This is my first time ever speaking on a forum, and I'm hoping this will work, any hoo, I just wanted to know if any one is in the same position as me; I have been SIng for 3 years, but havent talked to anyone who can help, things are really bad at the moment, and im really scared coz i'm a Christian youth worker, and I feel I should be able to sort this, also, I havent told any one that I still struggle with SI, and I hide it from my husband. Does anyone else feel this way?
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Not exactly, but I can share how i felt before I reached out for help. I have been cutting for about 5 years, 3 more regularly. During that time, I had no one to talk to, no one who understood. I was even in therapy for depression for 4 years before I told my therapist. Scariest thing I've ever done but also the best thing I've ever done for myself.
Si is by it's nature a "secret" most of us hide very well. It seems to me that the best way to start healing from it is to tell someone, find someone to talk to about your cutting. You need support! We here will help you and support you all we can, but it would also be helpful for you to have someone there, "in the flesh" to talk to. I read a really good book recently, THe Scarred Soul that talks about talking to people about our self harming. Might be good for you to read.
Please feel free to PM me anytime if you need to "talk"
You are in my prayers! TN
Si is by it's nature a "secret" most of us hide very well. It seems to me that the best way to start healing from it is to tell someone, find someone to talk to about your cutting. You need support! We here will help you and support you all we can, but it would also be helpful for you to have someone there, "in the flesh" to talk to. I read a really good book recently, THe Scarred Soul that talks about talking to people about our self harming. Might be good for you to read.
Please feel free to PM me anytime if you need to "talk"
You are in my prayers! TN
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Thanks for posting!! 
I really appreciate your honesty and openess in sharing with us. I would SO strongly encourage you to share this with your husband, I know that it is SOOOO scary and hard to allow those closest to you into this, but it really DOES help. He loves you, and I am sure he wants what is BEST for you. I am praying for you friend... keep seeking truth!!
I really appreciate your honesty and openess in sharing with us. I would SO strongly encourage you to share this with your husband, I know that it is SOOOO scary and hard to allow those closest to you into this, but it really DOES help. He loves you, and I am sure he wants what is BEST for you. I am praying for you friend... keep seeking truth!!
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Dear Emily the strange,
don't feel bad because you work with youth antone can be suseptible to si Ill pray for you does your husband suspect? Would he understand? Mitsy
don't feel bad because you work with youth antone can be suseptible to si Ill pray for you does your husband suspect? Would he understand? Mitsy
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Hi guys, thank you for your encouragement!
I dont know if he does suspect, i mean its kind of obvious coz we sleep in the same bed and I have marks on my arms and wrists! youd think he would have guessed by now.
But he hasnt said anything about it, well he asked what the scabs were from and I just changed the subject, he hasnt mentioned it since and that was weeks ago.
I dont know if he does suspect, i mean its kind of obvious coz we sleep in the same bed and I have marks on my arms and wrists! youd think he would have guessed by now.
But he hasnt said anything about it, well he asked what the scabs were from and I just changed the subject, he hasnt mentioned it since and that was weeks ago.
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Hi there this is mamalonglegs:
It is good to have you here in the forum where you can read other's posts and share your concerns and receive comments.
I want you to know there is a way out. It took me a long time to find it but I did. It means a lot of work, being honest, having someone who knows what their doing listen to you, validate what you have to say, challenge you, and for you to learn how to speak, to learn how to become comfortable with your feelings, and to know that S.I. is a choice that you make. You can choose to do something else instead.
One of the things I had to do when I went to a treatment center was to come up with 30 alternatives and keep those with me instead of a tool for S.I. Those alternatives are better company than a tool. I never feel embarrassed, depressed, angry with myself when I choose to do one of those instead of harming myself.
That is just one little tiny tid bit. Try it out. I will send a pm another day with more help for you.
mamalonglegs - a good listener
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Thank you for your encouragement momalonglegs.
I have just writen a letter to someone telling them about my si and stuff, im really scared and hope it gets lost in the mail!
I have just writen a letter to someone telling them about my si and stuff, im really scared and hope it gets lost in the mail!
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Everlasting33
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I am sorry to hear you have struggled with SI.
I struggled with it for several years and it is certainly can be overcome!
Please PM me if you need to!! I know how strong those urges can be at times.
I struggled with it for several years and it is certainly can be overcome!
Please PM me if you need to!! I know how strong those urges can be at times.
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HOLYROLLER71
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Hi Emily,I understand how you feel,I was recently delievered from SI,don't be down on yourself,even if you are a youth minister,God will and can heal you,no one is perfect and God has to do a work in all of us,don't give up.I suffered for 21 years,if you ever need to talk PM me,I'll keep you in prayer,may God Bless you and do a mighty move in you,Lord I ask that you bring healing to this siter,remove these desires in the name of Jesus,feel her with love,peace,and joy,I thank you for this sister in the name of Jesus,amen.
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Awe, thank you for your support. I finally told my husband! last night, he kind of figured it but it was nice to be honest with him. He still loves me, of course.
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chloeobrien
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I feel like I have to hide this from my fiance. If I hurt myself I feel like I have to try to find a place to hide it from him. I hope it helps to know you're not alone.
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