Hi. My Name is......

[justanobserver]

How did I miss that? A year is a big accomplishment, may you continue your success in your sobriety!

((((( BIG TOE!!!!! )))))) HEY YOU!

 

[justanobserver]

*huggles on Norm* Thanks buddy.

((((((( GARNET!!! ))))) its good to see you around these here parts!

 

[BigToe]

*snuggles* Norm. How are you doing?

 

[justanobserver]

Been a while since I posted in my own thread so......

Howdies! How y'alls doin?

Remember, its only one day at a time.

 

[meblonde]

I'm new here and just learning all about this forum.. This is my 4th day sober..

 

[justanobserver]

I'm new here and just learning all about this forum.. This is my 4th day sober..

hey meblonde! welcome to Recovery!

Hi. my name is Norm

I am so sorry I missed this post! I alread posted in your other thread that your on day 6.

this is great. so, you in a support group? going to meetings? AA? Celebrate Recovery?

thees a thread in the sticky section of Recovery with a list of links to different sites for alcoholism.

Am so glad your here and again I want to say congratualtions on your being sober!

One day at a time!

 

[meblonde]

Thank You, Nice to meet Ya Norm. My name is Marty .7th day! and it's Friday! Normally I would look forward to a weekend of drinking.. But today I look forward to a weekend without drinking and a nice relaxing SLEEP!

 

[justanobserver]

I just got home from the dentist and am only here for another minute or so then I need to lay down.

had a tooth yanked that was infected - surronfing bone as well and it wasnt pretty and the novocaine didnt numb everything.....

but a regular tooth pull at 65 bucks or put to sleep and tooth pull at 500 bucks...I toughed it out and had it pulled th rgular way.

and now the novacaine is wearing off

Marty - you going on day 7 is such good news! I am going to go lay down with a smile and say Thank You Jesus for sucg good news! .

and it is my pleasure to meet you!

 

[meblonde]

I just got home from the dentist and am only here for another minute or so then I need to lay down.

had a tooth yanked that was infected - surronfing bone as well and it wasnt pretty and the novocaine didnt numb everything.....

but a regular tooth pull at 65 bucks or put to sleep and tooth pull at 500 bucks...I toughed it out and had it pulled th rgular way.

and now the novacaine is wearing off

Marty - you going on day 7 is such good news! I am going to go lay down with a smile and say Thank You Jesus for sucg good news! .

and it is my pleasure to meet you!

Ouch!! thank you! and feel better!

 

[meblonde]

I was going thru some "folders" in my computer hardrive and found this copy of an email I wrote and sent to a friend back in '01. I had slipped again back into drinking after my release from active duty in '00 and was asked my opinion at that time about me being an alcoholic.

What all is written may not be right to anyone else's standards or personal views on alcoholism but at the time, it was the only way I could express it so the person I sent it to could kinda sorta maybe perhaps understand somewhat remotely what I was talking about.

The title on the email was "Musings"

The insanity that all alcoholics deal with affects each one different although the difference is similar to the whole. I do not seek pity (hate it) but a nod perhaps of an understanding that the mechanics of my behavior is sane in its own insanity. All the trappings that one would suggest be a mark of some success are long gone (twice): the loss of friends, the embarrassment to myself and my military command to be ordered to reside in a alcohol rehabilitation center, to have to stay away (my choice) from my younger 2 sons until I was clean and sober. My career and retirement are gone too ( 2 yrs short from retirement) - once being entrusted as a Sergeant in the Army for the care and lives of those under me. Now I cant manage my own life. The loss of the 3rd marriage, my younger children strangers as my older ones are already estranged to me. I would love to be able to point at past things and say this is what caused me to drink or that drove me to it but all it would do ultimately is to give me false confidence that I had the power to control something that for me was and still is uncontrollable.

My world now revolves around a 10 by 12 room in a house in a town where I have no desire to be. I am not in jail although it is may not jail in a physical sense but perhaps it is in an mental way. Sometimes I think perhaps this is His punishment and maybe someday when all penance has been exacted, He will smile once again and life can be good. The insanity of alcoholism opens ones thoughts to a sort of clarity as well as clouds the reality time to time in some things. It is a retreat for those who have no where else to go and it will play a tune we dance to that others would not know. It is a disease, as real as any other hereditary disease passed down through one's bloodline. It is passed to me and chances are of my 4 kids, at least one is a drunk waiting for his/her first drink. My oldest son has no use for me, and although I know that his troubles are not my fault, I still carry the blame that as a dad, I should/could have done something. A daughter that is on her own for the first time in her life, suffered through the indignities of a step dad force upon her by her mother's re-marriage. I carry a guilt and shame that I have missed the most precious time of her life and was not there when she needed a father - she is almost 19 and the last time I saw her was maybe 13??

