home maker

[Shreck]

Should men go out to work and girls stay at home and look after the home and kids.

I have had time off work and spent lots of time at home with my wife and kids and i have found out just how hard it is to manage a home and children, my wife has part time job as well,

My veiw has changed i think i should go to work and work harder so she can bring up the children and make the home.

She cant do both, its hardwork.

 

[tocis]

Should men go out to work and girls stay at home and look after the home and kids.

If both man and woman agree on that, yes. If they don't, no.

 

[NothingButTheBlood]

Depends on the family. Maybe both parties like working. Maybe your wife does. Instead of making it an either or why not just help around the house more when you get home? I think it's great men are opting to stay home and raise the kids now. At one point I earned enough for my husband to stay home and be a home maker. We loved the arraingment. We have also talked about what to do when the kids come along. Since I still make more than my husband if one of us quits it would be him. That's ok by me.

 

[bent rider]

I was a stay at home mommie for 9 years. I'm glad that I got to do that...Now I work and enjoy that as well. If for some reason my husband didn't work and I made enough for him to stay at home that would be cool with both of us as well.

 

[McCracAttack]

I personally would love to be a stay at home Dad. I think it would all depend on who would have the better job between me and my spouse if it ever came up

 

[rachelness]

People should do whatever works for them.

 

[Toboe]

I think it would be best if at least one parrent stayed at home. either mom or dad.

 

[rachelness]

I think it would be best if at least one parrent stayed at home. either mom or dad.

Why?

 

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Should men go out to work and girls stay at home and look after the home and kids....

She cant do both, its hardwork

I do both. I did both when my husband was still living, as well. It's more difficult now because I don't have that emotional support and the prayer partner that I used to have. Women can do both, but children do require a great amount of attention. I do about 2/3 of my work away from home, half of the month, and the other half of the month it's about 50/50. I have a home office here, and access to my files, stats, office, etc., from home as well. It cost a pretty penny to get that all set up, but I felt that it was something I had to do, to ensure that my child got enough "mommy time". It's difficult for a child to lose a parent, and I didn't want him to feel that he was losing us both.

Anyway, I'm also in full support of men staying home to take care of the children while the woman works, if that's what they both agree on. I don't think anybody should just take the lazy attitude, and simply demand to stay home if finances cannot be managed on one salary. There are always jobs that could bring in a second income, which wouldn't require a great deal of time away from home too. There are many options, if one is willing to search them out and compromise. Marriage should involve compromise.

I have a friend who wanted to be an at home mommy, so she opened a daycare in her home. She's perfect for it. She has a degree in early childhood education, which also came in handy, so she turned her childcare into a home pre-school as well. She earns more then her husband does at his job away from home. Both of them are very happy with the way it worked out.

 

[Toboe]

Why?

So at least one parrent can take care of and raise more the kids I guess. Its just my personal opinion I guess.

 

[gwenmead]

I'd like to gently point out that anyone who stays at home taking care of the house and kids is working, they're just not getting paid.

Hiya Shreck, sounds like you've learned what life is like for the countless women around the world who work both in and out of the home... it's exhausting.

As to your "should" question, I think the two of you should do whatever you both agree will be best for your family. That might mean you both work part-time outside the home and take care of kids and home equally. It might mean you work full-time and she stays home, or vice versa. I've seen a number of combos work. It just depends.

 

[Boomygrrl]

Should men go out to work and girls stay at home and look after the home and kids.

If she is a girl (rather than a woman), she needs to be in school.
It bugs me when men are called men but women are called girls. ack!
Anyways, I think it all depends on the needs of the family, the personality of each of the parents, what you can afford to do, and what is in the best interest of the kids. Daycare can be beneficial to kids, teach them social skills. Staying at home with mom (or dad) can also be beneficial. If your wife is exhausted, talk to her about it. I'm sure she has an opinion about all of this.


Boomygrrl

 

[Shreck]

Thank you for the advice, and sorry if using the word girl bugs you. How do you say Boomygrrl, I read it as boomy-girl.... if correct, you should be at school or are you a boom-woman? Just asking.

TTFN
SherCk

 

[Boomygrrl]

Thank you for the advice, and sorry if using the word girl bugs you. How do you say Boomygrrl, I read it as boomy-girl.... if correct, you should be at school or are you a boom-woman? Just asking.

TTFN
SherCk

Touche.
Men can use the term "hanging out with the boys."
It's fine for a casual, personal term to say "girls." Such as "girls' night out."
What I didn't like was the inconsistency in your post...men, girl...that is pedophilia. I knew that's not what you meant, so I just made one little snide remark and then seriously answered your post.

I am all Woman...but the name Boomygrrl is actually a nickname for my dog, so seeing that I adore my pooch, I thought I would take on her nickname for my forum "name."

But, back to your concern, I think the main thing is that you and your wife address this together. Her sanity, the financial situation, all need to be considered. Good luck in whatever you two decide.

Boomygrrl

 

[glo]

I think the role of homemaker should not be given priority to the woman of the family.
Consider just as well the man taking that role because women are not naturally better at homemaking than the man. It should not be the last resort for the man to become the homemaker.

 

[Shreck]

If that is your dog in the top right corner i can see why you adore your dog, very cute, we have a Jack Russel.

Touche.
Men can use the term "hanging out with the boys."
It's fine for a casual, personal term to say "girls." Such as "girls' night out."
What I didn't like was the inconsistency in your post...men, girl...that is pedophilia. I knew that's not what you meant, so I just made one little snide remark and then seriously answered your post.

I am all Woman...but the name Boomygrrl is actually a nickname for my dog, so seeing that I adore my pooch, I thought I would take on her nickname for my forum "name."

But, back to your concern, I think the main thing is that you and your wife address this together. Her sanity, the financial situation, all need to be considered. Good luck in whatever you two decide.

Boomygrrl

 

[rachelness]

I think the role of homemaker should not be given priority to the woman of the family.
Consider just as well the man taking that role because women are not naturally better at homemaking than the man. It should not be the last resort for the man to become the homemaker.

Come again?

 

[skinner]

So at least one parrent can take care of and raise more the kids I guess. Its just my personal opinion I guess.

Although this isn't always possible, I think you're right, that it's the best scenerio. The old crock about quality time and quantity time is just that-a crock. Kids just need time and attention-they don't care what label we put on it.

 

[charityagape]

Although this isn't always possible, I think you're right, that it's the best scenerio. The old crock about quality time and quantity time is just that-a crock. Kids just need time and attention-they don't care what label we put on it.

Completely agree. Sometimes there isn't a choice and daycare is the only option. But a child, especially a young one, needs a parent around 24/7 not just between 6pm and 9pm.

 

[glo]

I think the role of homemaker should not be given priority to the woman of the family.
Consider just as well the man taking that role because women are not naturally better at homemaking than the man. It should not be the last resort for the man to become the homemaker.

Come again?

I meant, that when deciding the careers of your spouse and yourself, you should not be favouring the female to take the job of homemaker- if you plan on having a homemaker in the family.
There should not be some sort of preference for the woman to be the homemaker, just because she's a woman. Consider the possibility of the male being the homemaker. Look at his and her circumstances thoroughly with no bias to the woman being the homemaker.