Homosexual temptations?

[christlover500]

I am a bisexual and a faithful christian. I don't know exactly why I have these temptations to the same sex; it started when I was in 5th grade crushing on other boys. I was extremely depressed over it and felt so different from the others. My mom can accept that I am bisexual because she doesn't believe in holding it against me. My dad is more into the traditional marriage and he reacted very angrily when I had came out, and he said that it was intolerable for him.

I am constantly bombarded by media and film and whatnot about homosexuality. I can't recall being attracted to guys when I was only a few years old, so this can't be genetic. I also can't recall where I "learned" this behavior either; I guess it may have been when I used to try on the clothes of my female relatives when I was young. It's a grand temptation, larger than any sin or temptation I've ever had.

There are many reasons why it's hard to fight this, but one major. The only people I've dated are girls, and all of them have manipulated and cheated on me. It's very hard to tell myself to live purely heterosexually when all I've been is manipulated and turned on by the girls I've dated. I see my gay friends happily in relationships, and that makes me feel like maybe a guy could treat me better. It's very hard to go through this.

Like many other LGBT people, I've tried to "pray the gay away", but it never worked fully, so I kept relapsing into the sin. Even at a point I believed lies about how the scriptures on homosexuality were made up. I had figured since God wasn't switching my mindset, that this must have been the way he intended. I go a while accepting that, but sooner or later I just can't ignore the truth that I'm supposed to be with a woman exclusively.

Please pray for me, and God bless you all.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

I am a bisexual and a faithful christian. I don't know exactly why I have these temptations to the same sex; it started when I was in 5th grade crushing on other boys. I was extremely depressed over it and felt so different from the others. My mom can accept that I am bisexual because she doesn't believe in holding it against me. My dad is more into the traditional marriage and he reacted very angrily when I had came out, and he said that it was intolerable for him.

I am constantly bombarded by media and film and whatnot about homosexuality. I can't recall being attracted to guys when I was only a few years old, so this can't be genetic. I also can't recall where I "learned" this behavior either; I guess it may have been when I used to try on the clothes of my female relatives when I was young. It's a grand temptation, larger than any sin or temptation I've ever had.

There are many reasons why it's hard to fight this, but one major. The only people I've dated are girls, and all of them have manipulated and cheated on me. It's very hard to tell myself to live purely heterosexually when all I've been is manipulated and turned on by the girls I've dated. I see my gay friends happily in relationships, and that makes me feel like maybe a guy could treat me better. It's very hard to go through this.

Like many other LGBT people, I've tried to "pray the gay away", but it never worked fully, so I kept relapsing into the sin. Even at a point I believed lies about how the scriptures on homosexuality were made up. I had figured since God wasn't switching my mindset, that this must have been the way he intended. I go a while accepting that, but sooner or later I just can't ignore the truth that I'm supposed to be with a woman exclusively.

Please pray for me, and God bless you all.

Hi,


I want to say that first off, being a Christian is not that easy, and that is why I'm proud of you for fighting.

We will always struggle and fight against the world. The gate is wide, but the truth is one way, and that is why our road as Christians is narrow. But in the end, we are victorious because He is victorious.

Why did I mention all these things that you've probably heard before in your life? Because I am just as broken as you are. We are all broken, fragile beings and God understands that.

Only God can make you complete, not people. When you seek Him, He will find you. In the end, when you are in your death bed, God will call you back Home, not other people.

I don't want you to think that a guy or a girl can treat you better. I want you to start giving your life to God instead of finding people who you think can give you love and happiness. There are too many ways to this life, but none of them are right in the end.

I don't want you to start "praying the gay away." I don't want you to think that heterosexuality is the right way to go either because Jesus is. People of this world will lead you to wrong paths, but Jesus saved you from drowning.

What do you think will honor God the most? He just wants you to follow Him, to serve Him, to know His true love for you.