So the inducement of failures and guilt to combine with the incurring depressions, one will resort to something that albeit temporary will remove the sharpness of the edge of the reality. As also in that as for me, the idea of closeness,be it a companion or a close friend is a desire that will bring a warmness but the reality of when one who gets in too close inside my imagined perimeter whether I allowed it or not, I recoil from the closeness and hide. I have no fear of any man - I been stabbed, had guns in my face and have shot back, even dealt with angry mother in laws but the thought that a good person being soiled by my presence cause me to escape and evade and run away. I have done enough bad to humans in this life, regardless of its being thru Uncle Sam or just thru my manipulations in my addictions. Perhaps I am being punished for my past sins. I am neither worthy nor good enough to be in the presence of something good - it is the logical order of things.

To some, this would sound crazy or maybe insane, well, I never said I had all my marbles in the same sack. But in its defense, the Big Book has a chapter devoted to the insanity of a drunk - insanity not as defined for institutionalism but from the norm of thinking. I don’t know if this rambling has made any sense, but this is the most I explained to anyone concerning myself. Perhaps there’s an absolution in confession, or maybe the admissions of one who has shook his fist at God and still wonders about the walk which one once had. But to sum this short story, yes, I am an alcoholic.
Norm


since this was written, I have stopped drinking, been sober since 5 Sep '05, have seen my daughter and have spent time with my older son as well as my younger ones. My time apart during those years was not due to court or legality in case some may think that, mostly I was too drunk when I was off duty to take the time to go visit or was deployed too far away to visit. Although I am also "dual addicted" - alcohol and drugs but alcohol was my main useage.

been clean for over 2 yrs now but the drinking was the hardest.

anyhoooos, sorry for the novel but felt like posting.

What a beauitful Novel.. you know what makes me the saddest, and I hope God will get it through it.. is time loss. Time in a fog.. Time of peace in life when your sobber. Time in age.. wishing I had done it years ago. Time lost at family functions "drunk" or somewhat. Time in general when drinking! Sad so Sad! Funny I even thought all of this when I drank, but kept right on drinking. More time lost.

 

[Dralan]

Hey everyone Im Darryl and Im an alcoholic. Im new to these forums; this is really a great place. Ive been sober now this time for 69 days, going back to meetings and rededicated my life to Christ.

 

[justanobserver]

Hey everyone Im Darryl and Im an alcoholic. Im new to these forums; this is really a great place. Ive been sober now this time for 69 days, going back to meetings and rededicated my life to Christ.

Hey Darryl! Welcome to Recovery Forums!!

69 days sober!! thats great! I commend you for that. Another new member, meblonde, is on day 8 I think. these posts are great to read!

Besides AA, are you also going to Celebrate Recovery?

There is a lot in this section of Foru.ms - you can spend all day just in this section of Foru.ms and still not read everything. In the Sticky area - you will lnks to Hotlines, AA resources, you gonna wanna read the Recovery Guidelines and just make your self at home.

You got any quesitons, just PM any of us Mods.

again, welcome to Recovery!

 

[Dralan]

Hey Darryl! Welcome to Recovery Forums!!

69 days sober!! thats great! I commend you for that. Another new member, meblonde, is on day 8 I think. these posts are great to read!

Besides AA, are you also going to Celebrate Recovery?

There is a lot in this section of Foru.ms - you can spend all day just in this section of Foru.ms and still not read everything. In the Sticky area - you will lnks to Hotlines, AA resources, you gonna wanna read the Recovery Guidelines and just make your self at home.

You got any quesitons, just PM any of us Mods.

again, welcome to Recovery!

Thank you for referring me to celebrate recovery; I had heard of it and I just looked it up and there is a meeting in my area. I had also heard of Alcoholics Victorious also a Christian based recovery program. I have just been going to AA but I would like to try a more Christian based program as well. Thank You again.

 

[justanobserver]

Thank you for referring me to celebrate recovery; I had heard of it and I just looked it up and there is a meeting in my area. I had also heard of Alcoholics Victorious also a Christian based recovery program. I have just been going to AA but I would like to try a more Christian based program as well. Thank You again.

Glad you checked out the link and found a meeting near you.

I came across Alcoholics Victorious website a while back when I was surfing for alternate AA type groups. Your mwentioning it reminded me to look it up and post the link in the sticky on Alcoholism resourses.

I been to Celebrate Recovery Meetings and they are great. This new church I started atending, the pastor wants to get a group going.

 

[Dralan]

Glad you checked out the link and found a meeting near you.

I came across Alcoholics Victorious website a while back when I was surfing for alternate AA type groups. Your mwentioning it reminded me to look it up and post the link in the sticky on Alcoholism resourses.

I been to Celebrate Recovery Meetings and they are great. This new church I started atending, the pastor wants to get a group going.

I didnt know either that Celebrate recovery was started by Rick Warren of 'Purpose Driven Life' fame. I also saw there is a new Celebrate Recovery study Bible that looks really good.

 

[meblonde]

I didnt know either that Celebrate recovery was started by Rick Warren of 'Purpose Driven Life' fame. I also saw there is a new Celebrate Recovery study Bible that looks really good.

