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I know I shouldn't rush through life but certain things are starting to bug me. I always see my friends with their boyfriends and I will left out. My friends are always talking about their boy friends. People my age already know how to drive and I don't. People my age are working. I work but at church. I feel like I am growing slowly. I know it is not a race but I still feel discouraged. :scratch: Any got any advice for me? Thank you, I would greatly appreciate it.

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Hi hon,

I definately know where you're coming from, and feel for you. I'm 23 and single, while a LOT of my friends are either engaged or married, and are pregnant or have children. A lot of my friends have already got their degrees as well, while I am only about half through mine. All I can really suggest to you is to look up Jeremiah 29:11 and Phil. 4:12-13. I'm praying that the words in those verses encourage you.
God Bless
Jen
 
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Mo Mo!!!..:hug: I just thought I'd pop in and say 'hi'.....


How is school going for you, sweetie?

Also, I thought I'd include a response to your question:


There are times in my life when I feel the very same way that you are feeling right now, m'ita. As it stands, I have seen friends of mine get into serious relationships with other people, I've seen some walk down the aisle..some have had children...some have graduated from college, are going on to get their Master's & already have decent-paying jobs. Sometimes, that's tough to witness...and not because you cannot feel happiness for them in their situations per se, but rather, I think it has more to do with the idea that you cannot really identify with them in those particular instances...sometimes, differences can distance two people. True, sometimes in life, friendships have to break apart b/c priorities have changed (there are many different types of friendships we experience in our lives)...or people have moved & so on and so forth. It requires alot more effort to sustain these friendships, where the friends involved might have abit less to relate to~does this make any sense lol??

All I know is that I am 26, single & have never had any serious boyfriend thus far~I am also a sophomore in college & cannot afford to pay rent right now, outside of living with a few people. The financial situation is my fault ~I own up to that...it is simply because of poor planning on my part. The schooling thing doesn't phase me a whole lot b/c I highly doubt that I was ready to even make that kind of commitment back when I was 19. I did not even consider my college until ~2 yrs ago, when I worked with this one girl who had enrolled there. Peices fell into place & I fell in love with the school..it all worked out from there. The serious relationship issue has pretty much the same rationale to it~LOL...I was definately not interested in committing to the guys I'd met at school (and they were definately not interested in committing to me....or both..lol wait, what!??). I got bored really easily & could never seem to find anyone that held my attention for longer than a semester. That, and I hate the idea of wasting time on something like a relationship that will never bear any fruit. I found certain qualities I was looking for in a guy...but in different guys. Today, I have seen what I want in a man...but again, the complete package deal has yet to be determined. I have no idea if I have even met this man, yet. That's okay, though. I am no prize right now, anyway. God knows how much I need for Him to work within me, in order that I may be the woman of Christ I ought to be for God, first.......second, for those around me....(my husband would be somewhere in the mix..LOL..considering I have one to look forward to). Somedays, I'm like 'the heCk am I doing wrong?' But, then, I remember that God is seeing to it that I am single right now...there is a huge reason He wants me to remain single & "by myself" and I have to be grateful to Him for knowing more than I do about myself, my current situation.....and my future.
The way I see it, honey...at least, in your case, is that you have soo much going for you right now (with school & your own personal walk in Christ, the work that you do for God~first and foremost)...God is shaping your right now. He's shaping you out to be the woman you should be when you & your future husband meet. Either that, or your future man is not yet ready for you ~LOL you know how some guys are...;) God is preparing you for the work He has prepared for you to do, perhaps through the things you are already doing. Driving is a luxury...a necessity in some cases but a luxury for alot of people. My ma first got her license less than ten years ago ~and she's 61!!...:eek: Just be patient, sweetie & remember that God does not use the same timetable the we do. He knows you..has formed you & will see to it that He continues working through you. Just be faithful to Him, offer up your petitions to Him & do not be discouraged. God knows what we need & what we don't. But, in any case, please don't stress...you are MUCH younger than I am & you have no reason to think that you ought to be in a serious relationship, have a car or have some gravy-train job right now. If you are following God & are listening to His Words, you are exactly where you need to be. Do not be discouraged, m'ita...:hug:
 
