Helplessness

[Goldie Lox]

Has anyone ever felt aboslutely helpless in the search for a soul mate? I am absolutely exhausted and I feel like there is noone out there for me.

Im sorry I am terribly depressed lately.

Has anyone else felt this way?

 

[explodingboy]

Just got out of a fairly horrible 2 and something year long relationship.

Right now looking is the last thing on my mind, as I address my somewhat horrible choice in ladies right now.

 

[Wedjat]

Has it crossed your mind that you're only 22?
You have plenty of time.

 

[Goldie Lox]

^See I used to think that way but all of my friends are married and having children and every guy that I end up with is always horrible and misleading.

Sometimes I wonder if I am destined to be alone

 

[Wedjat]

Well I have some personal beef with belief in fate but I'm not going to go into that.

Don't resign yourself to anything. As soon as you accept that you'll be alone forever you will be, so the thing to do is to live in the present. Life is chaotic and sometimes you have to go with the flow to truly live it. Sometimes people find love on their first try, sometimes it takes a while, everybody's experience with life is different. Your friends lives are nothing to judge your own on, just take the chances that come, and if you're not liking the ones you get, you have to make some of your own.

Just please, don't resign yourself to loneliness.

 

[E.C.]

Have you ever tried to enjoy being single?

 

[explodingboy]

Have you ever tried to enjoy being single?

because having a snuggle buddy is more fun than being single.

 

[scuba_mikey_pc_2008]

Yes I do feel helpless and lonely sometimes being single, espeically as like you, all my mates seem to have girl friends and everyone is getting married. I guess I feel more helpless in the sense that I've never really met the right Christian girl. What makes it worse is trusting God and knowing that He has my life planned out and not knowing if or whom he has planned for me to end up with. Though it's a scary prospect, I offer it all to God!

I will pray that you stay strong in your faith and remember that God is in control. While I agree that single life sucks sometimes, it isn't all bad and like others have said, you shouldn't have to feel that you've got to throw yourself at the first guy that comes along. Be patient, pray and let God take control.

 

[lovelyashley]

I used to feel that way about being single, but anymore, I embrace it. It is completely 100% possible to be happy AND single! Just pray that God brings a man into your life when the time is right in HIS plan. =)

 

[explodingboy]

sometimes you just have to wait for the right man to come along with the rest of us.

 

[peacefuldreamer]

I can relate. Sometimes I mope because I don't have a boyfriend, then I realize it isn't a big deal. It's better to wait for the right guy than to settle on someone. Be patient with God's plan (easier said than done, I know!)

 

[Krystabelle]

Being 22, that's young for one thing. Another being you need to love yourself first. Have you been doing that lately? I mean, if we're never content being single, how'd we be any happier being attached?

I have desperate friends and quite honestly I find them annoying sometimes. They believe that they are only complete with a significant other. In my point of view, that's rather selfish. How could we expect to be with someone just to make ourselves happy? A relationship requires responsibility, true love cares more about the other than about ourselves.

Learn to be happy single. A significant other doesnt completes you, they compliment you. Won't you want to compliment someone with your unique God-given personality and spirituality?

See when God made Adam he never asked for a mate. He was happy single. It was God who suggested that Adam needs a wife. He will provide, no hurry

And while waiting, have you ever thought you longing for someone is very much like God longing for you? Spend some time with your first love Jesus. Remember seek first the kingdom of God and ALL THESE will be added to you.