Homosexuality a curse given by God?

[Houseperish]

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[GarmentsOfPraise]

First of all, I know I can't related to where you're coming from; but I have felt suicidal for a while many years ago. I was even at the point in which I had enough and actually started swearing at God, giving hand gestures to the sky, and was fed-up with all the, at least what I believed to be, burdens of being a Christian.

It's a difficult place to be at in our lives, but God understands. He forgave me, He knows what you're going through and He loves you.

There were actually times afterwards, as well, when I really really wished that God would just bring me home; that is, to say, back to Him in Heaven. What kept me knowing the difference between enduring a short season and, perhaps, insanity was that I knew that God would bring me Home when the time was right.

Let him be your guide.

Grace and peace be upon you.

 

[Sketcher]

My own thinking is God hates me and this curse he has given me is incurable and I WILL go to Hell because of it. And though it may be ridiculous, it is kind of hard to pull yourself out of that thinking when you are the only one who listens or cares to listen. I don't have ANY friends... NONE. Its only my mother and I, and unless its happy stuff she doesn't want to talk to me. The rest of my family is gone.

If you have been born again, this is not Biblically true at all. It's not as if he adopts children he loves on one hand and he adopts others to be whipping boys.

I'm also of the belief that everyone has a hard sin or two that is a special struggle for them. It varies from person to person, but don't think that your sexual issues make you any worse than the rest of us. We all have sin, and Jesus died to take the blame for it, and he rose again that we would one day see victory over it.

I encourage you to do a fresh read of the book of John, and when you've gotten through that, Romans. They are full of promises that you need to take a hold of for your life. A few that are coming to my head are John 1:12, John 3:16-17, John 5:24, John 6:37, John 7:37-39, Romans 8:31-39.

 

[jwaitman]

@Houseperish

If you feel like noone truly loves you, please remember that I do. My heart would be filled with sorrow if your life ended with suicide. Since this is an online forum, I'm not sure how I can show my sincerity, but please don't take my words lightly.

 

[BeagleMomSC]

if someone is born with one arm, are they cursed by God? No, it's a physical handicap they have to overcome. Some say the devil makes people gay or bi, I believe it's something you are born with. I DON'T think it's genetic, meaning it's not encoded in our genes, I believe it might be something environmental or such that causes irregularities in one's hormones We are attracted to people not because they are "male or female" but based on what type of pheremones attract us. If something goes wrong with that encoding, then when are attracted to either the same sex or both! Now, does that mean everyone who is born with such a condition should go around sleeping with the same sex? No.. but what I am getting at is it's a born-handicap, one that you have to deal with and one that you can only deal with by seeking God's support.
As for the depression.. PLEASE rethink taking meds for awhile, they are not just a placebo and help many people find peace. Good luck!!

 

[Faulty]

I read your story and I think of this passage in Ephesians 2:

"And you were dead in your trespasses and sins, in which you formerly walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, of the spirit that is now working in the sons of disobedience. Among them we too all formerly lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, even as the rest"

It's a terrible place to be. To realize that we are all by nature an object of God's wrath from the beginning. We grow up living as our father the devil, seperated from God, with all the guilt and anguish and burdens that come with it. In that state, we are dead in every sense of the word and awaiting our judgement.

However...

If you continue to read the passage you will find that wonderful verbal eraser, known as 'but':

"But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the ages to come He might show the surpassing riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God;

not as a result of works, so that no one may boast."

Unless you are unrepentent of your sins, and refuse His salvation, don't ever consider yourself as worthless to God. You are created in His image. From the very beginning, He has planned to provide you with a Redeemer because He desires you intimately.

"For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them."
Don't pray for control, or wisdom, or strength in this. Pray for mercy. Pray that you be granted repentence. That is what you need. That is what we all need.

 

[Houseperish]

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[startrekfan1]

Homosexuality is no curse.

It is just a deviant lifestyle that should be repented of.

Hope that helps. Pray for forgiveness and God will forgive you.

 

[RoyWM]

First, let me say that whether or not the title is true, it is how I feel. Since I was 7 or 8 years old I have had attraction to both sexes. I had no family; they tossed me around like I was property...fighting over who should keep me not, using me as a ransom. Of course I never fit in in school or college. Always picked on, never had any solid friends, basically had to hold everything in. Things got better in college socially, but I found myself drinking and doing drugs at every turn because I just wanted to die. I hate(d) myself so much, and I don't understand out of all of the sins I could have indulged in, why this one? and WHY SO EARLY? Everytime I sin now I get extremely depressed and almost suicidal. I feel like other sins I could control, but sexual sins are seemingly impossible.

