Here's a new one for ya...

[desi]

JC don't sweat it. If a woman says no to a guy she thinks is cute and listens to on the radio, she's damaged goods. Better for you to learn it now than later after wasting time and money taking her on a few fruitless dates. The classy thing to do here is thank her for her honesty which saved you both some time as your personalities are obviously not compatible, and no matter how atrracted you may be to each other beauty is only skin deep.

 

[Stanfi]

if you don't like, like someone. DON'T FLIRT!

End of story

JC,

Something that I have experienced is that many times a girl would just have a nice personality. By that I meant that she is generally nice and kind to everyone she meets. Many times she will also be very affectionate naturally. Smiling alot at you, making eye contact, touching you and things. Girls see this as just being kind. Guys view it as flirting. I've experienced myself, Oh she smiled at me, hung on every word I said, and kept touching me on the hand, and knee. She must really like me. Uh no, she's just that way.

Being a guy I know this sucks, but you just have to accept it and move on. If that girl wasn't romatically intrested in you, then that just means that there is another one out there who is. Life is to short to cry over spilled milk.

 

[desi]

JC check out The Lover's Resolution by George Wither.

 

[ummidrinkcherrycoke]

Christian women make ME crazy.

 

[wvmtnkid]

*Mod Hat On*

Let's please not turn this thread into a slam on woman. JC101FM has been given some good advice, as have all of us, in this thread. If this is a rant, fine, but we don't need to tear down either of the sexes. Warrior Poet had a good suggestion. If you need just to vent without feedback, go start a journal. But, do not use this as a way to slam another gender. I have allowed the thread it to go on because there has been some good comments. If it turns into a general slam, I will close it.

*Mod Hat Off*

 

[enslow]

If she finds me attractive and we get a long great...this means she's crazy.

That was one of the most respectful ways I've ever heard a woman saying 'no'. Just because one finds a person attractive and appears to get along, she may know of other reasons why going out might be poor idea.

I'd return her generosity and thank her for her honesty.

Enslow

 

[Buskanaka]

i think sometimes girls (and guys probably, although i have no experience with that...) can be too nice when saying no, i would rather be just told flat out "no i dont like you" than "youre a nice guy, but i dont want a relationship yet", it's easier to get over and you can stop wondering whether something might happen in the future

 

[enslow]

i think sometimes girls (and guys probably, although i have no experience with that...) can be too nice when saying no, i would rather be just told flat out "no i dont like you" than "youre a nice guy, but i dont want a relationship yet", it's easier to get over and you can stop wondering whether something might happen in the future

I'd say she did pretty much come out and tell him. She also told him that what he had done was very flattering. That should tell him he's doing something right, but she's just not the one. If some girl had told me flat out that she just didn't like me, I'd wonder what I'd done to make her not like me.

JC, I wish I had your guts and creativity!

Enslow

 

[Job24]

I think that she did a good thing for not embarassing you on your show but she was bit harsh and did not have to same some of the hurtful things she said. I mean "I dont find you attractive" what is the point of saying that. give me a break...she is a bit crazy but hey we christians are a bit in touch with our emotions and sometimes we are a bit whacky

 

[standard]

"However I'm tired of dating."

Mismatched expectations, different wavelengths here.
Dating is the wordly thing. It is all meaningless, and fluff. I haven't done it in a decade. Doesn't mean my life is poorer because of that.

 

[stubbornkelly]

Oy vez. The woman was straight with you. She might not have told you what you wanted to hear, but her e-mail sounds honest and straightforward. Sometimes it isn't as simple as, "I don't like you" or "I'm not attracted to you."

 

[standard]

Not to mention that every time you ask someone, you face the possibility of rejection!!

It is not a certain thing!

Which is why 'asking out' is a men's thing, we supposedly can handle this blow to our ego better.

Although to be perfectly honest, rejection was one of the key reasons why I stopped 'asking out' and 'dating' whatever that means completely.

 

[Purpletigy]

Sweetie, don't take her "no" is about you... it may not be about you at all, but about her. You also have to take into account that she might have prayed about it first, and God told her no. Is she crazy for following what God wanted? No one knows her heart and what she might be going through or what God has said, or even why he said it. Whatever it might be, she saved you from being a potential emotional dumping ground by telling you that she's not in a position to date. Count your blessings and realize that God has the right woman for you. It's in HIS timing, and if she's the one, she'll be back in due season. Don't assume the worst.

 

[goodgirl]

call me crazy, but I think posting an email from someone else -- those are normally held to be private communications -- is pretty disrespectful. Adding the headline "y'all are crazy" and using her correspondence with you as evidence -- that's reason enough for a lot of women to say no to you.

Not flaming you... just think you should be more considerate. Maybe the girl was onto something. Maybe this radio thing wasn't the first time you've made her feel exposed and vulnerable. First rule of love is to make the other person safe. If her well-being and feelings don't matter to you, then you shouldn't have asked her out to begin with.