously has different expectation of a dating relationship than you do. I don't think you were even "dating" yet...you went on one date and have been talking to other men. That is far from being a "relationship". Dating is about spending time together to see if you want to build a life together. We usually have to date a lot of people to find the right one...and that means ending most of the relationships we start. ((Hugs)) because it hurts...but obviously, he was looking for a warm body and not a long term relationship...and he was honest about it from the beginning. I hope the next one goes the direction you want but if you are dating, you will have to expect that most will end because most people are not a good match and we use dating to determine who is.

 

[Life2Christ]

Yes you are correct, BR. I think I want to stop dating and find my needle in a haystack already. I also expect that it might not ever happen. I just had high hopes and was let down. I am turning my profile back on later today. I will not give up on finding love.

 

[miss-a]

I found when I did the online thing that many guys didn't ask about me, try to get to know me, or show interest in my interests. I think sometimes they like the pictures and assume you fit the bill, but they never stop to think they might not fit our bill. And I think that's a big red flag.

 

[dayhiker]

I think we are more unique as people in our mature age than we were in our 20's. So it takes a lot longer to find a person that we have the connection with that we want for our next partner. So my view if we want to be in a relationship we will often have to meet several times the number of people that we did when we were young to find that one.

I never consider time spend with anyone I meet as time wasted. The image of God is in everyone of those people I meet and so there are things that I can learn from them to improve my relationships with God and people.

 

[Chad Farwell]

Nice, I will not be used either !