Spiritually I think I have grown... I learned a lot about God between 8 years old and now, but I have also been depressed (chronically) since then. I WILL NOT TAKE MEDICATION. I know what lithium and other antidepressants do. They WILL NOT work for me. Likewise, counseling will only work if I can talk to someone with a Christian background, otherwise s/he will never know where I am coming from.

My own thinking is God hates me and this curse he has given me is incurable and I WILL go to Hell because of it. And though it may be ridiculous, it is kind of hard to pull yourself out of that thinking when you are the only one who listens or cares to listen. I don't have ANY friends... NONE. Its only my mother and I, and unless its happy stuff she doesn't want to talk to me. The rest of my family is gone.

Is this a test by him? I think about suicide daily, almost hourly. I think my spirit is preventing me from going through with it because I don't want to be away from Him, but my spirit is being broken down daily. This, plus I know stuff that is important to everyone, but no one wants to hear it.

People can say that you will make it through, and everyone has a season, etc. Likewise, I have heard "God has something special for you," but what bothers me is what about all those other people who think what they are going through is too hard? They don't make it. I worry I may be in that lot.

I am not trying to sound like I have all of the answers (like my family has told me on several occasions), I just want non-redundant help if possible. If not, no worries.

I have prayed for this to be taken, for me to have control, wisdom, strength, someone to help me, etc. Nothing has happened. Now we are going into a situation where close to no one will be around, and so much bad stuff will happen. I feel like I am a throw away in God's plan, worthless in most respects.

Please don't be mean. This is a serious post. Any and all help is appreciated. Thank you.

No, its not a curse from God, but it is a curse that can be broken. You must claim that victory which Christ obtained for you. He can and will heal you of this sexual problem, which obviously is a problem because it has brought such misery into your life. It will not be easy because as in other addictions you will have to work hard at to break the pattern.

If someone tells you that you that God made you this way and for you to accept it, they are lying to you. Flee such people for they are a hindrance you in your walk with Christ. They seek only to drag you down with them to their own level of depravity, or that level of acceptance of sin to which they have grown accustomed to.

 

[makeupgirl]

I'm sorry for what you're going through. But, Homosexuality is not a curse given by God. How it's not? Because in his word his is dead set against it, it's mention so many times it's not funny how he's against homosexuality. It's not something you're born with. But remember we all were born with a sinful nature and we're still fighting it even today, even though we've been saved by the blood of Christ. The feelings you have for your same sex were manifested but it wasn't by God and you weren't cursed by it. A lot of times we feel something or want something that is contrary to the will and word of God and Satan has planted the seed for us to always blame God for our mistakes when it's God that has our best interest at heart. As far as meds go, please don't stop taking them. They were provide by our Lord for a reason, to help you get well. I rebel against my meds all the time but it's God that always reminds me about my meds so I don't get sicker. So I pray that you will listen to the Holy Spirit as he leads you into all truths. The Lord's word is true and will lead you into all truths. I hope you get better soon. Peace my sibling in Christ and be strong in the Lord. P.S. God does love you no matter what because God is love.

 

[Kutte]

Homosexuality is only a curse when people make it so or want you to believe it is. not God. In the animal world too, homosexuality can be observed.

Kutte

 

[Sketcher]

Homosexuality is only a curse when people make it so or want you to believe it is. not God. In the animal world too, homosexuality can be observed.

Kutte

The animal world is not a good standard to judge the appropriateness of human behavior by. We need to look to the Bible.

 

[RoyWM]

Homosexuality is only a curse when people make it so or want you to believe it is. not God. In the animal world too, homosexuality can be observed.

Kutte

I agree with twistedsketch. The animal world should not be a guide for human behavior. As Christians we should know that we were not made in image of some animal, but we are made in the image of God.

 

[Kutte]

RoyWM,

Like it or not, we are part of the animal world, except for having been blessed with a higher degree of awareness and intelligence. Animals too are creations of God.

Kutte

 

[Holypeta]

Thank you all for your responses! I have been working and praying. It isn't easy, though. I really appreciate the encouragement from everyone, it really helped.

God bless!

There you go man! You NEED to have absolute faith when you pray. For instance it is amazing when I hear my senior pastor pray at my church. He prays to the Lord with the perfect mind set. Having the faith God will work it out and being positive when you do pray. Dude.. pm me and I will share more in depth with you.

