I'm seeking advice from fellow Christians. I've been praying and reading the bible more and I have become convicted on changing habits in my life that were not good. I recently told my boyfriend that I think we should not continue to do certain things and save it for marriage. He told me understood and that he did not have a problem with it. He said he agreed. My question is it possible to continue a relationship that was not celibate and possible get married in the future? We have dated for 4 years I know some people say God's blessing probably will not be on this relationship. Has anyone been through the same thing?
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To be honest, no I havn't. But if you are happy and God has been blessing you during these years, I'd say just learn from it and move on. I really doubt that God would vindictively curse a relationship forever because it didn't follow the precise rules set for it by a church organisation, a less then perfect structure developed by people, rather than God.
I'd say just continue with your relationship with God and I wish you and your boyfriend all the best.
I'd say just continue with your relationship with God and I wish you and your boyfriend all the best.
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Are you saying that sex outside of marriage is instituted by the church and not God? You must be reading something other than The Bible, my friend because my Bible tells me that's wrong.
As for the original poster, I admire God that he has convicted you in this area of life. I've never been in this situation, so I cannot tell you anything from my own personal experiences. But do you and your boyfriend go to a local church anywhere? (I'm assuming both of you are Christians?) If so, talk to the pastor and get counsel from him or any other Bible believing Christian. Remember that accountability is this: Asking questions to stir the conscience; not accusations that will harden the will. You sound like you have a sincere desire to repent from this sin. I pray to God the best for you and your boyfriend, goldenlady. By the way, if you're boyfriend is not a Christian I would put an end to this relationship immediately. The Bible tells us that we are not to be yoked together with unbelievers.
Again, God bless you!
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Are you saying that sex outside of marriage is instituted by the church and not God? You must be reading something other than The Bible, my friend because my Bible tells me that's wrong.
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I wouldn't put it like that.
To clarify, I believe that marriage is clearly of God, and that a lifelong monogamous relationship between a man and a woman is the ideal situation for those who are not called to singleness.
Though I am slightly on my own on this one, I do not believe the Bible explicitly talks about the rights or wrongs of having sex with your partner before an actual church marriage service...so my point was, if two Christians are genuinely committed and are getting married anyway, there's no harm done.
Since I certainly believe people should be very committed before then though, and I definitely don't by any means think Christians should sleep with anyone other than there lifelong partner, so I think no sex before marriage is the best ideal to work to.
For situations like this though, these things happen, and it would be very sad for strict adherence to religous rules to spoil a really great relationship between two Christians.
I hope that makes sense.
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