Welcome !!! You will like it here.. Lots of great people,, Congrads on the 69 days that is great!! I am on day 8 going for 9.. Even poured my Husband a drink last night and did not want one.. It smelled.. You know I was reading a book.. And it says we have to aquire a taste for booze. Actully we don't like it at first and that is why with mix drinks we have to cover up the taste with nice tasting things.. When I was mixing my H a drink I thought how awful it smelled.. It really is gross when you think about it..
God Bless, and once again Welcome!!!!!

 

[kanga22]

Welcome Marty and Darryl! Glad that you found this great place.

I liked your novel Norm. I needed a good cry this morning - gets the toxins out. Hey, whatever happened with your attempt to get back into the military?

I have a bit of advice this morning for people starting the process of recovery. Keep a journal. You don't have to write in it every day, or write anything in particular. But find a notebook that you can dedicate as your recovery journal. I wrote "My life now" on the front of mine so I know which one it is right away (I'm in college and have several notebooks going, lol).

Seriously, this journal has saved me so many times in the nine months I've been sober. Sometimes I feel good and think of celebrating, sometimes I'm sad and need a mini-vacation - all these times my first thought is to have a drink. So I have to go through my mantras; "I just won't drink today", "If I drink, I could lose myself forever this time", and I think about H.A.L.T. This is usually while I'm driving somewhere and considering a stop at the liquor store. Then, when I get home, I look at my journal to remind myself about how bad it was. That usually does it for me. You can't let your guard down, ever. Having safety nets in place is critical.

Sorry to preach. I'm done now. Hopefully I've said something helpful for someone. My name is Monica and I'm an alcoholic. God bless.

 

[meblonde]

Welcome Marty and Darryl! Glad that you found this great place.

I liked your novel Norm. I needed a good cry this morning - gets the toxins out. Hey, whatever happened with your attempt to get back into the military?

I have a bit of advice this morning for people starting the process of recovery. Keep a journal. You don't have to write in it every day, or write anything in particular. But find a notebook that you can dedicate as your recovery journal. I wrote "My life now" on the front of mine so I know which one it is right away (I'm in college and have several notebooks going, lol).

Seriously, this journal has saved me so many times in the nine months I've been sober. Sometimes I feel good and think of celebrating, sometimes I'm sad and need a mini-vacation - all these times my first thought is to have a drink. So I have to go through my mantras; "I just won't drink today", "If I drink, I could lose myself forever this time", and I think about H.A.L.T. This is usually while I'm driving somewhere and considering a stop at the liquor store. Then, when I get home, I look at my journal to remind myself about how bad it was. That usually does it for me. You can't let your guard down, ever. Having safety nets in place is critical.

Sorry to preach. I'm done now. Hopefully I've said something helpful for someone. My name is Monica and I'm an alcoholic. God bless.

Oh Monica. your not preaching.. you are stating facts. Helpfull suggestions.. And the are very much appreicated.
God Bless..

 

[justanobserver]

Welcome Marty and Darryl! Glad that you found this great place.

I liked your novel Norm. I needed a good cry this morning - gets the toxins out. Hey, whatever happened with your attempt to get back into the military?

I have a bit of advice this morning for people starting the process of recovery. Keep a journal. You don't have to write in it every day, or write anything in particular. But find a notebook that you can dedicate as your recovery journal. I wrote "My life now" on the front of mine so I know which one it is right away (I'm in college and have several notebooks going, lol).

Seriously, this journal has saved me so many times in the nine months I've been sober. Sometimes I feel good and think of celebrating, sometimes I'm sad and need a mini-vacation - all these times my first thought is to have a drink. So I have to go through my mantras; "I just won't drink today", "If I drink, I could lose myself forever this time", and I think about H.A.L.T. This is usually while I'm driving somewhere and considering a stop at the liquor store. Then, when I get home, I look at my journal to remind myself about how bad it was. That usually does it for me. You can't let your guard down, ever. Having safety nets in place is critical.

Sorry to preach. I'm done now. Hopefully I've said something helpful for someone. My name is Monica and I'm an alcoholic. God bless.

KANGA!!!!!!

Hey you!! its been a while!

howyadoin? you been missed 'round here. 9 months now! wow! I remember when you first posted here.

this is so cool to see you posting and know your doin good.

hey guess what? I went and got saved since the last time you posted here! aint that somethin?

I so endorce your suggestion about journals. It helps us I think in our walk in recovery, when there is a bump in the road, you can go back and read how you got over it before. See the progress over time. the strength gained, the inward growth and confidence.

On my computer, I have photos of me when I was at my worse and now and I keep them for my viewing and my reminder.

Monica - you can come and preach sobreity here any time you want!

it is good to "see" you again.

Hi, My name is Norm, a very happy recovering alcoholic!

 

[justanobserver]

I didnt know either that Celebrate recovery was started by Rick Warren of 'Purpose Driven Life' fame. I also saw there is a new Celebrate Recovery study Bible that looks really good.

Hey darryl - so how you doin?? things be cool?

your on my mind, brother.