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Good morning and God bless you all for the pain and suffering you've gone through.
My story is a little bit different. Yes, I'm a crime survivor, in July of this year, I was hit by a drunk driver when he crossed the center line and hit me head on. I praise GOD that I'm alive. My whole life was changed in less than one second. I was stuck in my shattered car for 45 minutes, and the firefighters had to use the jaws of life to take the top off to free me from the wreckage. I was then air lifted to the hospital where I had 3 emergancy surgeries. My left hip was shattered, my femur was fractured, 2 fractures in my knee, 2 tib/fib fractures in my lower leg, and foot was fractured in 3 places, all on the left side. I now have more hardware in my left hip and leg than most supercomputers, including a titanium bar that goes down the middle of my tibia, 2 screws that hold it in place and 3 titanium plates in my hip holding it all together.
Now, 4 months later, I am in constant pain. I have learned to walk, but not without a cane. I still have another surgery to go to take out the rod in my lower leg, but thats going to be in about 6 months. I will always walk with a limp and will develope arthritis in my hip after about 4-5 years. I have a road map of scars all over my leg and hip from surgeries, and will most likely have to have a full hip replacement in 10-15 years.
My son was in the car with me, but thankfully, the hand of God was on him, and he escaped with just some bruising from the seatbelt. What a true miracle, because the car was unrecognizible and looked like a big tangle of green and black metal with a couple of tires sticking out.
I know that God has a reason for allowing this to happen to me, and He'll somehow be able to use this for His glory. My problem is forgiveness. The kid that did this to me is 21, and his BAL was .16%. I have $150,000 in hospital bills, and I'll never be the same again. I'm now going through an attorney to sue for my losses, and just praying for my hospital bills and attorney fees to at least be covered! (He had insurance, but it's not enough.) Part of me feels guitly for suing, is that the Christian thing to do? Meanwhile, he's out and about and fine, (he's not been charged for the DUI yet, but it's coming), and he acts like he blames me for not being able to go back to college and for his upcoming legal battles, like this was my fault or something! I've prayed for him and have tried so hard to forgive him, and I know in time, maybe I will be able to, but right now, I'm SO angry!!! My kids and I are suffering financial hardships, I lost my apartment and had to move in with family because I couldn't even take care of myself, and well we've pretty much lost everything. Part of me HATES this kid for being so irresponsible, for taking away the life I had imagined I'd live. There's so much now that I'll never be able to do again, dance, waterski, snowski, I can't even play catch with my kids anymore. I know God has a reason for all of it, but first I know I have to find it in myself to forgive, but right now, I don't think that I can. Am I horrible for this?
My story is a little bit different. Yes, I'm a crime survivor, in July of this year, I was hit by a drunk driver when he crossed the center line and hit me head on. I praise GOD that I'm alive. My whole life was changed in less than one second. I was stuck in my shattered car for 45 minutes, and the firefighters had to use the jaws of life to take the top off to free me from the wreckage. I was then air lifted to the hospital where I had 3 emergancy surgeries. My left hip was shattered, my femur was fractured, 2 fractures in my knee, 2 tib/fib fractures in my lower leg, and foot was fractured in 3 places, all on the left side. I now have more hardware in my left hip and leg than most supercomputers, including a titanium bar that goes down the middle of my tibia, 2 screws that hold it in place and 3 titanium plates in my hip holding it all together.
Now, 4 months later, I am in constant pain. I have learned to walk, but not without a cane. I still have another surgery to go to take out the rod in my lower leg, but thats going to be in about 6 months. I will always walk with a limp and will develope arthritis in my hip after about 4-5 years. I have a road map of scars all over my leg and hip from surgeries, and will most likely have to have a full hip replacement in 10-15 years.
My son was in the car with me, but thankfully, the hand of God was on him, and he escaped with just some bruising from the seatbelt. What a true miracle, because the car was unrecognizible and looked like a big tangle of green and black metal with a couple of tires sticking out.
I know that God has a reason for allowing this to happen to me, and He'll somehow be able to use this for His glory. My problem is forgiveness. The kid that did this to me is 21, and his BAL was .16%. I have $150,000 in hospital bills, and I'll never be the same again. I'm now going through an attorney to sue for my losses, and just praying for my hospital bills and attorney fees to at least be covered! (He had insurance, but it's not enough.) Part of me feels guitly for suing, is that the Christian thing to do? Meanwhile, he's out and about and fine, (he's not been charged for the DUI yet, but it's coming), and he acts like he blames me for not being able to go back to college and for his upcoming legal battles, like this was my fault or something! I've prayed for him and have tried so hard to forgive him, and I know in time, maybe I will be able to, but right now, I'm SO angry!!! My kids and I are suffering financial hardships, I lost my apartment and had to move in with family because I couldn't even take care of myself, and well we've pretty much lost everything. Part of me HATES this kid for being so irresponsible, for taking away the life I had imagined I'd live. There's so much now that I'll never be able to do again, dance, waterski, snowski, I can't even play catch with my kids anymore. I know God has a reason for all of it, but first I know I have to find it in myself to forgive, but right now, I don't think that I can. Am I horrible for this?
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You got a lot ahead of you.
I had massive soft tissue damage and a serious concussion and I was told that people that receive the kind of impact I did have two scenarios... they are either dead or paralyzed! I praised God for my life in spite of the pain I was in. It took me a couple of days but I was able to walk a few steps with a walker in spite of feeling very dizzy and nauseaous. I had physical therapy was able to graduate to a cane and then was able to let go of that .... and now almost two years later I only use the cane when I am in extra bad pain, etc. 
