High School Singles

[roseglass6370]

For everyone who's single and in highschool. What are your feelings about dating? My two best friends have opposing views:

FRIEND ONE: Dating in highschool is okay, but the intent should also be for a long-term and meaningful relationship. Dating at any point in life is a serious matter.

FRIEND TWO: Have fun! Get out there and just learn from this time and gain experience. It's not a big deal, it's probably not for life or anything anyway. Just learn about each other and have fun! Physical stuff is okay even if you know you won't be together for a long time.

What do you guys think about being single in highschool and dating in highschool? How should it be handled?

 

[Sketcher]

I've been out of high school for a long time, but I have seen people like Friend 1 hurt people anyway due to spiritual confusion, and people like Friend 2 hurt themselves and others deeply by taking their approach to an extreme.

I would say that in high school, concentrate on friendships with the opposite sex. Do go out and have fun, even at the dances, but keep it at the friend level so there won't be too much physical stuff (if any). At this point in your development, I would encourage you to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) and keep your head in gear. Read books on Christian dating, from multiple points of view. On one end of the spectrum, you have books by Joshua Harris. On the other side, you have books by Dr. Henry Cloud. Read them and get a balanced view. Don't treat dating like a sin - it isn't. Do find out what it means to be honest, not manipulate, and have integrity amidst all the hormonal craziness in getting to know the opposite sex.

 

[findinghope06]

i have to agree with twistedsketch b/c i went through 4 years of high school worried about boyfriends and going through a very rough time. i wish i would have know God at that point and concentrated on friendships instead. in high school, you are still learning about yourself and in my opinion you shouldnt date anyone until you really know who you are and what you are looking for.

focus on your friendships right now and see what happens in the future. high school is only the beginning of what God has in store for you

 

[roseglass6370]

thanks for the various outlooks guys right now I'm mainly focusing on friendships with everyone as well, however some of my guy "friends" have other ideas that sometimes tend to get in the way :/ no matter how unresponsive I choose to be.

 

[JPPT1974]

thanks for the various outlooks guys right now I'm mainly focusing on friendships with everyone as well, however some of my guy "friends" have other ideas that sometimes tend to get in the way :/ no matter how unresponsive I choose to be.

Friendships are more important because that is what you need first and foremost!

 

[adora]

I worried too much about dating in HS and it didn't help at all.

If you meet someone good for you, that's all well and good. But you shouldn't concern yourself over it. There will be plenty of time to find a great guy later

 

[roseglass6370]

that's how i see it

 

[Kusanagi]

I would have to agree with friend #1. I myself only had two GFs in High School and only lasted a short while (One was up to 7 months and the other was just up to 2 weeks). After being made fun of badly in middle school, I was very much a loner and rarely went on a few dates because of fear of rejection.

 

[winglovesall]

In my school (all boys' school by the way) -- most of them are Friend#2

I think friendship is more important than having fun with friendship!

I think it's inappropriate -- they pick out the hottest chicks and lists them and go for one by one and I think, it's ridiculous -- I mean, they get drunk (even - underaged) and it's just not right!

 

[roseglass6370]

yeah...i also lean toward friend number #1's views...

it's just hard being in the "minority" on these things but I don't plan on changing my views to match others

 

[JPPT1974]

In my school (all boys' school by the way) -- most of them are Friend#2

I think friendship is more important than having fun with friendship!

I think it's inappropriate -- they pick out the hottest chicks and lists them and go for one by one and I think, it's ridiculous -- I mean, they get drunk (even - underaged) and it's just not right!

It is inappropriate to pick out the hottest guys or girls and list them one by one when friendship should be the first and foremost important thing in life. It isn't right when you can only be friends!

 

[winglovesall]

Yeah, I agree! I will never do it -- that's just not being Christian -- that's just not being myself!

 

[JPPT1974]

Ain't that the truth my friend!