Honestly, did you doubt?

[Lizzi4Christ]

I've heard some couples say that they had no doubts about who they were going to marry, while others have said they did doubt. Both groups are happily married now.

Did you have any doubts? Do you think they're normal?

 

[katelyn]

I am sure I had doubts at some point in our relationship, but by the time we were ready to get engaged, my doubts were out of the picture. I think it was the same for my husband.

 

[mamaneenie]

Well, I had doubts at the start of the relationship, but on our wedding day, I knew it was right. At a few points through the engagement, I had a few doubts, usually associated with when we had big arguments.


Occasionally it is normal to doubt. But I find that there is a fine line between a little doubt, and enough doubt that tells you, "No, this is not right"

 

[JillLars]

I'm getting married in 2.5 years, and I have never had any doubts about my relationship with my fiance, and neither has he, even through big arguments, which is the main reason I know we're good for each other, breaking up has never been an option. I wouldn't go so far as to say that doubts aren't normal though, it depends on the two people involved.

 

[IslandBreeze]

Lizzi--I honestly did not doubt for one second from the time Jay and I had our first date until we said "I do." EVERYTHING fell into place perfectly. We just felt like God's hands were on us, guiding us the whole time. It was an incredible experience!

 

[LadyBird]

Lizzi--I honestly did not doubt for one second from the time Jay and I had our first date until we said "I do." EVERYTHING fell into place perfectly. We just felt like God's hands were on us, guiding us the whole time. It was an incredible experience!

YAY!

I know a married couple and the man had serious doubts before they got married. But they are happily married. I think that having doubts is a normal thing...but I do think there is a difference between having "cold feet" and having "ICE cold feet."

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

Cammie, I think that's absolutely wonderful!

Thanks everyone for sharing

 

[water_ripple]

When I first met my husband I knew that would be the guy I would marry..Scared me so bad that I kind of "ran". Not that I did anything to really jeapordize the relationship, but for the first few months we were dating I sort of "protected" myself..I had been in a relationship before that had burned me pretty well..so I was not exactly trusting..

Funny thing is he has told me that he knew the night we met that I would be the one he would marry...

Doubts though are more like questions..it is good to have them answered in a person's own mind before they get married. Personally I never went into the marriage thinking well if things do not work out we can get a divorce..not that I think people go into marriage thinking that, but we have never really seen divorce as an option we would persue...

 

[FervidPrincess]

I never had any doubts.

 

[LN]

Yes, I did.

My doubts were more right before the wedding. I got married young (24) and I always had dreams of living a glamorous city life living with my friends and maybe getting married around 30 or so. My doubts were more that I wasn't ready to get married, then if he was the right person. I was more fearful of losing my independence and leaving my wonderful friends as roommates. I loved coming home to our city apartment and ordering takeout or going shopping with my girlfriends.

I was so scared that if I was having doubts I wasn't ready to be married. But I'm so glad I did it. Two years later and I have no idea where I'd be without my husband. He is my other half.

The best thing I did was tell him how I was feeling - the good and the bad. The honesty brought us closer.

LN

 

[desi]

I had doubts, still do. Who knows what God will bring tomorrow. I trust my wife with everything but recognize she could betray me whenever she gets the inclination. Knowing God is there to carry me if that happens gives me peace.

 

[Yitzchak]

Both my wife and I had no doubts. We did however begin as friends and so by the time we had developed romantic feelings for eachother, we were already well into the relationship.