 

[Adriaenszoon]

Dear Houseperish,

I'm not a liberal Christian, but my message to you may make me appear liberal. Many years ago, a woman trained in these areas of thought told me that it was her belief that everyone, male and female, fall along a spectrum, whose ends represent absolute homosexuality and absolute heterosexuality, and very few of us are actually located at those extremes. What she said was--and I know I risk ruffling lots of people's feathers--most everyone has at least a little bit of homosexuality in them. The vast majority kind of sweep it under their mental or emotional rug. The closer one is to the extreme end of the spectrum representing absolute heterosexuality, the easier it is to do. Some people are so homophobic that the mere thought that they themselves could actually entertain the idea of having sex with someone of the same sex is so repulsive that they bury it beneath layers of mental walls; and others, having obviously different feelings about the issue, respond to these homosexual feelings in a very natural way: they act them out. What God says, if I understand Him correctly, is that He considers homosexuality an abomination. Some of us may seem to have a natural inclination to do a whole variety of sinful things; and when we learn that such and such a thing is against the teachings of God, we have to try our best to resist committing that particular sin. In all likelihood, the sins that I have the most difficult time resisting are just as irresistible to me as homosexual practices are to you. Above all, God loves you, and He doesn't want you to do anything stupid. Perhaps it's a thorn in your side that you'll just have to learn to live with. Resist the evil practice, but don't let it drive you to do the unthinkable. May God the Father, God the Holy Spirit, and God the Son, our beloved Jesus Christ be with you, to help you and comfort you in these troubled times of yours.

 

[Miss Elly]

Dear Houseperish, it sounds you need deliverance from the powers of darkness. I've heard it said that our minds can be used for the devil's playground. Read your bible, then claim his promises to you. He loves you!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Breckmin]

Dear Houseperish, it sounds you need deliverance from the powers of darkness. I've heard it said that our minds can be used for the devil's playground. Read your bible, then claim his promises to you. He loves you!!!!!!!!!!!

This is actually true. But the world is completely blind to unclean
deceiving spirits because they are not aware of the supernatural.

My response to this thread is to say this. Homosexuality is not a
curse from God... it is actually a curse we ourselves fall into and it
can become a curse which is gained by the enemies of God.

But it is much more complicated than this because it involves consequences.

I was beguiled by a 20 year old male when I was 3 to 3 and 1/2
years old. I did not know what I was doing or ask for this...but
it affected me for the next 20 years of my life. I know what it
is like to struggle with homosexuality and homosexual passions.
When I was 3 1/2 or 4 my mom stopped letting me take baths
with my brother who was almost 8 years because she noticed
that I had become fascinated with his body part. My dad was
always insecure about my sexuality and was clearly worried I
would be a homosexual.

This was a secret struggle for me..but one that God was able
to be victorious in my life through. Believe me...I am attracted
to women not men. I am happily married with four children now.

Prayer is the number one thing you can do. Abstinence is
very important in the healing process. There are thousands
of Christians who come out of homosexuality through groups
like NARTH and Exodus and other groups.

Homosexuality is NOT a learned behavior...it is an entrapping
behavior. When this happens...it is difficult to get back.
It is difficult to get back to heterosexual desire when you
have participated in homosexual degrading passions and it
affects your mind. Because homosexuality is so compulsive..
it is more intense - and I often describe it as "it feels better."

It may feel better...but there is NOT the satisfaction that
the marriage bed gives you from both a physical, emotional
and spiritual peace that is something you can thank God for.

The marriage bed is Holy and there is a satisfaction that
comes from loving someone of the opposite sex that is
corroborated with the feeling of "what is right."

Most homosexual desire wants more and can't wait to get
more. It is very compulsive...it is very intense...and there
is an emptiness that accompanies it that changes you. It
changes the way in which you think and it changes the way
in which you pray.

You must pray through it. You must not forget "the fear of
the Lord is the beginning of wisdom" and pray for healing.

God will give you a good gift IF you seek Him. The Cross of
Jesus Christ is a great enough Sacrifice for sin to completely
forgive you of degrading passions and homosexual desire...

but healing takes time.

No. Homosexuality is NOT a curse from God. A depraved mind,
and degrading passions are consequences and perhaps these
could be seen as a "curse" for participating in homosexuality.

Homosexuality is an unnatural sexual addition that changes you.
It is an entrapping behavior - NOT a learned behavior.

It is somewhat of a lonely place to be in because most
Christian never struggle with it. I recommend finding resources
through places like NARTH.

And yes, MissElly is right. You need deliverance. This deliverance
is spiritual deliverance and involves spiritual warfare.

 

[Breckmin]

Homosexuality is only a curse when people make it so or want you to believe it is. not God. In the animal world too, homosexuality can be observed.

Kutte

Animals masterbating impulsively with the same sex in their species is NOT
sodomy.

These same animals will mate and bond with the opposite sex and produce
offspring.

The behavior of same sex touching yourself is tantamount to an animal scratching
an itch. It is NOT homosexual bonding or the involvement of sodomy.

Only humans do this.

Two Killer Whales swimming in unison is NOT homosexual bonding...
especially when these same whales will mate with a female.