Here's a new one for ya...

[JC 101 FM]

I haven't had that much experience with single Christian women. So far my conclusions are...Jesus has made you all crazy.

For example...

To impress a woman I had met, Instead of calling her up and asking her out. I felt asking her out on a date through my radio show would be something she would remember for the rest of her life (I work in christian radio) She agreed to be on the program, but didn't know the reason. I called and got her machine as she was listening and knew what I was up to. She instead wrote me this e-mail the next day...

I'm feeling bad about what happened. I know it is probably no big deal to you if I said yes or no.

But I'm having a hard time shaking the feeling of feeling bad. I just want you to know I did not answer the phone because I was trying to consider your feelings more than making good radio.

Wednesday night I was both very flattered and yet shocked at the same time. I did think it was a really cool thing for you to do. Can't say I have ever had anything like that happen to me before.Listening to you on the radio, you said you met and a girl and we kind of hit it off. Just to let you know incase you think you mis read things, I do find you attractive. So you would have read that correct.However I'm tired of dating. And if I think the person is not a compatible match for my personality, than I don't like to waste their time or my own. I like to be up front and honest so no one gets hurt.

I hated having to say no the other night. It would have been fun to say yes, and going on a date would have been fun too I'm sure.

I hope this does not make it awkward to see each other at church. And I hope you know I'm NOT the kind of person that gets off on rejecting someone. I find it hard and I sometimes rather being on the other end of it than having to do it.

...you're all crazy I tell ya!

 

[vibrant]

if she were really crazy, she wouldn't have sent you such a detailed explanation of why she rejected you.

crazy would be giving you the silent treatment and expecting you to know what made her uncomfortable.

 

[JC 101 FM]

If she finds me attractive and we get a long great...this means she's crazy.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Not necessarily. She says she just doesn't want to date. Maybe that means forever or maybe that means for just a bit. I don't know since she didn't give the reason she was tired of dating. She could have slammed you on the air, now couldn't she? But she didn't. It sounds like she wanted to spare your feelings but she also wanted to let you know what was going on with her. Sounds like she is being very mature and dealing with you in a mature fashion. Perhaps if you continued to be her friend and respect her decsion, that decsion just might change down the road.

 

[JC 101 FM]

that's crazy talk!

 

[vibrant]

* notices a trend with jc's comments.
* starts thinking that us girls aren't all that crazy.

 

[ZiSunka]

She obviously was trying to spare you the embarssment of being turned down on the radio for everyone to hear.

It was your idea of romantic to ask her out that way, but obviously not her idea of romantic.

Count your blessings that she didn't just say yes to see how she would sound on the radio, or because you have a radio show of your own.

She's not crazy for turning you down, you acted crazy by turning your asking into a media event. It smacks of publicity stunt more than romantic gesture.

 

[Stanfi]

Trust me JC, that girl did the right thing. Be thankful that she took the time to explain her feelings, and why she did what she did. There is nothing worse than not knowing why someone rejects you. She was upfront and honest with you. Be thankful, that she did not string you along for months, making you think she wanted something when she didn't, leaving you crushed in the end.

Trust me, I've been in that situation, and it IS NOT fun. The girl told you the truth, an didn't drag her feet for months or weeks doing it. I wish a girl that I knew recently would have had enough sensitivity towards me to have done the same. Much less damage in the long run.

If you don't believe me now.. you will some day.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

If she finds me attractive and we get a long great...this means she's crazy.

either that or she's trying to let you down easy. Some people have a hard time saying "no", they feel guilty or something.

 

[ej]

either that or she's trying to let you down easy. Some people have a hard time saying "no", they feel guilty or something.

You got it... that's what I'd do.

(iklepac knows women well )

 

[Stanfi]

either that or she's trying to let you down easy. Some people have a hard time saying "no", they feel guilty or something.

This is true.. I've seen it also. Don't like it myself. I prefer a straight yes or no. Not a "I like you but............................"

That's just me. I guess the girl is just trying to be a nice a she can.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I think you should just get rid of all the details and focus on the facts. You asked her out, she said no, time to move on.

Her methods may not be the best, but not giving you the answer you want doesn't mean there's some fault in her.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Dude you are the one who is crazy...what were you hoping that on air she COULDNT turn you down? That is not only low but crazy in and of itself. That may have be presummtious of me but so is you calling women crazy. You got shot down...dont be bitter. There are a lot of women that i fid attractive that on a date i KNOW i would have fun with...but all in all we most likely would go seperate ways, not wasting your time or hers is called being smart. You should thank her rather then call her crazy.

Warrior Poet

 

[Katty]

I haven't had that much experience with single Christian women. So far my conclusions are...Jesus has made you all crazy.

For example...

To impress a woman I had met, Instead of calling her up and asking her out. I felt asking her out on a date through my radio show would be something she would remember for the rest of her life (I work in christian radio) She agreed to be on the program, but didn't know the reason. I called and got her machine as she was listening and knew what I was up to. She instead wrote me this e-mail the next day...



...you're all crazy I tell ya!

*wonders if I should take this personal* I'd like to think of myself as a Christian woman... and that I'd still attract a good Christian man.. but ok, so she turned you down... honesty IS the best policy. Sorry buddy but an attitude like that isn't gonna spur something in the relationship realm.

~Katty~

 

[DaveKerwin]

JC 101,

You ought to thank her for being straight with you, a rare quality in a woman, to tell you frankly what is up. I would not give up on her yet if i was you, assuming she is a good woman to begin with. By the way, if you understand a woman's emotions, you will understand who she is and why she does what she does.

 

[JC 101 FM]

if you don't like, like someone. DON'T FLIRT!

End of story

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I'm thinking this thread was meant to be a rant, not a discussion.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Thats why we can each have our own journals on here to do just that .

101 FM: Then live by your own words my friend. Future referance.

Warrior Poet

 

[Katty]

if you don't like, like someone. DON'T FLIRT!

End of story

Sorry JC, and I feel fer ya, but still... chill out. I'm sorry that happened.

~Katty~

 

[Hopeful]

if you don't like, like someone. DON'T FLIRT!

End of story

lol, awww...