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sweetmercy said:
Hi hon,

I definately know where you're coming from, and feel for you. I'm 23 and single, while a LOT of my friends are either engaged or married, and are pregnant or have children. A lot of my friends have already got their degrees as well, while I am only about half through mine. All I can really suggest to you is to look up Jeremiah 29:11 and Phil. 4:12-13. I'm praying that the words in those verses encourage you.
God Bless
Jen

Thank you for the bible scriptures. :hug: I will be sure to read those. I greatly appreciate you helping me during this time I am facing. I also want to thank you for your prayers.
 
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Chihiro99 said:
Don't be in such a rush. You have your whole life to do thing. You only get to be young for a short time, so, you should enjoy your youth while you have it.

I know that is the problem. :eek: I sometimes forget how old I am. :doh: I always say, "I haven't done much in my life yet." I think Satan is trying to discourage. You are right, I am only ninteen years old. I have done things in my life. They may not be GREAT things but they still made a difference. I came to know Christ, I am going to college, and this is just the beginning of what God has planned for my life. I have to keep reminding myself that I can't compare myself with other people. God equipped us with different goals, visions, gifts, and talents. :) Thank you and I hope I do live long. I want to live long so I can reach lost souls to Christ. When I was younger, I always said, "I don't care if I die, I know I will be going to Heaven." One day, I stopped and really thought about that. I said to myself 'I don't want to die yet because I know I haven't served my purpose yet.' Have a great week. God bless you. :hug:
 
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white dove said:
Mo Mo!!!..:hug: I just thought I'd pop in and say 'hi'.....


How is school going for you, sweetie?

Also, I thought I'd include a response to your question:


There are times in my life when I feel the very same way that you are feeling right now, m'ita. As it stands, I have seen friends of mine get into serious relationships with other people, I've seen some walk down the aisle..some have had children...some have graduated from college, are going on to get their Master's & already have decent-paying jobs. Sometimes, that's tough to witness...and not because you cannot feel happiness for them in their situations per se, but rather, I think it has more to do with the idea that you cannot really identify with them in those particular instances...sometimes, differences can distance two people. True, sometimes in life, friendships have to break apart b/c priorities have changed (there are many different types of friendships we experience in our lives)...or people have moved & so on and so forth. It requires alot more effort to sustain these friendships, where the friends involved might have abit less to relate to~does this make any sense lol??

All I know is that I am 26, single & have never had any serious boyfriend thus far~I am also a sophomore in college & cannot afford to pay rent right now, outside of living with a few people. The financial situation is my fault ~I own up to that...it is simply because of poor planning on my part. The schooling thing doesn't phase me a whole lot b/c I highly doubt that I was ready to even make that kind of commitment back when I was 19. I did not even consider my college until ~2 yrs ago, when I worked with this one girl who had enrolled there. Peices fell into place & I fell in love with the school..it all worked out from there. The serious relationship issue has pretty much the same rationale to it~LOL...I was definately not interested in committing to the guys I'd met at school (and they were definately not interested in committing to me....or both..lol wait, what!??). I got bored really easily & could never seem to find anyone that held my attention for longer than a semester. That, and I hate the idea of wasting time on something like a relationship that will never bear any fruit. I found certain qualities I was looking for in a guy...but in different guys. Today, I have seen what I want in a man...but again, the complete package deal has yet to be determined. I have no idea if I have even met this man, yet. That's okay, though. I am no prize right now, anyway. God knows how much I need for Him to work within me, in order that I may be the woman of Christ I ought to be for God, first.......second, for those around me....(my husband would be somewhere in the mix..LOL..considering I have one to look forward to). Somedays, I'm like 'the heCk am I doing wrong?' But, then, I remember that God is seeing to it that I am single right now...there is a huge reason He wants me to remain single & "by myself" and I have to be grateful to Him for knowing more than I do about myself, my current situation.....and my future.
The way I see it, honey...at least, in your case, is that you have soo much going for you right now (with school & your own personal walk in Christ, the work that you do for God~first and foremost)...God is shaping your right now. He's shaping you out to be the woman you should be when you & your future husband meet. Either that, or your future man is not yet ready for you ~LOL you know how some guys are...;) God is preparing you for the work He has prepared for you to do, perhaps through the things you are already doing. Driving is a luxury...a necessity in some cases but a luxury for alot of people. My ma first got her license less than ten years ago ~and she's 61!!...:eek: Just be patient, sweetie & remember that God does not use the same timetable the we do. He knows you..has formed you & will see to it that He continues working through you. Just be faithful to Him, offer up your petitions to Him & do not be discouraged. God knows what we need & what we don't. But, in any case, please don't stress...you are MUCH younger than I am & you have no reason to think that you ought to be in a serious relationship, have a car or have some gravy-train job right now. If you are following God & are listening to His Words, you are exactly where you need to be. Do not be discouraged, m'ita...:hug:

Thank you for the advice sister. :hug: You really encouraged me and I know that you spoke with the kindness of your heart and soul. School is getting better for me now. :clap: I am getting good grades this semester. I do most of my homework. I am always doing my math homework at the tutoring center at school. The semester is going to be over in two weeks. After school is over, I am going to visit my aunt in New Mexico. In July, I start summer school. I will be taking p.e. and english. I am working right now at church. I also work as a computer tutor (even though it is only one day out of the week.) I went dirt bike riding yesterday. It was a lot of fun. ^_^

Thank you for all the information you gave me to response to my question. I value your wisdom and friendship.:thumbsup: You are right. Sometimes I feel that my own family members are distant from me. People change and people grow apart. It kind of hurts me though. I remember the good times I spent with people growing up and now, they act like we aren't even related. I try to talk to some of my family members but we just don't click. It feels kind of akward or tensed. I am so glad that life is not about how many people you please or knew but about your personal relationship with Jesus Christ. My teacher in bible studies always tells me "LET IT GO!!!" I try to live everyday by faith. I always try to keep my eyes on God and not on the world. I seek him but sometimes I loss track. We travel life's path with God by our sides. God tells me to continue moving forward and keep looking ahead. Sometimes it is easy to look back and it slows down your walk. Thank you for always being here for me when I need a friend by my side. :hug: You are a true blessing to me and to the Father.
 
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I know I shouldn't rush through life but certain things are starting to bug me. I always see my friends with their boyfriends and I will left out. My friends are always talking about their boy friends. People my age already know how to drive and I don't. People my age are working. I work but at church. I feel like I am growing slowly. I know it is not a race but I still feel discouraged. :scratch: Any got any advice for me? Thank you, I would greatly appreciate it.

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And some people die before even making to their teens. Stop looking at what other people have and what you don't have. Simple. Driving and boyfriends are not everything.
 
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antiarte said:
And some people die before even making to their teens. Stop looking at what other people have and what you don't have. Simple. Driving and boyfriends are not everything.

true but some people make fun of me. :sorry: I want to know how to drive because I like to be independent. It gets tiring to beg people to take me somewhere or waiting on people to take me. Sometimes I just want to get out of the house and go somewhere. I want a boyfriend because I need a friend. A boyfriend or husband is the closest friend a girl can have. :p Plus it is not as simple as it may seem. I am not merely comparing myself with others but rather I desire to have these things. :confused:
 
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I want a boyfriend because I need a friend. A boyfriend or husband is the closest friend a girl can have. :p

Close! Jesus should be your closest friend :p with Jesus, you dont need anything else, cuz He is everything.

 
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