Hi..:O

[RaeDev]

My names Rachel and Im 19 years old. Tonight I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. The only other person besides you guys who knows is my mom. Im nervous because I had a boyfriend of 2 years but were no longer seeing eachother. Should I tell him? Should I tell the rest of my family? My last period was sept 27th and Im 10 days late. I dont really know how to prepare for this but the good news is my best friend is also preggo but shes showing by 6 mos. so thats great! woo hoo. please pray for me and some advice too since nobody will know until I start to show

 

[Jillymac]

Hi Rachel, welcome into the preg room.
I would never think to tell you what to do, you should do things as you feel ready for them. You've confided in your mum, you're still early on, do you feel you need to tell the rest of your family straight away?

WIth regards to your ex, and this is only my opinion, it is his child, therefore I would think it would be appropriate for him to know. The thing is I wouldn't know how he would receive such news or if you would ever want him to be involved (as i'm not aware of why you are no longer together) so therefore you may want to get your own head completely round it first, as i'm sure you must be a bit apprehensive/nervous/shocked/worried and happy(?) all at the same time, which is very overwhelming. Once you know how you feel, i would think you could make a decisions on sharing the news with others as and when you feel appropriate.

It's good that your friend is also preg, would it help to confide in her? Would she be supportive? The only reason i'm asking is that sometimes people can feel like you're stealing their thunder and therefore you may have to be a bit more sensitive when approaching the subject with her. You know her best though so again it's hard for us as onlookers to advise.

The main thing to concern yourself with right now is how YOU feel, deciding what YOU would like to happen for the best for you and baby, and only moving forward when YOU are ready. Get confident as you can be in yourself with your new situation.

And pray about it all.

Congratulations!

 

[TamberlyAna]

Hi!
Wow. I am also 19 years old, but my situation is a lil different since I am still with my boyfriend, who is also the father of my baby. I think what you should probably do first is go to the doctor and find out for sure. Once you do that, you should defenitely tell your exboyfriend because it is his right to know. Of course, this is just my opinion. All I can say is pray about it and ask God to lead you in the right direction.

AND GOOD LUCK!!! It's a wonderful journey..at least it has been so far for me. If you need anything at all, please just ask. It's great to have someone else on here that is my age and pregnant. I was beginning to feel lonely

 

[Gods4me]

i would tell your ex. but i would not get back together just because your having a baby. if your ex want to be involed then that great you can figue out a way where he can see the child (if he is fit to see the child some fathers arent)

my ex said the whole time i was pregnant that he would be there for me hed be there when ever i needed him he said hed help with money and would be there... well my son is 3 years old and he has not seen his son in over a year and a half. and it doesnot bother me at all. my husband has taken over the daady place in my sons life cause his real dad would rather be out drinking...

basically what im saying is leave it up to the father but dont depend on him to much. as long as your family support you you dont need a boy friend.

your only a little bit younger than me. yes im married now but i was alone when i had my first and i know what your going through.

praying for you.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I think you should definatly tell the father it's completely unfair to not let him know that he has a child. He may not want to be involved, but he should be the one to make that choice. As for other family..I'd wait til after I went to the doctor. I told my family before I went to the doctor but that's because some nosey girl on the bus was listening to me tell my best friend about it..she then proceeded to tell anyone who would listen. So if you do tell anyone, make sure you're in a private place.

 

[beehoney]

Congratulations! I also think you should tell the father and allow him to choose whether to be involved in the life of this child. You will have to judge who else to tell based on the type of relationship you have with your other family members. I will pray for you. My only advice is to go to the doctor as soon as possible. There is a lot of advice and information that they will give you to help you figure out how to prepare for the baby. In the meantime, get plenty of rest, eat foods rich in folic acid and stay away from liver, soft cheeses and cheeses with a blue vein, undercooked meat and eggs, big fish such as shark and marlin and swordfich, sushi, and don't eat anything with raw eggs as an ingredient.