OhhJim said:
Aw, you're missing half the fun of the date! (Or even more than half, depending on how the date itself actually went.
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OhhJim said:Just like, after a first date, we don't get together with 4 friends, eat ice cream, paint our toenails, and overanalyze everything that happened on the date!
Princess Pea said:Aw, you're missing half the fun of the date! (Or even more than half, depending on how the date itself actually went.)
Willtor said:Granted, I haven't been on a date in a few years. But the thing I remember about coming home after the date was having a bunch of neglected coursework to do. Not to sound totally unromantic, but it never occurred to me to do analysis.
zmastah said:A good alternative to his rubbish is Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
brizyboy said:*Tune* I was looking back to see if she was looking back to see, if I was looking back to see if she was looking back at me...
Who hasn't been there?I reckon it is important to maintain your self respect. I'd prefer to be single than on a string - a choice I have made a number of times.
OhhJim said:Nah, guys don't read relationship books. Just like, after a first date, we don't get together with 4 friends, eat ice cream, paint our toenails, and overanalyze everything that happened on the date!
jehovahjira said:to tell ya the truth i heard women understand men better than we do lol now thats saying sumthing if it's true lol AMEN though cause GOD knows us better than we know ourselves i'm prepared to leave it at that
really dosen't cater for the shy sensitive guy who is head over heels but so nervous about picking up the phone for a date even though the girl is most likely feeling the same and hoping he will call
Echoespeak006 said:Uh who?
Willtor said:You said that if someone wants to spend time with you, they will find a way to do it. This sounded a lot like a line from a movie in which one of the characters responds with, "Tell that to Inara."
Echoespeak006 said:You know, in general, I think the fact that someone has even had to write a book called "He's Just Not That Into You." is kinda sad. I don't know if its a testament to poor communication skills, or exaggerated expectations or what, but I highly doubt that folks outside of the Western world spend this much time analyizing whether someone is into or not.
Echoespeak006 said:You know, in general, I think the fact that someone has even had to write a book called "He's Just Not That Into You." is kinda sad. I don't know if its a testament to poor communication skills, or exaggerated expectations or what, but I highly doubt that folks outside of the Western world spend this much time analyizing whether someone is into or not. I mean, you could always go for the no holds bar approach and ask them (with tact of course.) I bet it would save on ALOT of confusion. And, even for the shy individual, they will find it in their own special way to get the word out.
Echospeak006 said:I think he skimmed that book , and some of things in their just seemed like no-brainers. If someone WANTS to spend time with you, they will find a way to do it.
Princess Pea said:Again, haven't read the book ...but I don't think it's addressing the scary "approach and ask" stage of a relationship that's so difficult for shy folks. I think it's addressing situations where a couple has already had at least one date. The initial shyness is no longer a factor, but one of them starts behaving as if they could take or leave the other person. Like, "We both had a really good time on our date, and he said he'd call, and I said I'd look forward to that, but it's been a week and I haven't heard from him. Maybe he just lost my phone number." Or "My girlfriend has been too busy to see me for four weeks. I thought maybe I'd get to see her today, but she said she really needs to wash her hair." Asking, like you suggested, is a great idea, but there's such a thing as stringing a person along too. Even a busy person ought to find a few minutes each day to pick up the phone and call the object of their affection. Sometimes actions speak louder than words, you know?
Yeah ... well, as they say, denial ain't just a river in Egypt ... people ignore all kinds of red and yellow flags when they want badly enough for a relationship to work.
Echoespeak006 said:Oh, I agree with you, but even then I still think it comes down to communication (whether verbal or not). You're right - "stringing a person" is really a pain. At some point, an individual will have to shape up or ship out. If they can't do that, then you shouldn't be dealing with them.
Echoespeak006 said:Who are you telling.
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