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I wish there was a patent on guilt. Think of the money we could earn just splitting the shares!
Weird...just less than an hour ago...I shared with ~B I didn't really have anything to post here...now I'm wishing that would have stayed that way!
It's not even 9 a.m. and I'm thinking a numbing drink or some heavy duty seditives would work very well at this moment...
Lately (over last week or so) my h has been on a 'rampage'...he's the type of guy that holds everything in, and one day he is going to completely explode...my hope is it's not on me. The thing is when I was under the influence of anything this happening would not have bothered me a bit....unfortunately...at this time I'm terrified! See that honesty thing I hate...I would sooner be in denial and say this does NOT frighten me!
So there you go...1st time in a while I've wanted the numbing effects that alcohol brings.
Wendy
Hi.
I've been 'lurking' without posting, sometimes i feel like what is the point...
formykidsiwill said:Anyway, I am back with my ex husband. (my situation is complicated, and I don't have the energy to get into the entire story so bear with me) but together we have 5 children. My oldest biological son was 10 months when we married, his two were 2 and 4. Ironically, their Mother had died in a car crash one year before I met their Dad. (alcohol related) so my son's Dad had gone to prision, convicted under the habitual offender act, LIFE, with parole, so at the time (I was 18) I was looking for a Dad for my son, when I met this man, the one I am with now, it seemed perfect. Instant family, we both NEEDED each other. I didn't love him then, I did grow to love him, but I don't think I was ever IN love with him. (i'm not sure i KNOW what love is anymore)
formykidsiwill said:
My oldest son is a handfull. He has ADHD, and is even hard for me to tolerate, and I love him. He and my husband never got along. To make a long story short back in 2002 we divorced my son went to live with family, because of the strain between him and my husband, soon after we divorced. I fell apart. My Dad had died in 2000 (my best friend) and that's when my disease 'took me down'
Well, I just had another baby, and my oldest son came home to live, (they couldn't handle him anymroe) so I thought it would be best to get back with my ex. I DO love him, and I thought it would work.
MY oldest son's Dad's convicion was OVERTURNED!! I still love him, and have thougth all of these years about him and now I have a shot at making things work.
I am in the process of moving out. I have to know. I haven't been sneaking around seeing him, I have been talking to him. I am risking SO much. (security) but still, I have to know. I feel like this is such a gamble, and i've ran it by my sponsor, I've prayed. I dont' know what to do at times, because of the security. I just feel my heart is leading me to go ahead and move out. I know that the relationship may not work, but it's worth it to me to see.
SO that is what is going on, i'm not asking for advice because i and I alone have to make this decision, but ofcourse I'm posting on an open forum so anyone who feels led may comment.
Blessings,
B~
I'm at work...my safe haven. And because I can not live here...I must learn to live a life without alcohol and drugs.
Yesterday was the first time that I can remember such fear. The panic was real and scary...as seen, I did not know how to react.
Today is a better day. I saw my doc yesterday and told him of the situation and desire to 'numb' the fear... and other stuff that has been going on in my life. He was expecting at some point and time this 'period' in my life.
I do have a place to go should anything 'bad' happen at home. Since my h won't go for counseling, Alanon, or anger management....I will just have to wait and see.
Change the things I can............
Accept the things I can not change.........
I'll be making a list of which is which.
Wendy
well, one point is that some of us care about you and even if its just a quick "hi and bye" post - its better than not hearing nothing at all and wondering if your ok.
Its not for me to say yay, nay, good, bad, win, lose, cut bait or fish. You got a lot on your plate to deal with and I am the last one in this world qualified to tell you what on that plate to eat first!
I so do wish you all the best, wish to you all the wisdom for you to make the right desicions for you and yours, happiness and peace inside, and that no matter how crappy it gets out there, how bad it seems, you got some friends here that care and what happens with you, believe it or not is important to us. so, please dont disappear in the world of lurking only.
When I was first coming around AA I was given an audio tape of Terence T. Gorski on Addictive Relationships. It helped me to see some things about relationships that saved me a lot of potential heartache and helped define what it is that needs to be looked for in healthy, peaceful and loving relationships. It was an eye-opener from the way I used to think.
Unfortunately I have lost the recording but I see it available here: Why Love Goes Wrong In Recovery (Audio CD)
There are other books also that deal with the nature of love and attraction and are a good resource for many of us because we often need some education in that area of our lives also.
The 'main' relationship is God. (See first commandment). As a recovering alcoholic if God is not my main relationship I will not have another relationship worth having. That's been my experience anyway.I don't know if it's wrong or not...but my 'main' relationship is not top priority with me at this point and time...this will be info to look into tho.
Mat 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.Why is it that 'they' say (I've never really appreciated much that 'they' had to say) that you should take care of yourself first... and yet 'they' say all these other things one must do? Which is it? Take care of yourself 1st or deal with all this other stuff? Or do both at the same time?
A couple days past 4 months of coming out of the hell hole I was in.
A few 'slips', few bad choices later...and here I am!
Glad I have such a fiesty personality...I'm not giving up...this 'thing' is not going to beat me!!!
And I realize...I can not do this alone...
This new experience of experiencing things sober, is most of the times a great thing...the other times, something I will learn to 'work thru'
Wendy
The 'main' relationship is God. (See first commandment). As a recovering alcoholic if God is not my main relationship I will not have another relationship worth having. That's been my experience anyway.
Mat 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Taking care of self often involves doing these other things.
The most loving thing I did for myself was to surrender my will and life to God, cleaning up the wreakage of the past by forgiving and making amends to those I was angry and resentful towards.
It is not about a trip to the Bahamas for a month.
I'm glad your not giving up either!
The other habits one wouldnt think about till you sober up - one for example like how I would shop at the grocery store - I would go first to the hard liquor/wine section THEN the rest of the store, with automatically hitting the beer section as the last stop before check out lline. If I was limited in funds, then the priority was to booze, then food then sundries (tp, toothpaste, soap, etc). I always kept a case of beer on hand at all times.
One day at a time!!!
Not sure if these forums are active anymore, but i stumbled across them.
Anyway, i'm Alex, and yep. I'm an alcoholic and an addict.
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