So I have been lurking for awhile now, and just wondered, why do we, the abused, get made to feel like we are the ones that did wrong.
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it is built into us and added to by the manipulation and maniplators of this world.
the built in guilt we have is just there. we weren't intended to deal with sin. sin, even out of innocence effects us with yuckie feelings. God created us for joy and holy purposes. somday all out tears will be washed away! God has placed His mark uopn our heads. we are blessed. the first fruits of creation. God has redeemed us. let's work on daily edifying eachother, daily building eachother up, daily giving our hurts to God to heal. our Father is loving and gentle. always there for us.
the built in guilt we have is just there. we weren't intended to deal with sin. sin, even out of innocence effects us with yuckie feelings. God created us for joy and holy purposes. somday all out tears will be washed away! God has placed His mark uopn our heads. we are blessed. the first fruits of creation. God has redeemed us. let's work on daily edifying eachother, daily building eachother up, daily giving our hurts to God to heal. our Father is loving and gentle. always there for us.
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MommyofanAngel said:
I don't know what happens to people when they hear you were raped. They instantly think gee what did YOU do?
I know a guy who was raped by his sister-in-law. It happens and men feel really really alone. If you tell the police they think, "you are a lucky guy why complain?"
Well, his sis-in-law was 13 years older than him. He was asleep in the other room and he awoke "in progress" his body was responding before he was even awake.
He told his mother and she screamed at HIM, told him to never talk about it, and asked him what he did to make it happen.
Kind of like killing the messanger. So, because we SAY it happened people freak at the event. I guess it the rapist went around having to talk about it, they'd be yelled at. Maybe its so awful people can't handle it.
Telling the right person is important. Tell someone with who you feel safe; A therapist, or a rape crisis center.
I am sorry you were not received well and lovingly.
It was NOT your fault. You do not have to feel dirty or wrong. You are the victim. Get away from people that make YOU feel guilty. YOU are NOT to blame.
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