Start praying and ask how you can serve Him today. Confess that you are a broken individual and ask how to be His friend. How to know His love and will to serve other broken and lost individuals.

When we deny our old, torn selves and start anew with Christ, that is when our lives really begin. Abraham left his old house to start a brand new life with God. That is the attitude of a man of faith.

Don't concentrate on your sexuality or heterosexuality. There are so many of us who are broken in this world. There are people who commit adultery, fornication, harm children sexually, etc. But we Christians are supposed to concentrate on God's love and will, not on worldly nonsense.

Stay away from the media. They can really confuse your thoughts and leave questionable impressions in your mind. Stay away from what the world says about love. Stay away from worldly romance. Be the man of Christ, His child, His prince and warrior.

Start cleaning up your life by focusing on Christ more. I'll leave you with a poem:

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.



As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.


Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.



If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.



Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.


But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection.



Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.



Take kindly to the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.



Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.



You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.



Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.



With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.


Max Ehrmann c.1920



Bless you in Jesus Christ.

 

[kalibrate]

if you're looking for someone to talk to or relate to, shoot me an email <staff edit>. I operate a network of men who are all dealing with sexual struggles and are there to understand each other and help each other grow in Christ. I think you could benefit from that as well.

 

[wongqihu]

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[Dragons87]

Hey,

First of all know that you are not alone. You will find many people, including myself, trying to balance their sexuality and their faith. I won't say successfully or unsuccessfully; we are all just trying to struggle on.

From personal experience - and from the experience of other gays I know - "praying away" the gay doesn't work. We are sure that God can do all things, and nothing he does harms us, so if he isn't "taking the gay away", perhaps we should explore why God allows us to be gay.

I am often reminded of Paul's testimony:

"I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, 'My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.' So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That&#8217;s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong." 2 Cor 12:7-10

Consider your sexuality your thorn. Embrace it, for it is exactly the route that God uses to remind you of his strength.

Personally I find it a blessing to be gay and Christian. Who else would have had their identities so challenged to the core? Who else would be so confused by so many churches' teaching as to rely on God's promises alone? Suffering builds perseverance.

And who else would understand the plight of countless homosexuals who believe many churches' teaching that God has abandoned them? We must act as living proof that that is not the case, that Christ is here for gay people as much as he is for straight. We must also act as the beacon of conscience in the church, to remind our fellow brothers and sisters that homophobia in the name of Christ is not on.

The road to remain pure for God isn't easy at all, but if you change your mindset to see it as an opportunity rather than a millstone around your neck, perhaps you will see the will of God in all this.

Remember that out of everything in creation that God thought was good, he didn't think it was good for a person to be alone. Celibacy is often mentioned by well-meaning people as an option, but I personally think that celibacy is a special gift for certain individuals, not for a whole class of people. That may be you, who knows? But if God does give you an opportunity to spend this short life on earth with someone you can love and honour in a Christlike manner, don't turn his blessing away.

 

[Summer blue]

You're certainly not alone. I often feel like I am at war with myself. I just want these feelings to go away, and I feel like if I focus on my relationship with God and read the Bible more often then these feelings will disappear. Some days are just more of a struggle than others.

 

[FtcdatSAPoD]

First of all, no one experiences heterosexual temptation or knowledge thereof until they are in their teens. It's strange you had sexual knowledge at such a young age.

The following are things you need to do:

1) understand or take a course on the historical accuracy of the Bible - this will strengthen your faith and give you an understanding of what to expect from the Bible and how to use it in your fight

2) pray and fast even once a week

3) reject government assitance and be totally independent

4) understand your historical/cultural heritage - this will strengthen you in your character and identity

5) understand what is a natural desire and what is unnatural. Friendship is natural, being artistic is natural, hugging another guy is natural - having sex with the same gender is unnatural.

6) memorize the Bible

7) understand God as a Father

 

[FtcdatSAPoD]

Hang in there. The truth will set you free.