Homosexuality: Please Help Me! I don't know what to do

[whinrei99]

Greetings in Jesus Christ!

Hi! I am Whin and I am 21 years old. My problem is about an intimate relationship I have with a lesbian. I know what I did was wrong, as a Christian, I should never had started an intimate or mutual relationship with her right from the start and I have asked for God's forgiveness. I know that if it wasn't of God's grace and mercy, I shouldn't have been blessed with my family and been living a normal life until now.

God is my first love because He loved me first. I want to come to Him again and repent - to surrender fully to His will. But to do that, I must refrain from anything that is immoral and anything that is to this world.

You see, she keeps coming back to me and saying that God will understand our relationship even if others cannot. And I am not saying that what she said was wrong, but because God has set His orders among us, I should be obedient to His commandments because I love Him.

How will I be able to make this right? How will I be able to serve God better considering that I am always being haunted by her presence. She's always around me and even if I tell her not to be with me anymore and to keep away, she still around.

It has been my prayer that this dilemma be solved in the right time.
can you give me heavenly advises? I know that only the righteous can give a righteous comfort to their fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

Please pray for me as I pray for you also.
God bless.

 

[whinrei99]

<staff edit> I am also sorry if this thread is in the wrong place since I am new in this forum and the very reason why I joined is to ask for christian's advises regarding this topic. I also apologize for the lack of details. I will explain further.

Though Lesbians/Gays aren't directly mentioned in the bible, but the fact that of course both are in a mutual relationship, we are also sexually attracted to each other, which makes the whole relationship somewhat not right anymore. I know I love her, she loves me too, but I don't wanna disobey God anymore, I love God and my parents above all and I am willing to give her up if this will be the effect. I want to be the person my parents wants me to be. Take note that my parents doesn't approve of our relationship.

I am in a relationship with her for about 10 months now, and I know it took me a very very very long time before I realize that what I was doing is wrong. I am starting to regret that being with her is the wrong decision.

Maybe some will be asking, "If you are willing not to be with her anymore, why not get away?" yes! that's the point! I want to get away, but even though how many times I would tell her that we really don't belong, giving her all the reasons, she wouldn't let me go. She's always around because we are partners in our online business and now it gives me some ideas to just quit the shop just not to be around her. I am also having 2nd thoughts of changing my mobile number and block her in my facebook so she wouldn't bother me anymore with her messages, texts and calls.

Don't get me wrong, she is not a bad person or stalking or something, she's a very nice woman and I respect her. But I couldn't be the person she wants me to be anymore. She keeps telling me that I am the one for her and no one else will be, she tells me that she couldn't imagine living a life without me or that living a life with another girl. I am just afraid that she would try something foolish and will end up either threatening me or her life, something like that.

I need some serious advices

 

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[GenetoJean]

Whin, I said a prayer that the Lord would help you understand his wish for you.

 

[whinrei99]

Whin, I said a prayer that the Lord would help you understand his wish for you.

Thank you very much
God bless you

 

[Spunkn]

I think this is a case where your words have to be backed up by action. You have told her over and over things have changed, but she doesn't believe you.

So now you have to be more firm in dealing with you. If you have the option of working somewhere else, and not being partners with her anymore, I would do it. If that is not an option, then I would tell her, that business stuff will be handled differently and professionally from now on. There won't be any personal stuff involved.

If she continues to pester you through facebook, etc, then yeah I would eventually block her if it gets too be too much.

All these things would be really hard though especially after 10 months with someone. Keep being strong and lean on the Lord

 

[transparentthought13]

Honestly, Whin, your sanctification before the Lord is SO much more important than anything else in life, even your business. I would advise you to distance yourself as far as possible from this woman. This is obviously a temptation to you, and, from your post, you can obviously see that such a temptation is wrong.

So run.

Paul says in 1 Cor 6:18 to "flee sexual immorality". Don't hang around and constantly put yourself in a place where you will be tempted. Get away. I would go so far as to say you may have to radically restructure your life to avoid this. Homosexuality and Lesbianism WILL lead to eternal damnation. I am convinced that your statement "Lesbians/Gays aren't directly mentioned in the bible" is incorrect; Scripture is very clear that this lifestyle is contrary to God's plan and perfect will (Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthian 6:9; 1 Timothy 1:9:10). Flee this sin.

Don't get trapped!

 

[Bluelion]

You said lesbians are not mentioned in the Bible but they are. Pauls says women turn from there natural ways and had sex with each other, and man burned with unnatural lust for other men.

Good News Jesus is Lord. You are right to struggle with this, but you have forgiveness in Christ. It is sexual immorality. I struggled my self with women( though I am a man) it was out of control. I am being freed and almost there. It was a slow process it did not happen over night.

I had to sink my self deep in the Word of God, Pray a lot and decide I wanted him more. I wanted to live out his ways more than i wanted to sin because his ways are life. This is not an over night deliverance, but you can be delivered. You need to read the Word every day. You need to pray a lot, like every time you have the urge, when you don't feel like praying pray for help to pray. when you need help reading the word of God , pray. ask God to teach you his ways and give you wisdom. One of the most powerful things you can do is ask Jesus to pray for you.

It might be a slow process but don't give up, and don't believe this woman lies. God does not understand that relationship he has already said so. it is a sin. Those are Gods words. We all have are struggles with sin.

If you can here it the bible says it is a perversion. that is to say your sex drive is out of control. You struggle with Lust, i struggle with this as well. Pray to God and keep struggling it is the good fight. Know you do not struggle alone there are many. Jesus also is in you fighting this with you working on your heart. Jesus never loses, so be of Good cheer you will be free.

I prayed for you.

Peace and Love.
blu

 

[Johnnz]

There are probably a variety of underlying issues involved. You can PM me if you want to identify and explore some of them, which may be helpful.

John
NZ

 

[redcake]

God bless you Whin. Get somewhere alone with God and spend some good quality time with Him and talk to Him about this. Be open to what He says or shows you.