He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

[Echoespeak006]

Oh, I agree with you, but even then I still think it comes down to communication (whether verbal or not). You're right - "stringing a person" is really a pain. At some point, an individual will have to shape up or ship out. If they can't do that, then you shouldn't be dealing with them.

I agree - there's nothing like communication for clearing things up in a relationship - any relationship.




No one in particular - anyone who needs to hear it, I guess. Myself, a few years back ... But I didn't see anything in your posts that indicated you needed to hear it, if that's what you were wondering ...

Oh, I was more amused than offended. It was more a rhetorical statement. ...and yeah, I've been there.

 

[Princess Pea]

Oh, I was more amused than offended. It was more a rhetorical statement. ...and yeah, I've been there.

Good - just had to make sure! I've been there too - that's why I can say all this stuff now. Experience certainly is an effective teacher, isn't it?

 

[Echoespeak006]

Good - just had to make sure! I've been there too - that's why I can say all this stuff now. Experience certainly is an effective teacher, isn't it?

Amusingly enough, so.

 

[brizyboy]

I am that type of guy... The thing is, sometimes your just not sure if the girl actually feels the same way you do. It often happens when you have known the girl for quite some time and you are afraid of losing the friendship.

Blond girls just seem to attract my attention more easily and if they have blue eyes added to that, well then I am fascinated, hehe.

I lost a few female friends when I told them how I felt. They felt like I had betrayed their trust and wiped me completely. I think the hardest thing is that when there aren't many "options", it is easy to put myself under pressure, ie: "if I don't play my cards right, and say something spectacular, how long before someone else comes along" - especially if they are hitting my "buttons". The "players" are good at it because they don't really care about anyone but themselves - they don't know what its like to be toyed with . Its an unfortunate fact that many people fall for them.

But I have come to realise, that the girl I will end up with will find me attractive (even if I do get tongue-tied). If they don't, then they're not the right girl and I don't need to doubt myself because of it.

 

[GrimWolf]

The "players" are good at it because they don't really care about anyone but themselves - they don't know what its like to be toyed with . Its an unfortunate fact that many people fall for them.

It never seizes to amaze me how a girl will tell you that she wants a man with all those loving attributes and then a week later she's hanging out with one of those scummy guys. It totally baffles me.

 

[brizyboy]

It never seizes to amaze me how a girl will tell you that she wants a man with all those loving attributes and then a week later she's hanging out with one of those scummy guys. It totally baffles me.

~Joe Jackson sings~ "Is she really going out with him?"

Hmmm, is there a similar song for the girls?

 

[Deliberatetourist]

It never seizes to amaze me how a girl will tell you that she wants a man with all those loving attributes and then a week later she's hanging out with one of those scummy guys. It totally baffles me.

Thats why they are players. I always said that if I were a sales manger I could stock my business with the best talent around. Just go out and recruit the biggest playboys in town. They are good about giving the females a perception of what they want until they get what they want - sex. And too many good women fall into the trap. THats because most of them have this "fairytale romance" complex and the players create the illusion that thats what they'll be getting. It may not look like that from the outside but remember you're not the one who's being played. Honestly I tried to be a player for only the goal of increasing my social standing. But I found that I was not a big enough creep and to succeed I would have to be patently unscupulous and have no concern for the women or their feelings. It's a double edged sword. If I succeeded in wiping out all conscience and morality then I could never experience the dual emotion and feelings that come with a deep intimate involvement with that person. A player will never get to that level becasue their personal lives are just a scorecard.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

~Joe Jackson sings~ "Is she really going out with him?"

Hmmm, is there a similar song for the girls?

Possibly three songs come to mind at the moment:

Devil Woman-Cliff Richard
Witchy Woman-Eagles
Evil Woman-ELO

Ironically, these were all recorded in the mid-70's....sign of the times, eh?

 

[HoosierCanuck]

players=sales

hmmmm....HC thinks that must be why there are so many used car lots in her town...... ;-0

 

[Princess Pea]

But I have come to realise, that the girl I will end up with will find me attractive (even if I do get tongue-tied). If they don't, then they're not the right girl and I don't need to doubt myself because of it.

Right on! That's why it's such a bad idea to try to act like someone you're not. You might become unrecognizable to the very person who would be perfect for you!

 

[jerseyfresh]

Tell that to Inara.

Firefly?

 

[Willtor]

Firefly?

You know it. But the quote is actually from Serenity.

 

[jerseyfresh]

You know it. But the quote is actually from Serenity.

I haven't seen Serenity yet. I still have a few more episodes to watch. I'm chuggin' along.

 

[Willtor]

I haven't seen Serenity yet. I still have a few more episodes to watch. I'm chuggin' along.

Good, good. Good to wait for the movie. It'll be all the sweeter.

 

[GrimWolf]

Serenity just makes more sense after you watched the Firyfly series. I quite enjoyed the Firefly series, it was good.

hmmmm....HC thinks that must be why there are so many used car lots in her town

Hehe, we have whole streets dedicated to second hand car lots...

 

[OhhJim]

I don't have 4 friends and am not coordinated enough to paint my toenails!

But, see, you paint each other's nails!

Do I have to explain how to be a woman to you?

 

[HoosierCanuck]

But, see, you paint each other's nails!

Do I have to explain how to be a woman to you?

LOL!!! I think my mum has asked me the same question! j/k! :-0

fingernails I could probably attempt but touching my friends' feet doesn't sound appealing! haha

 

[stormgade4]

Tell that to Inara.

I really like Firefly. I hear rumors of a season two being pay per episode on itunes.

 

[Willtor]

I really like Firefly. I hear rumors of a season two being pay per episode on itunes.

There are a lot of rumors. Not so much substance, methinks. I'd really be eager for somebody (like the SciFi channel) to pick up the rights to the show, though. But only if it gets a decent budget.